(2009/03) March 2009 MTBs

yah lor so funny. Same here KS. I gave her 3 doses, one more even after her fever subsided. Baby fever is very scary one.

Re: mommies with maids to help take care of baby

Not to scare you guys but I've heard this too often. Just met my ex-colleague, hubby and her 6mth old boy at ECP last weekend for lunch and she told me about her experience. She hired one specially to help with bb while she and hubby work full time. Her MIL and M takes turn to come. During confinement she was advised to do it the traditional way i.e. don't do any baby duty except nurse (her M says bottle feed only). Everything else leave to the maid. So the maid is the one to change bb diapers, bath, entertain everything lah, just not feeding. This continued even into the 3rd month esp since she had to report back to work in month 2 liao (my ex coy is like that one). Anyway, she had her wake up call one weekend on mth 4, when for the first time she was with baby AND maid together. She said it was just oh sooooooooooo blatant that baby wanted the maid and NOT her. He was smiling at her, cooing at her, looking at her and not once bothered to look at mommy. My friend had to let go of baby to pass to the maid. Then my friend realised that the maid had taken over her rightful status at baby's #1. From then onwards she banished her maid from all baby duties. Only MIL or M during the day time, then at night once she is back she will take over. In the weekend she will come out without the maid for strictly family time.

Heard this happen too many times liao.

My hubby's friend with a 2 year old recently even sacked their maid because their toddler never outgrew her preference for the maid. In the end no choice, they sacked the previous maid, hired a new one to do strictly house work. The transition period was really trying but at least mommy got her girl back. Both working parents also.

That is the bane of working mommies. Got to be careful lor. *hugs all FTWM*
 


Jo, I buy the girdle that is for medium control, salesgirl said there are 2 types, firm control and medium control, for 1st timer like me tried medium one better cos firm control type is very tight and cant breathe..LOL. So I still can breathe normally,hehe...:p
No choice lor gt to buy becos of work if not I hv no clothes to wear for work liao n I dont want to wasted extra $$ on clothes as I hv alot, if nt my hubby will complain wardrobe no space!
 
Jo,
wowwwwwww envious leh! You are so tall and you used to wear S sized! really like catwalk model.

Jo, Mangogal,
we must continue to work hard lor. My hubby and friend say no use doing crunches because it's the stubborn layer of belly fats and loose skin that's the problem. Actually mdm rokiah and my postnatal masseur did say before, must continue to bind belly and and night until it goes back tonormal. I was too lazy lah. Didn;t do it. So now have this ugly paunch. Got reminded by my friend this weekend. so I just started binding again. Have not taken it off since last night. Hopefully I can last.

I find girdles very exp but the worse thing is they are still not tight enough for me cos I am too small size. The ones that can do the job are just toooooooooo exp. :p

we must jia you!!!
 
mangogal,
good idea. Then at least you don't need to spend money to buy a whole wardrobe full of temporary clothes. But ust be damn hot sia
 
Hazel... saw your comments on those aunties.. hahaha.. tell you, when my #2 girl was a baby, I dressed her in a Pink Minnie Mouse Romper. Then still got lots of aunties ask me "boy ah?" i got so irritated that I go buy those hairband and let her wear it.
 
Jo,
hahaha your mom very cute. Esp when she says Gao Dim! hahah made me laugh out loud literally. My mom is one such person lor. So I guess I take after her. hehehe
 
Irene,
I think even with hairbands I will still get those comments. Dress leh, they still ask me. Aiyoooo
anyway, I think my girl doesn't like anything on her head. Tried putting a pretty pink coloured girly hat on her before and she cried all the way until we took it off. Wow I think she will grow up to be a very assertive person. :p
 
Those mommies who are TBF, do you get hungry easily? Or eat more than usual?
I've realised I'm eating a lot more.. my colleagues are shocked of the amount I'm eating. Definately a lot more than pre-preggy
 
Alfafa & Jo, ya b4 preg I was quite skinny as I exercise often, I do alot of skipping wif the rope at hm n jog at times, sweat out n burn more calories. Nw bfing dun dare to exercise cos scared affect the bm quality, so once stop bfing will resume back exercise and yes plus I must continue bind the tummy!

