haiza, if leaking is just a bit I think is ok to leave it alone.
But do call ur gynae to check. I don't think you should pump uh...
bliss_ling, not saying what ur hb did was right but I think ur hubby might be feeling stressed (could be at work which he might not have told you). Sometimes, man act like caveman. They go out chiong at work, come home they dont bitch/talk like woman to vent it out. They just want to be left alone (like caveman, go to the cave and sleep/do their own stuff). I not sure how many times ur hb has flared up like that (consistently or is it in recent days). Although many mummies here say there is emotional scar, I feel that it is important now that we bring the child out of it. Explain to the child why it has happened (she may be young but her understanding of things cannot be underestimated). Try not to remind her by asking her constantly if she was locked up in the dark room (u know each time someone ask, she "re-lives" that moment).
With regard to the milk thing, is ur gal still drinking from milk bottle? If yes, I suspect she just want to suckle from the bottle for comfort (not becos she is hungry). All I can suggest is instead of giving milk, why not offer her something else - like a biscuit. Talk to her, cuddle with her before her nap.
I know how difficult it can be, sometimes my hb will also bo tin tin flare up. Usually he is the "good guy" and will go with my daugter's whims and fancies. But when he flares up, he is quite extreme. I am the "violent" partner (between me and my hb), I will not spare the rod (yup I used the "tin-tiao" on her before). I will nag, I will do what it takes for dicipline. Usually after the "tin-tiao" session, she gets an explainantion from me to complete the cycle. So she knows why she kena and where she went wrong. I guess for the diciplinarian, it's just a thin line between what is good for the child (to get the discipline u wan) and what we should just let go (open and close one eye).
