hi all, this is gonna be a long post..
i lost my boy last month at 22w5d.. it’s not been easy everyday as i miss his kicks and can’t forget how small and fragile he felt in my arms as my husband and i said our goodbyes.
everything happened so suddenly as all my scans and tests were fine including oscars and the 20wk scan. went to see my gynae at tmc becos of some discharge and was told it was yeast infection, tho i felt that the discharge was not as thick or whitish like a normal yeast infection, i believed i shld be fine since she has checked me below. also told her tat i have some cramps at the vaginal which she also assured me it’s normal. went back to her one wk later since the discharge were still there and she was abt to send me off after inserting another pill for the yeast when i told her i experienced some cramps again the day before and insisted she checked. and that was the start of my nightmare. i was already 2cm dilated and she could see my water bag. was immediately administered progesterone orally and thru jab and admitted to tmc. was den advised by my gynae to trf to KKH as class C becos if my baby was to make it to 24w, it would need nicu and it’s $2k/day in tmc. so after 2 nites in tmc i trfed to KKH which was a total mistake.
from the moment i arrived NONE of their medical staff gave me hope and the feeling that they were there to help. instead, they kept repeating tat they would only resuscitate the baby if he is 24wks etc.. i was sent to the delivery ward directly and one moment the senior consultant and her whole team of new MOs were there checking ultrasound and even the dilation despite my objection (had been checked too many times which is not advisable), as soon as i started vomiting they cleared the room! did not even bother to call a nurse to help me clean up! i delivered my baby the following morning and they told me they would send my placenta for test.
went back to KKH for review and was told the placenta tested positive for acute chorioamnionitis, which is likely the cause for the MC, however, they also can’t rule out IC becos i was already dilated when i first saw them. was then told tat for the next pregnancy, they would refer me to the high risk team at KKH. my gynae at tmc also said the same thing tat if i were to go back to her, i would be monitored closely and on hosp leave from wk12 onwards..
i’m very lost rite now as i can’t move on without knowing wat caused the MC.. also super worried abt my next pregnancy if i’m really having IC.. any ladies have similar experience to share? would u recommend seeing the high risk team at KKH or do u have other private drs specializing in high risk pregnancies such as IC to recommend? i really need a third opinion and the directions on how to manage the next pregnancy...