(2009/09) September 2009 MTBs

mama to 6Js: hmm! u oso noe e patchwork dress! keke.. tat's my fav fr baby Gap so far.. imagine little girl wearing that and a white short cardigan.. so cute!! i tink ur gal would look lovely in it!!

milkway: wa.. got 2 khaki in e TMC class!! good good.. btw i saw e Mrs Wong when i went TMC to pay $.. boy, she's loud! she speaks v loudly i mean.. keke

btw, for 0-3 mths, where can i buy those short rompers to chin chai wear at home? 5 short sleeved rompers enough? then night time wear PJs?
 


weight update: wow, surprisingly aft 1 day of eating n eating, my weight shot from 47 - 48.8kg.. wow.. after 1-2 days..
 
mamato6js,
Thank you..its hard to explain sigh..

my package with the gynea i jus notice only on 2D scan, does u all the same? or got 3D
 
girlygirly > Hahaha! Our entire family shaved our heads during "Hair For Hope 2008" lah! Otherwise I am too vain to shave off all my hair lor! That's why until now I keep complaining about my stupid short hair. WHY IS IT GROWING SO SLOWLY?!?

You can see our entire family with botak heads here: http://www.flickr.com/photos/shelly/2641740323/

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The guy in specs is my uncle.
 
urghh... can someone please guide me this time...

during 1 mth confinement...how many days later can we bathe??? and each time we bathe must bathe with herbs right?? what herbs is it?? can buy from where?? hair can wash anot?? how often and after how many days??
 
rach / girly,

my #1 sleep in the same room with us, and still can make #2 lah... haha just that sometimes, the 'noise' will cause her to move... at times i gotta pat her sleep and then continue with my hubby.. haha spoil our mood oso haha
 
shelled

hahaha...so cute!! i mean esp ur boy...bt it really takes a lot of courage b4 one takes that move...even if it's for a gd cause...u know esp when ur hair is so long...

ur boy so chubby...i luv chubby babies...me perverted...when see chubby babies/kids, ai yo gt urge to bite them leh...
 
shelled,
so cool! i doubt i'll dare to shave my hair.

princess,
can't help you on that. i started bathing the next day after giving birth, and bathed/washed hair up to three times a day (depending on how sticky i felt) within the first two months after giving birth.

flower4,
my gyn visit today was exactly the same as yours. i visit NUH O&G, so all my visits i get to see different gyns, but today's gyn was the most indifferent one i've ever seen (comparing also with visits for the first pregnancy 2 years ago). this morning i told him abt my eczema condition, and asked if i could get calcium pills since i tried to stop taking milk two weeks back to see if it would help relieve the condition. he advised me to go to my usual dermatologist at the skin centre for my eczema, and didn't want to discuss the eczema issue with me anymore. he also didnt want to prescribe calcium pills, as according to him "99% of pregnant women do not lack calcium". he asked if my gums bled when i brushed my teeth, and since the ans is no, i prob don't need additional calcium as he checked that i ate green veg and tofu in my diet. wah ... i can't believe his answers. anyway i went to google him after the visit. apparently he teaches a generic module in NUS about O&G matters. i think he must be quite an experienced gyne who has seen a lot of problem preg cases, that's why he's so indifferent to me cos my questions and problems must seem very minor/minute to him. anyway, just hope that i don't get to see him again for my future visits.
 
princess

can't rem if it's after 12days...ur confinement will know...anyway i've always ordered fr 1 chinese medical hall after i gave birth...juz give them a call and tell them i need all the necessary for confinement and they will prepare... juz need to get hub to collect...

fr ingredients to prepare longan red-dates tea, tonics to consume for the whole of confinement mth to herbs for bathing...all prepared and indicated on the pkts when to cook (for the tonics)

bt they are in Bt Batok lor...

when u can bathe liao means can wash hair also la...
 
shelled,
i admire u!! very brave to do that esp ur hair is sooo loong!!! Salude!

girly and mamato6js
as u gals describe, i seem to be able to feel my bb for the first time today. but it's actually hubby who felt the movement first then ask me to put my hands on my tummy.. so jealous leh. i put my hand on my tummy every nite b4 i slp and i felt nothing. just now hubby just say he wants to feel bb and so qiao let him feel some movements and i'm the 2nd one to feel it.. it's really like something flapping wings, some fluttering movements... so cute....
 
