(2008/11) November 2008


Jes, ah wen, haha i tink L and V make a better match. Branded leh :p
But G V oso nt bad
Jes, i didnt catch wat K did tat day. Minky oso say she cheeky

Have a gd wkend !
 
<font color="cc3366"> hello mummies, reporting live from mt a, woke up to bf and now cnt get back to sleep.. I've delivered yday morning
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Birth story

3.19am - 1st signs of contractions
5am - called hotline was told to admit
6am - acc hb to mac for bf
655am - admit to mt a , 4 cm dilated
736am - given enema to clear bowels
820am - epidural administered
906am - dr choo arrived 3-4cm dilated
After she left, strong intense contractions experienced. Almost 1-2mins apart. 
1017am - 7-8cm dilated
1035am - dr choo arrived, told to push
1047am - amber says hello world
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morning mummies

congrats to Adens Mummy
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haiz... i had a bad night y'day, had a big trash out with maid + a slpless nite for me. she did something behind my back and told lies. couldn't take it and scolded her back. then it went on and we realised that she sounded that she's got no intention to carry on with us so we are gonna send her to agent later. she probably thought she can change employer and get a higher pay (after hearing abt higher pay for filos now)! her attitude has jus changed, last time when we ticked her off she'll be so afraid that we will send her away but now very calm when we asked her if she wanna go back home she just said "up to u, just send me back to agent"!!
 
thanks glad_gal. but haiz my parcel didn't turn up.

congrats adens mummy.

ah jes, ah lian: GV good, LV good. but KL doesn't sound good :p jes, since u @ home a while, tahan w/o maid &amp; c lor. unless u planning to have anor one soon otherwise still manageable?
 
olwen
KL good lah, now i'm behaving KL towards the maid lor :p
no lah definitely not another one, how to when we are facing this kind of maid issues, MIL won't be able to cope alone on an active V, and i dun know how she can do cooking somemore. now desperately gonna try to find a CC, at least 1 that can take her in for 1/2 daily.
and what more, i'm supposed to start on new job today and now cos of her, i had to delay it and if the firm decides to take another person, there goes it - what a big sacrifice!
 
Jes, oh so fast u got a new job??
I tink ur new firm will wait for u de lah.. One day onli rite?
Have u asked ur MIL can she cope alone? Dun under estimate old mothers ok =p
In the mean time, get ta bao food if she can't cook
 
Hello mummies,
How's everybody?

Aamummy,
Congrats.

Olwen,
What's the latest news u got regarding the parcel? If the mummies who ordered really ask for refund, you let us know what's in your loot, maybe some of us can buy from you to reduce your loss? I wouldn't mind a tube/tub of sunblock/hair conditioner or moisturizer
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HTH

Jes,
So sorry to hear of your problem with maid. V looks to me like any other toddlers leh - active but manageable. What I dun understand is your concern about cooking. Why hv V ard then got problem cooking? Does V need to be supervised/accompanied all the time? What will happen if she is left to play by herself when your MIL or care giver is busy in the kitchen? Pardon my KPO
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U very good leh. Can get a job so soon. Very marketable ! I hope i can be like u when my time comes.
 
Jes,
What ur maid does behind ur back? Anyway send her back asap and you all can return to a quiet home.

My hb and I also very pissed off with maid doings this morning. Arghh. Wish we dont have maid to avoid maid issues but need someone to do household chores and cook dinner. Haiz.
 
lian
dun know if the firm will wait, till now my agent no wan reply, think they are probably pissed too with my last min notice.
well, my MIL said she can cope alone but i felt bad to put her in such a position.
re: cooking. we all dun mind eating ta-pao dinner, but cos both my inlaws are vegetarian so they dun really hv much choice of eating ta-pao food. again i felt bad.

alynat
V is very sticky to MIL when we are all not ard, so its almost impossible that V can self-entertain whilst MIL is cooking in the kitchen, unless someone can entertain her which previously was the maid lor.
 
Jes,
Aiyohz... the maid really problem leh. Has she returned all her loan? If yes, then I would send her back to Philippines instead of send back agent. I won't let her off so easily lor. Somemore now when the stakes are so high cos you supposed to start new job and becos of her, the job may be gone... all the more I will be nasty to the maid. Btw, what did she do that made you sssooo angry?


Olwen,
Yah... let us know what you ordered. ANd if the parcel arrived and the other mommies dun want or you refunded them already, I can consider buying some stuffs from you. Can help you to minimise your losses.
 
Jo
my maid used my HP charger to charge her HP when we were out. it sounds petty but the arrangement is she is to give me the phone and i will do it for her (cos i dun tink i shd give her the absolute freedom to charge as and when she feels like) and it has always been the case. and nvm that she's done it, not a big deal. but when i questioned her she actually lied thru and denied using the charger, and this is what i can't tolerate - tell lies!
 
