Cheeka: the problem is definitely not you, im sure ur dh still finds you attractive. I went thru the same thing. The months before we strike was quite a roller coaster for us. My dh also had performance issues, he will lose his erection halfway thru. And everytime we bd, we worry it will happen again and it did, again n again. He also lose interest in bd. I was very upset, crying all the time. I also think if he finds me unattractive.
My dh assured me the prob is him not me. After that we realised its his health. Back then he often had indigestion n bloating n pain in stomach after meal, saw the gp, sinseh, get referal letter to specialist, went for scope etc.... He even ask the sinseh abt it n sinseh say discomfort in stomach will affect performance... After tat he took his medication dutifully, have lots of rest n sleep n recovered. Once his health issue went away, performance issue also gone.
So check if ur hubby has been feelinh unwell recently, or stress, not enough rest. Most impt is must ve enough rest n sleep i feel.