crystalz

haha..same same...so i prefer using other empty rms...

when beri young say b4 2yo still ok la. bt once they starts to talk a lot, may spout nonsense in front of others unintentionally...wah then malu liao...

nowadays kids v mature and knows a lot...my 4yo when watch intimate/kissing scene in drama will say: eeee....they don't wear clothes de, shame shame...
 
hi mummies ,

im selling off some items, do PM me if interested:

1) MEDELA MINI ELECTRIC (single breast pump)
-only bought in mid FEB, only used once, sterilised and back on box. giving baby FM so no longer need pump
selling at $150

2)PIGEON - Breastmilk cooler bag (brand new)
selling at $48

3)PIGEON - nursing pads 36s (unopened)
selling at $8

4) Huggies ultra newborn size 24s pack (opened), used 2 pc baby outgrow lia.

left 22pc selling at $5

5) MIM Sling- brand new, opened, sateen. Color-2 shades of purple
Selling at $40
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self collection at mrt station (sembwg, admiralty, woodlands)
 
*girlygirly* *sandwich*
thanks!

i really have problem settling with my one month confinement... each time i think of it i am really very unhappy and stressed. ACtually my mum can help me but the problem is she is already looking after 2 children. My MIL already need people to look after her, totally can't help me. I am not working, already less one income... cant really afford almost 2K for confinement lady. Plus, confinement lady come my in law house she also cannot cook, cos in laws house never cook and FIL dont really like people to cook cos OILY then dirty. I really really really don't know what to do.

Initially i wanted to do it myself.
1) Prepare herbs to shower myself, meaning i can clean baby in the day too since i bathe can touch some water. Evening ask my hb to bathe baby.

2) My mum to cook for me and then get my dad to send the food for breakfast and lunch. Dinner ask my hb to get. BUT my dad might not be able to commit every single weekday as his job is really difficult to say one.

3) WHO gonna wash my DIRTY clothes and baby's napkins... i really still don't knw cos i know cannot put in the washing machine (DIRTY mah).

I already trying so hard to do everything myself. But i really need each and everyone to compromise but it's really hard. I feel so depressed each time i think of CONFINEMENT this problem.

Before pregnant, everyone pester say faster give birth.... then pregnant liao... want seek help... nobody willing to help. They don't help nvm.. chip in the money to pay for my confinement lady since i got no income and they don't willing help. And they just sit there wait for baby to arrive.

Sometimes i really feel like just hack care and dump the clothes inside to wash for that one month.... then at most i eat 2 meals a day dont eat 3 meals a day.....
 
milky

yup..this is easily recognisable..u will know when it comes..and usually around the same timing...so when bb is out, will continue with this pattern for a while...
 
hi mummies ,

im selling off some items, do PM me if interested:

1) MEDELA MINI ELECTRIC (single breast pump)
-only bought in mid FEB, only used once, sterilised and back on box. giving baby FM so no longer need pump
selling at $150

2)PIGEON - Breastmilk cooler bag (brand new)
selling at $48

3)PIGEON - nursing pads 36s (unopened)
selling at $8

4) Huggies ultra newborn size 24s pack (opened), used 2 pc baby outgrow lia.

left 22pc selling at $5

5) MIM Sling- brand new, opened, sateen. Color-2 shades of purple
Selling at $40
-

self collection at mrt station (sembwg, admiralty, woodlands)
 
princess

erhmm...sympathise with ur situation...and can actually understand hw u feel...i've been thru these...

after i married (i married young also), i stayed with my mil (fil passed away oredi b4 i married hub)...and one of my sil still nt yet married...so it's like mil occupied 1rm, sil 1rm, me and hub 1rm...somemore it's the common rm so inconvenient....

so it's like living under other pple's roof so if engage confinement lady, sleeping arrangement don't know how also. hw can asked mil sleep with sil or vice versa?? they don't offer and we also zidong don't dare ask...

so okay, no confinement lady though we can afford one. and also like i say not my own hse liao lor, hw can asked my mum to cook at mil's hse?? so my mum had to cook liao then dabao for me to eat for lunch. after that, she will help me bathe bb and wash bb's clothes...breakfast i eat bread, eggs plus milo...dinner haf to wait for mil to cook for me after she is off work...bt she helps me hand wash my clothes though...cannot dump inside washing machine mah coz the washing machine are nt meant for my personal use...mil will pantang also de...

wkend my mum don't come coz paiseh since mil will be at hm...anyway mil also nt at hm de coz gt own activity...will cook one BIG pot of sesame chk or soup in the morning and i will haf it for lunch and dinner...

the most tiring part is taking care of bb at night...for my 1st bb, very bad experiences during confinement mth...think back really scared...anyway think my gal crinky bb also or maybe i've no experience in handling newborn...
 