Ya Alfafa, I measure the cost to invest girdle than spending more $$ on clothes,haa...ok la my office aircon very cold need to wear jacket so still ok
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Jo, haha ur mum is so funny, make a boy doll for ur boy! It must be so cute n heartwarming
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Alfafa, I was like u lazy to go church during preggie n stopped gng to service and carecell/small grps when I was in my 3rd tri in Jan this year cos really tiring plus the discomfort cos working on weekdays just want to nuah on weekends...but still need my daily bread. Finally after 5 mths plus of absence frm service n carecell, start gng beginning of June 2 weeks back and find that now life is back on focus
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car seat
used to have some discussions on car seats.
care to share again, which brand is good and the price?
I need to purchase a car seat.
Saw kidzloft selling the Safety 1st car seat, wonder issit good. Can last till 7yo wor.
 
Baby car seat, I'm using Britax First Class SI pro. Suitable from birth to 18kg, (approximately four years). Bought from Mothercare. UP $468
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pei,

Yah.. today everything back to normal, bb tok the bottle again. I think she got moods, sometimes dont want bottle.

my gal usually suck for 10 to15 mins on just 1 breast n she is done so dont be surprised tt bb can be full after 10 mins. my bb can finish 130ml from the bottle in 10 mins as well so i believe 10 mins is sufficient.dont be too bothered with the amtof time for latching as long as bb is gaining weight.
 
Wahhhh.....finally able to log in. Don't know why since morning been blocked by company server.


Now trying to lean the things that i will be taking over. So tiring almost fall asleep when my colleague talking to me. :p
 
alfafa,

I got pouch, ring sling and a carrier. So far bb prefers the carrier way above the former two, guess mainly because he likes to stretch a lot. I do prefer to use carrier/sling him out so I get more freedom of movement, but for short walks nearby and for grocery shopping bo pian have to use pushchair lah. Actually he's not too bad while on the meds - after burp (which can take %#@$#@ing long and even impossible at times) keep him upright on the shoulder for like 5-10 mins, then sit him in the bouncer for like 15-20 mins before he can lie flat without getting too much reflux. When he is totally relaxed and KO'd after a feed, can put him back in bed tummy down (his preferred position to sleep) after 10 mins of holding him upright. Can still bring outside without issues after a feed really.
 
irene,
my hubby die die wants to buy a ferrari car seat for baby. This is what we got
http://www.mothercare.com/Ferrari-Cosmo-combination-car-seat/dp/B001RICUDY/?AID=10358968&PID=3086088#productInfo

quite cool looking. Super good cushion. In fact I had to remove the infant insert as it was just way too thick liao. Comes with a buckle alarm which is excellent.

* Group 0+ Combination car seat: Rearward-facing - suitable from birth to approx. 10-13kg/22-29lbs (approx. 15mths), then forward-facing once your child can sit up unaided from approx. 9-18kg/20-40lbs (approx. 9mths to 4yrs)
* Baby/child faces forwards in a seat with an integral harness secured in a car by an adult seat belt
* This car seat also includes a buckle alarm to alert you if it is not closed correctly or if your child attempts to open the buckle while you are travelling
* Side-impact protection
* 4 reclining seat positions in forward-facing mode
* Includes chest and buckle pads
* 5-point, 1-pull harness
* Removable washable cover
* When using a combination car seat offering rearward and forward facing positions, we advise that your baby is positioned rearward-facing for as long as possible.
* Use a combination car seat rearward-facing until your baby reaches the maximum allowed weight and can sit up unaided.
* This is an official licensed product

Think robinson had a special product promo for this carseat before at SGD279 or something like that.
 
mangogal
Where did you get the girdle and under which brand? I'm also need to get one as I can't fit into most of my working clothes and has been buying new clothes since I started working 2weeks already.
 
asura,

Baby and I had a good morning too
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First feed this morning she only suckled for 15 mins but managed to last her for 3+ hours. Second feed even better, 30mins (hooray!!). Hope she is back to normal now, fingers crossed!

