Seabreeze, really? dun look at the time? Oh dear, I'm a clock-watcher when it comes to pumping cuz I want to limit myself to certain duration ie. 30min max rather than get carried away and keeps pumping to hit a target and without me knowing, the next feed is just 1hr away. I need to keep to time so that I can let allocate time for rest and others and not all day long pumping. Ok, maybe instead of keep looking at the clock, perhaps I can set an alarm?
Re: husbands vs daddies
Alfafa, dun be upset over it. Many of our hubbies I believe fit the bill of your hb's description. They rather nua in front of TV and help out when they feel like it only. Sometimes I think we as wives are also guilty of neglecting them once bb arrives. My hubby complained that I do not love him as much as before, and the lack of couple time since the birth of our #1, makes him feel less loved. For us, Mother Nature creates us in such a way that our maternal instinct would drive us to care and fend for our little one no matter how tough it is and whatever we do, we would want the best for our child. But men are differnet. They need to be reminded and told specifically of what to do and how to do. No matter how competent they are at work, when it comes to babycare, they know nuts abt it, trust me. Give him a little more time, the fact that he is NOW A DADDY would sink in eventually.
On the other hand, we got to be honest and ask ourselves whether our conversations with our other half always revolve around children, household etc. I, for instance, is guilty of this and hardly talks about things other than my 2 sons or the mundane household chores and grocery list. I've been married for almost 8years and sometimes things just get into a routine of wake up, go work, come home, dinner, settle children and bed and the same thing goes on the next day. There's not much to look forward to and sometimes a movie or a dinner with just the 2 of us is good enough to rekindle the kind of feeling you got when you are dating. Give yourself a break and if you have alternative caregivers, you could try to put bb in their care for a good 2-3hrs, and have some couple time together. Men also need to be pampered, just like women!Once they feel that they are being loved as much as before, they are more willing to do their part for bb!
Re: husbands vs daddies
Alfafa, dun be upset over it. Many of our hubbies I believe fit the bill of your hb's description. They rather nua in front of TV and help out when they feel like it only. Sometimes I think we as wives are also guilty of neglecting them once bb arrives. My hubby complained that I do not love him as much as before, and the lack of couple time since the birth of our #1, makes him feel less loved. For us, Mother Nature creates us in such a way that our maternal instinct would drive us to care and fend for our little one no matter how tough it is and whatever we do, we would want the best for our child. But men are differnet. They need to be reminded and told specifically of what to do and how to do. No matter how competent they are at work, when it comes to babycare, they know nuts abt it, trust me. Give him a little more time, the fact that he is NOW A DADDY would sink in eventually.
On the other hand, we got to be honest and ask ourselves whether our conversations with our other half always revolve around children, household etc. I, for instance, is guilty of this and hardly talks about things other than my 2 sons or the mundane household chores and grocery list. I've been married for almost 8years and sometimes things just get into a routine of wake up, go work, come home, dinner, settle children and bed and the same thing goes on the next day. There's not much to look forward to and sometimes a movie or a dinner with just the 2 of us is good enough to rekindle the kind of feeling you got when you are dating. Give yourself a break and if you have alternative caregivers, you could try to put bb in their care for a good 2-3hrs, and have some couple time together. Men also need to be pampered, just like women!Once they feel that they are being loved as much as before, they are more willing to do their part for bb!
illow 