*girlygirly*
i really so depressed. I feel like sleeping but i toss and turn.. cos i think of this not settled really hard. They all don't want to compromise, don't want help, don't even give some money to pay. EVERYTHING hb and i do and pay... they only literally use mouth to say EAT APPLE DRINK MILK everyday. Not even giving money to buy tonics for me to pu.. bird nest chicken essence all those are bought by my sis and mum... i really don't know what to do...

They make me so mad until i keep thinking once i give birth i gonna have baby most of the time with me and don't really let them spend time... everyone only want to PLAY with baby... i need help, nobody help. Wedding that time also.. everything i do myself... my hb so bz with work.. i do until i cannot work end up resign and then people say me very rich huh no need work.
 
princess

umm..han nor..i understand...bt then my mil will still cook tonics and birdnests for me when i pregnant time lor...other than that fr my wedding to 1st child till nw 4th liao, me and hub take care of everything also...

think i said before, good in the sense, nobody can meddle with my affairs nw coz we don't owe anyone. i do things whatever ways i like nw...it's my home it's my children...some time pple juz gt mouth to say, use mouth easy mah bt do time, all siam...

juz remember hw hard life is nw or hw bad the situation are, time don't freeze...it will become past tense...

maybe u can try engaging a local day time confinement lady...
 
princess

anyway don't fret don't think so much...

better rest early coz when bb is out, wanna sleep or bangsai also no time liao...
 
princessxiaomei > I know what you mean.

Same case here with me, when in-laws and my dad hint strongly for us to have kids, but then the baby come and everyone just want to play and don't want help take care.

We got by confinement with my hubs taking 2 wks' paternity leave to help out, and we ordered confinement food catering. Didn't get confinement lady cos I'm not comfortable with the idea of a stranger being in my home and handling my newborn.

I showered and washed my hair daily as usual, except I use hot water cos my hubs say scared I kenna wind. Cannot don't shower cos I had c-sec and I want to keep my wound area clean. Also, BF-ing and I dont' want BB to suckle off a dirty sweaty tit lor.

I washed all of bb's clothes with Pigeon baby laundry detergent in the washing machine. If there are stains, then I just scrub off the stains and continue the washing in the machine. Having a c-sec wound, I didn't want to squat in the toilet to scrub clothes lor. Very 痛苦 leh.

But basically, just tahan and things will pass lah. Whatever is not so important – like housework and all – just let it pass. In the initial weeks, the most important thing is to take care of yourself and the baby. Everything else can wait.

Otherwise... can always get the hubby to help.
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Re: Shaving my head > Thanks everyone for the encouragement/support! Right now I just want my hair to grow faster lah! I always look like siao charbor nowadays cos my hair look like lion when I wake up, and I can't tie it back.
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I look siao half the time in Batam cos we were by the beach. Then wind blow until my hair look so stupid and crazy!
 
flower
my package includes unlimited 3/4d scans, hope today i can get a glimpse of my lil bub's 3d face cos the first time i got for my gal was when she was abt 18 wks. she looked like alien!

my gynae's nurses are same like girly's. can recognise you by name and can even recognise your voice over the phone. nothing is too small a matter for them. i hv heard of very good gynaes who have very nasty nurses too. not very good experience. in my opinion, the gynaes and his clinic assistants shld work hand in hand well.

but dun get too upset ok. was she recommended to u by anyone? if yes, then there must be some good points abt her. most gynaes r generally nice but when they have many cases that day, they v rush and fluttered and if u happen to be there at wrong time wrong place, u kena lor! i know not fair but at times we r at their "mercy" esp if u have ppaid for package. i hope u will have better experiences with her after this cos i dun think u can refund ur package right? if u really feel so uncomfy, i think b4 u r due u can go to another gynae and have a last scan by the new gynae so he can have ur history then be delivered by the new gynae lor. this is possible. but provided that ur baby not tha rush rush kind who wanna come out early than u expected ah! stay positive ok.

how is ur back ache?

crystalz
haha... yah lah when need to do then need to do lor. be in do in daytime, in another room, in toilet, on the same bed, on the floor all can be done hor haha... as long as the kid sharing the room not too big lah. big already pai say then must be like girly, go to her "tou qing" room~! wah like so lomantic! if u see hub signalling u there means u know whats gonna happen next ah! haha...

yah shelled is one cool mom. so bold!! the pic where everybody shave their head was very nice. whole family of cool baldies hehe, even lil josh! moreover u doing it for good cause right?

