Thanks for all your suggestions. Although I know very well about the other possible options, I am glad to be able to have a chance to hear your thoughts on these. I agree that parents/in laws are not obligated to look after our children. But I feel that as families, we should help one another if in need, wat are families for, I would do the same too if I can assist. So its disheartening to know that my mil can help, but find excuses not to help, she ever told us to consider finding a nanny. To me, her remarks came across as blant as she would rather her grandchild being looked after by a stranger. I am not asking her to help us forever. Although my dh managed to convince her to “try” out first, I am really worried she would back out after I deliver. Leaving my bb to a stranger is heartpain and really the last option but I guess if my husband or I still want to continue to work, I do not have a choice. We are already facing the financial constraint with a 3rd one coming and if one of us quit, I cannot imagine.
Maid: I heard a lot of maids’ horror stories. I think I will end up looking after the 4th person. If I hire a maid, then my mil has to come here everyday coz we dun live near each other. I cannot leave a maid alone with the bb even for a second.
IFC: There is a high demand so I doubt there is anymore vacancies but I could try. But the IFC are far away, so without a car, it makes it even harder to choose this option.
Husband: He wanted this 3rd bb and said his mum would surely help us. So if his mum changed her mind, then he would need to quit, lol. N that also means he cannot provide for his mother.
Me: I am the last option.
jingles:
Sorry to hear about what u went through. I forgot... who will be looking after your bb? Its your 1st bb rite? My kids are in ccc already. My only headache is this bb inside me.