3jems
yep her loan paid already tats y can chu pattern already lor. i tink she wanna change employer and not go back home tats y she emphasised to us just send her back to agent, and i was really thinking of sending her back to philippines, dun care a shit abt her. but fil actually pleaded for her and told us to give her another chance of working for someone else here. haiz... see how it goes after i speak to agent.

after the incident last nite, i actually wondered if i'm too much and too harsh to her?!
 
Jes,
Maids are forever liars. But in your case, you cant keep her cos it has been agreed that you are in charge of her mobile.
For my previous and current maids ... they always tell mi something but action or say another thing to hb/in-law relating to household matters .. so I jus bear with it.

We are often soft-hearted one ... scolded them and wonder if we have been too harsh ... but must be firm in you and ur hb decision.
 
Jes,
Oic... no wonder she chu pattern. Maids are all like that. Once loan is repaid, they start to chu pattern. Cos they all looking for easy job, lots of freedom and with high pay (aka working for expats). For such thing I won't speak to agent. COs they will suggest you send back to them to recycle. Reason being, they will charge the maid $$$ again for transfer mah. Then they earn again from the maid and the new employer. Win-win situation for maid agency.


Jo,
Oh dear. What happen again? Haiz... maid issues are never-ending lah. For me, I gave up being soft-hearted cos they will just trample all over you only. Now it's purely a boss-employee relationship. NO more nice guy. If she can't do her job, out she goes - back to her kampung. NO transfer to other employer. hhmmpp!
 
Jo/3jems
ask u, do u both give yr maid absolute freedom of holding her HP? after y'day i confisicated my maid's HP and when i went thru her sms-es i realised she sms-es quite a lot thru-out the day!

Jo
same de, sometimes my maid talked back to MIL and she used me as shield. all these matters we never ever questioned her. wat more can these maids ask for?

3jems
ya up to them lah if they think they wanna get an even easy job. i know my maid "eat snake" whenever she can and we didn't even exposed her till y'day. seriously i dun care what the agent does after i sent her back. maid shd count herself lucky if eventually i didn't send her back to philippines.
 
Jes,
Previously I allowed my maid to hold her HP. But like you... I found out that they cannot be trusted to know their limits. They will end up talking and sms-ing all thru the day. And then the work all not done. Even if done, it's slip shod work. So now, I hold my new maid's HP. Morning she will hand to me. Then at night I will return her after all the work is done.

Yah... dunno wat these maids want. Since you decided to send her back to agent liaoz, then make sure you find out the 'penalties' you need to pay - as in her food &amp; lodging charges till she finds new job, the maid levy is still charged to you, etc. Also, as her WP is still under your name, are you able to get new maid? Good luck. Maids are both a boon and bane in our lives. *sigh*
 
Jes,
The first day our new maid arrives, we will ask her to take out all her belongings and check one by one (not letting her wear any low-cut or sexy clothings) and we will keep her mobile phone. On her last day, take out all her belongings and ensure she dun bring back anything tt does not belongs to her.

3gems,
Small breakfast issue this morning .. and she told MIL I said something which have confused her. Once I questioned her if PIL takes those breakfast and told her if they dun then dun prepare ... and since then she didnt even bother to prepare breakfast for my hb, only prepare for mi.
 
ah jes,
no need to b soft-hearted. They don't deserve it.
Steal 5cents is no less of stealing than $50.
Ey, if u need my blur blur PT cleaner let mi know. haha.. she has been asking me if i got friends who need cleaner.
 
kash, how come your cleaner fly u kite?
Think i described b4... My current cleaner is inexperienced (first time) and speak mainly hokkien. Sometimes i need to repeat my instructions to her, else she'll forget (unintentional). She's quite detailed in her cleaning job, so she can take quite a long time to wash an area. Need patience with her.
MSN me if u want her contact, but please leave me alternate Saturdays slots...
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3gems,
Very interesting! Guess this is the only way that will catch passenger attention on the safety during emergency.
 
Jo,
Yah!! So cool and interesting right! hahahah... I'm those passenger that will just switch on my ipod and fall asleep. Else will be busy attending to kiddos and can't be bothered. *lolz*

On the other hand, tink the men will be busy ogling until dun remember what the message was about. hahahahahah
 
ah jes: sorry to hear abt ur problem. my maid also doesn't want to continue. so i'm trying to get my old old maid back now. congrats on ur new job tho. i never tried to apply for job at your old firm. no point - they wldn't take me anyway.

ah aly_nat: actually i got ur lil critters &amp; hair conditioner already thru TLL's vpost addy. can tumpang darlest's stuff w u too?

