Wake : I remembered during my first preg , my auntie , my mother's sister and she is very close to us after my mum passed away and when she is sick , in hospital , she and her hubby forbidded me to visit her only can call and ask my sis how is my aunty . Only till her last breath they called me and I went to see her for the last time in hospital and then she left as for her wake , my MIL knew I really want to go so give me some leaves ( those ang hua ) to put in pocket and went with me but u know what happened , when my father and cousin aunties saw me from far at the carpark came out and stopped me from going in and told me my aunty will understand lah .. don't go in son in the end hubby and MIL went in for a while I waited next blk with my cousins .