MILKYWAY
eh mine the other way round leh. when i get hub to place his hand on my tummy, my lil bub will stop moving! it was like that also with my other preg. so amazing when i think they know the warmth of mommy's hand.

princess
i can emphatise with your situation. cant stand in laws who only use mouth ask u give birth but no action hor. i was blessed with a good mil in this sense cos she would travel all the way from amk to east coast with her freshly bought groceries for my mom to cook. my mom live in with me during confinement to help.

since its ur first confinement, u will feel a lil "mang zhang" but as SHELLED said lor, time will pass. whats most impt is u stay positive ok cos its very easy to get post natal blues during confinement esp its ur first and u got noone to help u.

ur hub looks like the very caring and hands on type. im sure he will love to help u. maybe u can soak ur clothes and baby's clothes in the daytime and evening get him to wash for u?

as for meals, dun compromise ok cos we really need to bu our bodies after delivery. eat well becos u need the energy for it. our bodies tend to be weaker after delivery. dun skip meals or cut one meal at least during confinement. also try not to eat those packed foods also ya? if confinement catering also cost too much, then can ask ur mom to cook more for one whole day lor. dun worry ok. everything can be settled. must enjoy pregnancy cos when the baby is out, life will change totally!
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i been posting in the mornings cos hub been sending the boys for me to school every morn recently. the bliss of pregnancy lor :p so i settle their bentos, see them off then i can post here! gg to see gynae at 9am.
 
girly,
ok will take note of the hiccups..

mama to 6js,
at least when i placed my hands i can feel it too but just that i'm not the 1st person to feel it so feels abit jealous lah...

princess,
mayb u try getting ur hubby to talk to ur parents-in-law, hopefully they will b understanding? i can't advised much cos my 1st time too... although i'm staying with my mil now, waiting anxiously for our place to TOP soon, my mum has kindly offered to help me with my confinement.. so i suppose i will b going back to stay with her when the time comes...

it's always gd to have family support, but when there isn't, like girly and shelled, we just have to go against all odds. I'm sure one day when we see our bb grew up, everything will be worth it.

but like wat mamato6js says, pls do not compromise on food and rest. I think it's very impt for us to tiao yang our body and get enuff rest as well as eat ok as in at least 3 meals a day , dont have to be really gd food i suppose? cos till now i also havent been eating anything bu...

try to relax okie? we should not be stressed or too upset... everytime i feels stressed at work, i'll tell myself to cool down...
 
I think its ok to wash bb clothes in washing machine rite... I dun intend to get a confinement lady too, cos no space for her to sleep.

Intend to order those home delivery confinement food. Any recommendations?
 
Anyone out here would like to sign up with cord life? Can use the CDA account to pay. I am looking for another mtb to sign up so that we can use the promotion.

I just enquired on their latest promotion:

Enrol together with your expectant friend, S$400 off.

1) Annual Plan - S$1000 +GST
Breakdown of Annual Plan
S$600 Enrolment + S$400 Processing
Annual storage starting from baby's 1st birthday - S$250 + GST (may subject to an increase once every 5 years)

2) 10 Year Plan S$3250 +GST
Breakdown of 10 Year
S$600 Enrolment Fee + S$400 Processing Fee +S$2250 10 years storage fees ( inclusive 10th year free)
Annual storage starting from baby's 11th birthday- S$250 + GST (may subject to an increase once every 5 years)

3) 21 Year Plan S$5250 + GST
Breakdown of 21 Year
S$600 Enrolment Fee + S$400 Processing Fee +S$4250 20 years storage fees ( inclusive 18th, 19th, 20th & 21st year free)
Annual storage starting from baby's 22nd birthday- S$250 + GST (may subject to an increase once every 5 years)
 
*puroland*
i not sure. my mum just told me that my FIL cannot help me bathe baby either cos once he bathe he cannot pray. My FIL pray every night before he sleep. So i think my in laws are leading a very easy life as grandparents. No need do anything at all. Hoping they contribute some money but i think FAT HOPE! SIGH..

