famela >> the sling has a "front" and a "back" right? so sit down and try to get yr babe to cross her legs and sit facing you. i did that by carrying her under her armpits (be sure to support neck - this method of carrying taught by astro) and lift her, gently place her down and usually quite auto, they can sit cross legged..on the centre, inside of the sling..once that is done, i cradle her close to the chest and begin tightening the front and the back until u get the desired effect. i really liked the feeling of the babe so close...ha! she rooted quite a few times and the sling became wet at the most unruly of places...beyond that, no complaints. shopped for nearly 4 hrs and I wasn't tired. hands-free..plus the sling didn't "slide" or "give way" once..audrey slept in it, took in the sights, played peek-a-boo with my hb all while sitting cross legged...i checked her when i finally took her out and she seemed completely fine. so i'd rate this purchase a must-have together with the nursing shawl. haha, might as well throw in the tommee tippee...and that sling u have is really stylish! i can see why u love it!