Mumztan, I had a hard time initially with my 20mth tot & newborn. There was the jealousy issue, both needing attention at same time, the crying orchestras, the unintentional bullying by #1. And I'm usually alone with them for few hours a day when #1 home from cc n hb not home yet. It's been 4mths n the elder one is coping better with the baby now. I feel guilty sometimes that I've to let her wait, cry or play alone while I attend to baby. Likewise I feel guilty to let baby cry n cry while I attend to #1. But what to do? I can't clone myself. So I try to make it up to them by spending more quality time together with either of them when one's asleep or hubby takes care of one kid.