Glad to hear that your gal is back to normal
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Yah, sometimes bb really have moods, just like adults. But it's so tough when we can't decipher what they want.

You are taking care of bb alone in the States right? Do you find it hard to cope? I am thinking of whether to take bb to London to visit in-laws this sept. What really stresses me out is bb suffering from jet-lag. I find it tough to cope with jet-lag, can you imagine trying to cope with a jet-lagged bb? I shudder to think!
 
mangogal,
wow so disciplined. I am the type who doesn't exercise. Tried to start "exercising" when I was pregnant as I heard that it will bring about greater ease in delivery but all I did was some wii fit aerobics, which is really child's play lor. Didn't even perspire. Wow rope skipping really burns alot of energy. I rem back in uni days (eons ago) I tried signing up for the campus gym aerobics class. It was a 45min class, with first 10min warm up. They started with 5 min rope skipping. I went for my first class, was the tinest and healthiest looking there (cos all big angmos mah, was in Perth), managed 3 min of rope skipping and almost died ojn the spot. I quietly retreated to the back of the class and never showed up again. Warm up only somemore! wah biang

fireangel,
my goodness. You made it sound so easy but from your post the steps you have to take is already many times more than what I have to do for my baby. @_@

Kome,
you need kopi or espresso pronto! aiii reminds me of my daily 3pm coffee fix. Colleagues and I always buy coffee at 10am and 3pm from downstairs, either Kopi from the cafe selling traditional coffee or spinelli.
 
Jo, alfafa, mangogal, oh my talking about losing weight, very depressing lor. Cant fit into my S size tops too and worse is the pants lor. The stubborn fats on the tummy seems like they are camping there and have no intention to leave. Want to cut down on my carbo intake but will feel very hungry leh. Then also never use the binder already.
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wonder when then can lose the extra kgs.

Re: maids
Alfafa, after hearing your story about your friend and maid, I hope this wont happen to my baby. I also afraid of things like that happening, so I try to take care of baby myself after work. But really have to make an effort cos after work can be very tired.
 
Irene,
i on TBF .. & i really can eat nowsaday .. no joke .. always feel hungry
I eat lots of rice .. & sometimes after i finsh my share i can still eat from my hb's food.
I love to eat even b4 preggie but as i am those type that easily put on weight, so i use to ask for less rice for my food. Now, no more liao .. my sis & mum just cannot imagine i can finish the big bowl of rice. Somemore 2 hrs after my lunch, i ask them out for tea time liao .. i love the fried keropok, pisang goreng .. with my tea si. I must have the tea time when i back to M'sia.

But fortunately, i only put on 7kg during preggie & i actually lost 11 kg since i gave birth(means i lost 4kgs compare to my pre-preggie weight). Don't envy me .. coz my currently weight, 51kg still heavier than Mangogal..*o* I hope i can reduce further to 48kg. (i think impossible la if look at the rice that i eat)

Mangogal,
i'm same height with u .. don't worry, 50kg should be oklar .. Size S/M is good enough la as long as looks portionate.

i think it's just not the matter of the weight & size la .. i just don't feel myself attractive anymore, even with the bigger boobs now(haha, always wish to have this). Maybe the ugly nipple la...sigh
 
mangogal,

Wah.. u very light before pregnancy leh! Me still got abt 5 kg left but i was 57.5kg before pregnancy and only 1.62cm leh...
I havent tried my clothes yet since i am in US but i think i cant fit into any tops, my top would continue being very heavy with bfing so looks like i got to buy more tops or bear with the limited clothes selection.
 
Maid n baby:
Babies are very smart de, will definately be closer to who taking care of them. So we, FTWM will tend to lose out to the caregiver.