*milkway*
my mil need someone to look after... her meals alreay need people to get for her.. sometimes she even ask me to buy when i myself also need someone to look after...

ytd i spoke to my hb already.. he tell me dun worry he will try to resolve this issue... how to dont worry when i think of it... still unsettled!

*mamato6Js*
My mum can cook but nobody can bring it over. Can you believe it. I have soooo big family but everyone seemed to be so busy until can't scrifice some time for me. It's just for that ONE MONTH...

is it possible for hb to wash my dirty clothes? i believe my hb wont mind.. just that i dont know if FIL will make noise. He every day see me only ask me eat apple and drink milk. That's it. Very easy and cheap what. Few days he spoke to me, until i black out! Cos i stand all the way and he rattle all the way. Then he mention he got money for his youngest daughter to study U... cos he was talking about saving and planning financial for our kids mah... then he say he got save... i was thinking... he always say no money no money.. how come his own KID want study got money.. his own SON want marry MUST everything PAY ourselves? Still say treat them EQUALLY. RUBBISH! So now.. i got some other plannings one after my kid is born. I don't care. People treat me real good, i treat them good. They treat me not good, i also do the same. I'm at my max liao!

My hb is always willing to help.... but so long my FIL dont say guys cannot wash ur dirty clothes la.... or whatever shit... should be okay.... and provided he is able to take few weeks off to help since we really got problem.

SIGH.

BTW, during confinement we cannot drink PLAIN water right? Must drink this longan red date is it?? What else cannot drink and can drink? And how to boil this longan red date? YOu think u can help me with this?? Teach me how? Maybe u send me in email else i will forget.. LOL!

*shelled*
I dont know how come bathe baby liao cannot pray. And after washing the napkins... have to fold also.. usually done by confinement nanny. So maybe i learn how to do it and teach my hb to do it IF he can take so long leave.

I have to bathe with herbs right? My body not very strong.. so i have to really be careful...

Actually i find it so funny.. my SILS bras all wash together with our clothes lor... i wash my own.... ain't these undergarments also DIRTY! How come can wash together and my confinement ones cant wash? This is so funny! And ridiculous!

*girlygirly*
yah lor. its good also cos nobody can say anything since never help and never come out money. i dont mind! I worry is my one month confinement only. That is the main worry cos i can do limited only. After that i am ok.

Having my kids are our choice too... but imagine i dont intent to have... i have tons of people NAGGING and NAGGING... so they are really heng to have me as DIL... cos i am willing to give birth lor... even i am jobless! - less income mah! And i m sooooo independent eversince i plan my own and prepare my wedding almost all by myself.. frm jiemei's stuff i do, ping jin all those i settle... an chuan i settle.. every single detail i settle.. what to do what to buy i settle... i can do it... but this time is one month confinement.. i really have my own limits cos i also need to rest and cannot do much! SIGH..
 
Hi princess
Don't be upset by all this, there will be a way

during confinemt, you can buy disposable undies to wear instead so no need to wash for that one month
your bb can wear diapers instead of napkin
since no one do the washing

thats what my relative done during her confinement w/o mil's help n confinemt lady
 
*teenie*
Won't it be uncomfortable? Cos i think we will still be bleeding right?

we wanted to get baby to wear diapers.. but FIL say waste of money.. use napkins instead.... -see, everything say only, never help-

Btw, when we want to delver, we also have to bring maternity pads and disposable undies right? disposable undies buy frm where? LOL! Never buy before ah.. LOL!
 
Princessxiaomei-- The herbs you can get from bugis those shop is yellow in colour 20 pkts for abt $ 20/-. The say the best after 12 days.. For your hair buy the dry powder frm guardian or watson ( Brand I check and get back to you forget liao hahaha ). Later will be going to bugis. :>
 
Princessxiaomei-- The logan and red dates tea very easy to boil on you must get the logan the black ones and the red dates buy those got seed not so heaty some ppl cannot take even though they say we need "bu". All these you can go bugis to buy cheaper also as you need a kilo or so. Some ppl say drink water some mothers will puke throughout so the best not to intake water. If can drink for the whole month.
Put a few pieces or red dates and the longan a clump not too much and put in the water to boil. Dun add sugar ok. Suffer a bit for your own good.
 
hi all,

wanna check with u gals if u experience stuffiness and short of breathe when in an enclosed space with no air ventilation... i experience this a few times in car, room when i dont switch on the aircon or fan... so now i make sure i switch them on them...

and now office aircon is off for dont know wat reason and i feel i have difficult breathing...
 