3jems, aly_nat: thanks for the offer but i seriously doubt i will ever get the parcel. now i need to make a claim from derma doctor &amp; usps for a refund. wonder if i will c my money back again
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morning mummies
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finally sent off my maid y'day liao. before tat still want to tell me she's regretted for what's she done. ok give her a chance to redeem herself but end up still disappointing, up till last min still wanna lie to me, haiz...

ah lian
yep, now need to find PT cleaner. later i sms u for the contact ok? blur abit nevermind lah, so long can do the work it's ok.

olwen
think i will go maidless for now see how it goes. hopefully V can get into CC soon, now waitlist lor. seriously speaking now i oso not much mood getting back to work, thinking that it's gonna be quite tough for mil to juggle V alone at home.
 
Good morning mommies...

Jes,
Congrats on getting rid of the lousy maid. So now you not taking up the new job? Wanna stay home to look after V?

hahaha... I sure would like to see our glam SQ girls trying to dance in their tight kebaya. Sure to be a shocker!


Olwen,
Oh dear... you also having maid probs? Recently I keep seeing lots of maids giving employers probs. Haiz.... the quality of maids nowadays is really bad.
 
Olwen,
Thanks. Darlest' stuff - can. But she hardly logged on these days, hor? Maybe this weekend I swing by your place to collect. Will sms u.

Jes,
Hv u started work? If hv not, maybe it's a good idea to be available for V as she transit into CC. Going by what u said, she's used to constantly being accompanied by maid or your MIL, she may need a little time to adjust to CC bah?

3jems,
With all the horror stories I'm hearing, hb n I are convinced that we will not hire a maid. Think when I return to work, will hv to run between a CCC n a student BASC
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3jems/alynat
now starting new job tomorrow. supposed to be a temp to perm job, now really got to think if they offer me perm. but for now, i will just fulfill the temp assignment 1st till end of next week.

alynat
think when the time comes that there a vacancy for V at the CC then we think abt it.

hub still thinks maybe we shd get another maid. but i told him not now lah, let us recover from the bad experience 1st, haha
 
Aly_nat, Jes,
It's not easy to run a household with kids whilst working full time. Especially if your job requires you to be out-stationed or long hours. Guess it takes lots of luck for us to hit the 'Jackpot'. I'm also super tired of hiring and firing maids every 9-10 months. Meanwhile, always keeping my fingers crossed. Always hoping for a miracle. If I ever strike TOTO / SG sweep and become millionaire, I'll boot out my helper, resign from my job and become permanent SAHM. Then invest the $$$ in property and live off the rentals. heheheh...
 
Jes, did the CC give u a rough timeline when V can get a place?
I think your MIL will do fine. The cooking part can b easily solved by ta-baoing or catering. Perhaps u can bring V back home on 1 or 2 wkdays nights to relieve your MIL abit?
 
3jems
agree, haha... and hopefully when our kids are much older, we can then oso do w/o a maid. PT cleaners would be a good solution if it's the case.

lian
the CC is unable to tell me when, they only said unless someone pulls out. i did tell them of my urgency and they hv agreed to give me priority, so see how lor.
ya i tink we shd be fine lah, dun believe we can't do w/o a maid!! told mil if she's unable to cook then all of us will eat tao-bao dinner.
 
Congrats adensmummy!!

Happy birthday to oct babies and of cos upcoming nov babies...wow, cant believe our kids turning 2... *wipe tears* hehe..
 
aly_nat,
U have ordered the leapfrog DVD for mi? I remember you mentioned shld arrive in Oct ... do u wan mi to make payment first?
 
Hi Jo,
The friend's work assignment was extended recently. Therefore, he will only be leaving the US in late oct. His shipment will only leave US at the end of his assignment. I guess shipment from port to port will take about 2 weeks, excluding port clearance.

I should hv informed u earlier and not assume that u r ok with the date. I will keep your order if u cannot wait any further. If u order from amazon on your own, I guess u will get your order within a week. So sorry.

Liv, what about u? I hope u can wait??
 
Jes,
Yah... I'm waiting for my gals to grow up so I won't need maid anymore. Cos I'll make them do the housework. hahahahah...!!! *bad mommy*


Mummy2nia,
Aiyohz... I also cannot believe our babies so big already. Seems like not too long ago that we were sharing our braxton hicks and birth stories. Now swopping stories on their growth, diet, enrichment classes etc. Imagine, another 4-more years and they will be entering P1. The next major milestone.
 
Waahh... these few days forum berry quiet leh. Where's everyone?
Must be busy cos year end liaoz.... must 'pia' for the bonus. Cannot 'le-pak' oledy.

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morning
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so quiet?

ah lian
thanks for introducing the cleaning aunty. we r asking her to start a trial this Fri at my mil's hse. hope all goes ok.
and i found back ah qing, she has agreed to help me out again.
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