Remember got two weeks which my 2 elder girls are sick, we quarantine Zac at my Grandma's place and the maid is taking care of him there. It's just 2 weeks and Zac grows attached to her. Recognised her voice and always wanted her to carry him. When he saw him carrying his sister, he will call out to the maid, eyes following wherever the maid walk to.
Luckily nowadays he seldom see my Grandma's maid and is not as close to her now. But he is closer to my mom than me.
 
alfafa,
i encourage u to go for lasik! it's one of the best decisions i've made in my life, seriously! the joy of being able to see things without glasses is so worth it. esp during nite feedings and diaper changes, can't imagine having to grope around for glasses while the crying baby waits.
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gathering @ seabreeze's house @ bishan wednesday 17th june 09. 12pm onwards.

1. seabreeze & bb
2. missycandy & bb
3. Jo & bb

Yar try meet up soon so me starting work next week SIANZZZZZZZ

alfafa>> Since the group looks pretty small ... either my place or your place are both fine =) let me know k
 
Jo: Your mum is so cool. Ok. Will try the Garnier hairloss shampoo.

Maid: Sigh.. sometimes really feel like quitting and look after him myself. But ask me to face a baby day and night, I also may not be happy. Sigh.. dunno how...

Sportyger: Agree. After work feel so tired already, scared I won't have the energy to really play very enthusiastically.

I had gone shopping for new clothes and shoes already. Last time wear S or M. Now got to wear M or L.
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Clothes I had expected, but I was quite shocked to find that my feet have expanded lengthwise. Used to wear 7. Now 8. *faint* Got to spend so much $$ buying new stuff...

LOL @ the aunties comments. Wear dress still ask "boy ah"?
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simmey, same here, i can have two serving of rice, and I still have 4kg to pre-preggy weight. But I was too skinny pre-preggy le, so with this weight gain, also good to me la. pre-preggy only 40-42kg.
 
seabreeze,
think your place better. Most of the mommies who Ok-ed your place stay quite close to you. My place really cramped now. Used to have a 3-seater that's all, now it's a 3 + 1 + 1 high back type of sofa. Very space consuming.

I am expecting an old buddy to come visit either tue or wed ... heheh she's going to pass me her own home made math cards that she modelled after GD somemore. so sweet of her. My dajiadiy ones are missing quite a bit of cards. The power of FB. I am now back in contact with so many of my old friends, esp those who are mommies.

Emmum,
my problem is my super thin cornea. I actually spent $200+ for the full suite of test before only to be rejected by te doc. He says he has done more than 4 years of lasik and has never encountered anyone with corneas as thin as mine. Aiiiiiii that was like 4 years before liao. I know technology has improved by leaps and bounds so am itching to try again. Yah yah that's me lah. Groping for my glasses everytime I hear my bb crying. Can't swim either cos I am super blind - 800deg each eye. :p

Hey did you suffer from any side effects? where did you do it btw? Tell me more if you don't mind. I imagine I cannot go for those standard type of lasik due to my thin corneas though.
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Irene: In the 1st month when I was pumping milk every 3 hours, I eat A LOT! Way way way more than usual. I was always hungry. Now that I pump 3x a day, not so hungry liao. But I do eat more than before preg. Last time I never eat rice. Now just the vegetables and meat are not enough. I eat some rice.

church: same same. Stopped going after I gave birth. I didn't go, hubby also became lazy to go himself. We only resumed attending church mass yesterday after we put baby at in-law's place on Saturday.

Kome: Maybe your company's IT dept detected very frequent browsing of SMH web so they blocked it.
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Hee...