<font face="Comic sans ms"><font color="0000ff">Flower4,

Sorry to hear bout yr gynae. I hate gynae like tt too, treat patient jus like their $$ printing machine. She shld b more sympathetic since she has gone thru all these too rite. I've heard not so gd comments bout Lisa Chin too leh.

My gynae is Dr. Joycelyn Wong, same as Huishan. Her clinic is always v busy too but she ALWAYS make time for her patients. She's always very apologetic if u had to wait too long to see her. And I find being a mother of 2, she totally understand our situation lor. My #1 DD super like her too. She treat all her patients like fren instead of patients lor.

She charges for unscheduled visits too but she was v nice to waive them off during my previous pregnancy. Tt's why blur me tot she dun charge. Only realize after I hear from Jul_04 &amp; cfm w her clinic assistant.

I was suppose to see her on 8-Apr for appt but I kept postponing cuz clashes w my dad's doc appt. I called to postpone again yesterday &amp; was so surprised to rec a call from her personally. She was concern for my well-being as my last visit was 1 month ago. </font></font>
 
yes i experienced it yesterday. went to client's office where they closed all aircon diffuser except one. i also dun like to be in the crowded lift. i will be very short of breathe suddenly. and become super frustrated.
 
shelled: for the Maternity Band white colour, did she say when will the restock be in? My frien will still like to have white. But if the restock is too long then no point cos she's giving birth in Jul liao... unless other mummies wanna change to black then my frien got chance to take the ready stock..

princess: Jia you ok.. dun give up.. its def not easy but since we choose this.. we got to endure and overcome all difficulties ya..

if really no one to wash clothes, just dump into washing machine la.. if nt use diapers lo

the herbs for bathing n longgan n red dates if bugis is too far for u.. jut walked into any chinese medical shop they should have and i'm sure the shop owner will teach u hw to use it.. just boil one whole pot every morning and keep in hot water flask n drink for the whole day.. its quite nice to drink actually..

u have a supporting husband.. so u will be able to overcome all this ya.. e child is ours.. cant expect others to help much.. if they do.. it's a bonus, if not.. we just have to cut some ends and settle outselves..

all mummies are great so i'm sure u can get thr ur one mth ya
 
milkyway.. i always encounter tt esp when i got no seats in e bus.. dun know why also if i'm seated then i'll be fine but if stand for like 10 mins.. i'll feel so uncomfortable.. giddy.. suffocated.. then i'll start eating sweets/ chocolate.. it helps abit for me..

btw.. one sweet pretty lady gave up her seat for me in the bus today.. so happy.. she still say sorry for not 'spoting' me earlier cos i was standing beside her for one bus stop then she looked up hehe.. so ren2 ji1 still you3 ai1 de!
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<font face="Comic sans ms"><font color="aa00aa">Princess,

Dun be too stress bout all these. Enjoy yr pregnancy now &amp; trust yr HB tt things will work out fine.

Any way for U to move back home to yr parent's place for confinement? Tt's wat I did for my #1 when we were still staying w my FIL.

But as my #1 arrive 1 mth b4 EDD, my mum cldn't get any leave. e arrangement was she will prepare all my lunch &amp; dinner, bathe BB b4 she leaves for work. I hv to warm up e food myself but my younger sis will wash e utensils for me.

I bot napkins too but end up using diapers as I paiseh to make my mum wash. BB was on TBF &amp; she pooed so often.

MIL only comes over once in awhile to play e BB nia.

For #2, we got our own hse but still no confinement lady as it was during CNY period. Confinement lady super ex.

Arrangement was for HB to stay home to help w e kids &amp; chores. MIL will cook &amp; HB will walk over to tabao for me.

But end up MIL only cook for me during e 1st 2 wks. Apparent we did something which make her angry &amp; she refuse to cook anymore. So I just eat packet food from outside lor.

MIL only cook birdnest &amp; tonic for me during my 1st pregnancy cuz I was carrying a girl. 2nd &amp; tis pregnancy, she also nv bother cuz boy mah.

