Minnie, since your mom gets too used to indo lifestyle with maids, better don't ask for help. Especially since she is old already.
My mom is 58 last year, becoz it's my 2nd child, she doesn't really help out.
I have a maid but my FIL makes me afraid saying newborn baby if maid a bit scary.
So in the end I took care of my baby myself, bathe her since 1 day old even becoz I only stay 1 day in hospital.
I got blue black piles but it does not seem to make my mom to stay and help. She just go shopping almost everyday with my sister. Until she is down with flu and does not help with baby at all.
It was so painful my last confinement I feel like do no confinement at all. In the end I always down with flu/cough once every month even until now. Not sure if it was the cause.
My husband only took 3 days leave and doesn't work from home anymore
My elder kid only 20 mth old that time and my maid only 5 mths in my house so she still keeps bothering me when I want to sleep.
My mom even let my elder kid to go inside the baby room to disturb my sleep becoz my elder kid said want to sleep with me.
I am actually okay if I do not have the piles! It was so painful. Some more I total breastfeed. Everytime I change my baby diaper I need to walk to the toilet to wash hand first before feed her.
Then everyday still got my mom and maid ask me what to cook for the next day.
I think this time around I will just order confinement catering for myself and let my husband choose what to cook next day lor!
Also I think maybe I did not heat myself much last confinement as I avoid eating ginger or eat very very little ginger. Never took any wine/dom even though I have lots of them in my cupboard
That's why I think will just order confinement catering at least I will just eat and won't feel guilty if I eat too much ginger and caused my baby to have breastfeeding jaundice. huhu..