I haven't started work I feel sleepy
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liao. Can't imagine go back to work how. Got to wake up even earlier to pump milk. After work go in-law's place play with baby, (try to) put him to sleep. Reach home late late, still got to pump milk then wash then sterilise pump then bathe then can sleep.
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lasik is good.. saw my colleagues doing it.. so envy...
however, my deg is quite low, 150 per eye, so going lasik is like wasting money, so gotta rely on glasses or contact lenses
 
asura, pei,
yah I agree. There was a period of time when my bb can finish latching in less than 10min as well. And she was putting on weight and poo-ed and pee-d adequately too. So no worries about her starving. The thing to worry about though, is that she is consuming less than your supply, which can lead to plugged ducts if not emptied perpetually.

sportyger, asura
think must really put on the binder. So far I have it on since late last night. Am hoping to tahan until dinner time at least then start again at midnight. No choice.

Re: maids
Irene, sportyger
yah that's the thing lor. Babies will naturally gravitate towards the caretaker. So as FTWM like my friend, she really had to take over FULLY once she reaches home. All the diaper changing, bathing, playing, nursing, talking, etc etc everything by herself. She even brought baby back to her room to sleep which is not the best solution actually. CVreates another problem. She says she might have to ask the maid to sleep in the living room liao cos she only has two rooms. Bo bian.

sinmey,
same here! I eat alot more than before also. I might be skinny but I used to eat a decent portion. Now I am eating much more than usual. I wacked another 5 mini croissants just now so I finished the whole bag of 10 by midday liao.

OH no! then how? after we stop BF-ing must really make the effort to re-adjust our appetite. If we continue in this way after we stop BF-ing sure pile on one.
 
Alfafa ...

No problem =)

Keep the list below going k ...

gathering @ seabreeze's house @ bishan wednesday 17th june 09. 12pm onwards.

1. seabreeze & bb
2. missycandy & bb
3. Jo & bb
 
alfafa & emmum: Yup. That's me too, groping for glasses everytime baby cries.

I also have thin cornea that's why I couldn't have lasik. Mine about 600 degrees per eye.


Irene: Maid. Mine too. He grew closer to the maid after just 1 week.
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Irene,
wa..40-42kg is too light liao. Now 46 kg still consider skinny la. Envy u .. i don't even dare to target at 42kg, 46kg maybe can la .. but don't think can achieve. haa

alfafa,
i also super blind like u. But one of my ex-colleague said her doctor advise her to do it after she decides to stop having child. Not sure why but she said only go when i intend to close shop.
 
lipstar, very worrying rite if our babies grow too close to maid. We just have to try our best to spend time with them whenever we are not working.

emmum and alfafa, I also did my lasik last year before I got preggie.
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Sportyger: Indeed. Mine grew closer to 2 different maids after just 1-2 weeks' time. Not just worrying. Heartbreaking also. I cried almost every day man.
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Pei,

Yes! It is very difficult to cope when i got to handle bb on my own everyday and prepare breakfast, lunch and dinner for my hb. Maybe with ur in-laws should be better since u dont need to worry abt cooking.
Jet lag bb is terrible. My bb had jet lag for 2 weeks, worse cos i also got jet lag. But jtho din have much problems with jet lag so i guess it differs with bbs.
 
Kris,
I have use my Yahoo mail to email you the transfer details, did you received it? Sorry only did the transfer on sat as my hubby forgot to do it for me on Friday night.

Menses:
Yeah those who on BF, better do prevention if not planning for another baby yeah. Coz my colleague who just gave birth last Nov by C-sect, is expecting again. She actually thought if on BF, menses didnt come will not gana, but she is the lucky 1. Now she dont know want to keep the baby or not as she say she not prepare for 2nd child that soon.
 
gathering im also ok with alfafa's =p hahaha. im off so no problem for me goin dwn frm home la... if i was working then problem... hazel u decide k?
 
lipstar,
how? has the situation improved?

re" going back to church. Looks like I am the only one so jiat lard. I stopped in my 2nd trimester and haven;t got back since. Think it doesn't help that I don't know anyone at church. Don't have a cell group either cos I transferred from a church in expo to this one which is across my house. Much nearer. So no fellowship ties at all. Like a visitor. Hubby and I always saying must go must go, want to bring baby up in a church environment but end up always have 101 other "better, more fun" things to do. heeee Ok must make the effort this weekend then. Will keep you girls updated. Help to keep me in check.