As least yr FIL still bother to ask u to eat apple &amp; drink milk. e last time round when I nearly black out @ my PIL's hse, my FIL actually commented tt he dun understand why we go hv another bb knowing my health is not so gd, asking for trouble only. Shld hv know better to stop @ 1 kid, now also cannot work. So fed up when I hear this. Tink he scare we ask him for financial help.

I agree w Katherine... e child is our own so cannot expect others to help. If they do den is a bonus. I also tot I cannot survive but hey.. I came thru it. It wasn't easy but once u see &amp; hold yr bb in yr arm, everything else seem minor to u liao.

Oh, do u wan to consider ordering confinement food tingkat? I might be ordering for this time round since my helper might b too busy w e kids. Here's some website for u in case u are keen:-

<ul>[*]http://www.natalessentials.com/ <LI> ttp://www.newbaby.com.sg/ <LI> http://www.confinementfood.com/[/list]</font></font>
 
*katherine*
bugis is not far for me. Do i buy it earlier or what? Cn buy before deliver mah?? LOL! Must drink everyday during confinement is it??? only can drink this?? must drink HOT ah.. can drink normal temperature mah?

i also think so.. either i use diapers or else i use napkins and dump inside....

*mavis*
thanks yah!
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Hair - dry powder?
12 days later - shower???? But i intend to breastfeed...

Bugis so big ... which shop ...
 
princess,
if you're staying with your PILs, strongly strongly urge you to let your boy wear disposable diapers. reason with your FIL nicely that nowadays water tariffs have increased <u>dramatically</u>, and the price of disposable diapers (esp house brands) have decreased. so the price of less branded disposable diapers will definately be cheaper than using FIL's house's water to wash the cloth ones. besides, let him know nicely that your husband offers to foot the bill for the disposable diapers.

if you can't get help in doing laundry, how about getting a washing bag to "separate" your clothes from your FIL/MIL's clothes but still wash them in the same washing machine? i think it is tedious and crazy to be hand washing clothes in this age. i don't even handwash my bb's clothes. simply no time to do so during the first month if you're w/out any help.

otherwise, can you go over to an aunty's house or your mum's place to stay during the first few months after you've given birth? tell your PILs nicely that you recognize there are a lot of troublesome practices about confinement, and you don't want to inconvenience them by staying over at their house. can also reason with them that you don't want them to incur further expenses on your behalf (such as buy food for you, wash your clothes, use their utilities etc)
 
yes.. once u see ur bb.. everything else will seem minor.. recently my gal kept throwing temper at night.. wanting the maid to play w her and dun let her sleep.. yesterday night she was crying non stop and screaming for e maid.. was so angry with her.. had a hard time pacifing her.. but once she cool down and started taking n playing w u..u'll forget what had happen b4 that
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and my hb n me were looking at each other.. smiling n shaking our head.. tt's our little terror..
 
<font face="Comic sans ms"><font color="0000ff">Princess,

e logan, red dates &amp; tang shen dun need to go all e way to Bugis. Any medical shop also hv.

YES, u hv to drink them daily during yr confinement. I dun drink them v hot too cuz I cannot take hot stuff. Just drink them warm &amp; cannot drink while standing up. MUST always SIT DOWN hor !!!

Also rem to buy those packet herbs from medical shop to bathe. I didn't abide w e 12 days rule. I just bathe &amp; wash my hair as usual w e herbs water. I bahte daily but I only wash hair on every 2 - 3 days.</font></font>
 
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I think last time my cousin's baby in my house also use diapers lor.. i very long never see tons of napkins in my house 2 yrs back lor. Even my hb really very shiong in paying so much, he will still say can one.. everything he settle.. i so scare my hb so stressed until got problem i also cant help or sense. SIGH.

My house definitely no... OVER population already. IMPOSSIBLE!

Relative's also impossible cos all at opposite area.. too far.. and they have their own grndkids to look after...
 
Princess-- Ya there i think the brand is koraine
I think you can get from robinson or john little they having 20% sales. Bugis a lot of shop I go the shop at the fu lou shou building below there buy call black horse or something like that. Since u say u weak the best is too take good care during this 1 mth.
 


<font face="Comic sans ms"><font color="aa00aa">Sandwich,

Wow e photos are v nicely taken leh. Yr boy look kinda cheeky in a few pics.</font></font>
 

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