since today's topic is on SIL, i wanna share my story about mine. she is 3 yrs younger than hubby and i and very estranged from the family. to my PILs, hubby is the only child they have 'cos SIL really, truly is a disappointment to them. here are some occasions i heard/witnessed myself:
1. during CNY
FIL drove all of us to m'sia for reunion and celebrations. we took with us a lot of CNY goodies from SG and also our luggage. the whole car was packed full. upon arrival at the relatives' place, my SIL went ahead to grab her bag 1st from the boot, causing the mandarin oranges to tumble down. my hubby and FIL got a bit upset and asked why she was so selfish, took care of her own things and didn't remove what was in the way first. she came up with some excuses (can't remember what). my FIL also stubborn man, although wld have stopped 'scolding' if SIL had said sorry and helped with the rest. but SIL also one kind, like to quarrel with FIL. end up shouting match outside the relatives' house and everyone stood ard watching lor! SIL cried and hit my hubby!! she cried like a baby, screamed at FIL and hubby but everyone saw that it was her who started the whole commotion. really very ugly scene. throughout the entire CNY, i hardly saw her speaking to my PIL and hubby.
2. Hitting FIL
can't remember when this happened, i think 2 yrs ago bah. dunno what's the detail also. i think over some money issue like she needed to borrow $$ from FIL (she always borrows but nv returns) but FIL not willing to lend her or something like that. end up argue, then quarrel, then she suddenly slapped FIL! that one ultimate... i was at their place and abt to go home that evening and witnessed everything lor. think my FIL really heartbroken.
3. Other small things
she treats my MIL like a maid. my MIL has had knee replacement before and her other knee hurts her a lot when she walks so she has to limp. when MIL asks her to help bring out the rubbish, SIL will act dumb, like nv hear. when MIL needs to mop floor asks her to help her bring out the heavy pail of water, SIL continues sitting in front of tv and act dumb also, even saying that she's not free. i get very pek chek when i hear about this! and not once, many, many times already... another time (recently), she ordered KFC delivery for herself, nv ask PILs if they want any dinner. after she is done with her meal, there was one chicken wing left in the box, mixed together with all the skins and leftover bones. she asked FIL if he wanted the chicken wing! idiot also can see that she didn't purposely left the wing for FIL cos it was mixed up with all her leftovers, so gross right? her motive is to let FIL clean up the table for her. she is THAT lazy and always let MIL do the cleaning up after her. even her cup of Milo need someone (grandma) to make for her and wash up for her. i have NEVER seen her doing any housework at home.
my PILs told me that she's like that because MIL left her in the care of the paternal grandma, who didn't teach her well. hubby was taken care of by MIL herself, so grew up more 'normal'. surprisingly, SIL is very active in SOCIAL WORK. she visits old folk's homes, children's homes and is active in alot of voluntary works. was even nominated by the national dunno-what-thing for outstanding young person award (something like that lah) and given award by the MP! cannot believe it lor...i
there are so many other things that she did which made the whole family very upset with her. so much so that it has become a vicious cycle. meaning, my hubby and PIL already expected the worse from her. and SIL also won't expect PILs to be nice to her. last time they'd still ask her if she wants dinner etc, now no more. they always say they can't wait for her to get married and move out, the further the better.
that's why to my PILs, hubby is the only son. whenever my hubby asks them for something, they will give without hesitation. but if SIL asks for anything, even $50, FIL will nag and nag abt it to hubby and i. but thankfully hubby is very filial towards them. every week dinner with them, talk to them etc. we also have plans to have them move in with us 5 yrs later, after we sell our flat and buy bigger one.
sorry arh.. such a loooong post. but i thought can share with you all. some of you deal with jealous, buay gam guan SILs. mine doesn't affect me directly, but she always breaks her family's heart.