irene,
envy you. My first pair of glasses at 9 years old was already 250deg per eye liao. I love to read and always read lying down when I was young. I rem telling my dad that I couldn't see clearly but my dad thought I was trying to be funny so as to wear specs (back then I thought wearing specs was cool. DUH!)So by the time the nurses came around for basic health examination I was already about 250 per eye liao. By the time I was sec sch it deteriorated to 750/800. the rest is history.
 
alfafa: Past few weeks, I put in more effort to spend time with him so he was ok with me. But tomorrow start work liao. I cannot help but worry again. Dunno should i learn to 看开 or quit to be SAHM.

Hiak! Hiak! I have your hp no. I will sms u to remind u to go church.

Actually, it was my hubby who reminded me to go to church yesterday, now that baby is at in-law's place. No more excuse liao. :p
 
misscandy,
cannot lah. I don't think I am free this tue/wed anyway so got to give it a miss.

Come to think of it. I seem to be surrounded by SAHM friends. A no of ex colleagues and sec sch friends, and mates from my previous church esp. So I guess I am quite lucky. Coupled with new mommy friends from this forum meant that my life will not be as dull as I initially envisioned it to be. heh heh

jasmine,
oh ... but.. but.. it's another life wor. Like a di di or mei mei to current baby. Hope your friend decides to keep the baby, though I am sure it is going to be tough. But at least fast fast close factpry after that.

Asura,
Hopefully for your trip back baby will be ok. You have any down time before your head back to work??
 
thanks alafafa.. will moniter n see how bah..

re: gathering..
always wanted to join but scared i cant handle bb while out alone.. hv been cooped hm on all weekdays n wk ends my hubby too tired to bring us out..
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never tried bring bb out alone.. maybe will try once tis wk.. but sassy place too far for me..
 
prosper: Read that you reduced your pumping time from 30 to 10 mins but milk still a lot. Did u also reduce the quantity?

I used to pump every 3 hrs. Now I stretch to every 8 hrs.

Eg: if u used to pump 300ml every 6 hrs. Try to pump mayb 270 every 7 hrs. After a few days if your body gets used to it, that means boobs not that rock hard, then reduce again maybe 250.
 
lipstar,
oh that's wonderful news! About baby getting closer to you. So happy to hear that. The decision to be a SAHM is a very very major one. Must really think carefully before taking the plunge. My friend is now resigned to fate that she will be left out for any more promotions. She is barely hanging on in there right now. She heck care and leaves work from about 7pm everyday; at most bring work home to do but only after bb sleeps. Already my ex boss is not happy liao. Anyway my friend says if she is pushed even harder she will just throw her letter. My previous workplace is really very family unfriendly one. My ex boss even told her that she is very very disappointed by her getting pregnant so soon after a promotion. wah lao eh. If we were in the USA the company would have kenna sued big time.

Wow wish my hubby was like yours. Used to be my hubby who was zealous; now it's the opp. Not that I am just that he seemed to have completely lost touch.
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princess: U should try to bring bb out alone. Maybe to nearby shopping centre, in case u can't manage can get home easier.

1st time may garang gabo, as Jo would know about my case. That time I went to sassy's place. As I would be leaving maid alone at home, I locked the masterbedroom, but the key was inside the room! *faint* After gathering at sassy's place, called locksmith and wasted $35. -_-
 


sinmey, irene, alfafa,

My appetite doubled when bb was 4 weeks old. But I think diet can control one cos when i came here, not enough time to eat, so appetite went down. I started to eat lesser and got used to it. Milk quality is not affected cos my bb becomes more chubby here. Only on days when my bb is on growth spurt do i feel very hungry and need a mid-day snack. That's why me starting to lose weight here.. but hor.. i gain weight on the weekends cos go restaurant to eat american size food, me still able to wallop the whole meal! Though overall still lose weight. I love to weigh myself on Fridays nowadays cos can see the weight lost that i have got myself over the week.. lol..
 
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