bebe, tks for ur comfort, this kind of husband and wife relationship is "jiang qi lai yi pi bu na me chang" u chinese teacher sure know what I'm saying haha.
Anyway tks bebe and carol for listening and sharing.
cactus,
my #1 slept in the cot and even migrating him to another room, he is still in the cot so he doesn't need to open door to come out coz he can't. If he has night mare or woke up for any reasons, he will cry or and we will hear him. Don't need monitor because rooms are close to each other. If they need u sure cry loud enough for u to hear them.
When #2 came, he slept with bro by 4th mth. Though got a maid then, she slept in her own room. I'm a possessive mum, I don't allow maid to sleep in the same room as my children.
Yes if one cries, the other may be affected, it takes a while but soon both will learn to adapt to each other in the same room.
When #2 inherited the cot, bro slept on bed with bed guard and by then he knew how to open door coz already 2+.
About training them to sleep independently,
it was a big problem coz they have always been falling asleep on their own (nap time) so they are pretty used to a room with nobody. So before we put them to bed, would be in the room telling them a bedtime story, then we kissed them goodnight, say a prayer, have a nightlight on and just left the room.