To all the SAHM:
Wana do a "survey".
1) How many children do you have? 2 children
2) Do you have a foreign domestic maid? yes
3) How do you cope?
Before I had maid:
-engange a part time maid service , she'll come once a week. $10 per hour, will work 3-4 hrs per week.
-I am lousy at ironing so hubby send his working shirts and pants to laundry (that time $2 per pc), the rest I'll just wash and fold.
-Tingkat for lunch (portion big so enough for my dinner too).
Basically I do all the short cuts I can find
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I want more time with Ryo then. since to me house works and cooking are very time consuming, I only did the house chores when Ryo was sleeping.
After he was 18mths he started playgroup. I got about 2hrs spare time for my self.
Hubby comes back quite late like 9pm every day..after he comes back I am free...hehehe. he'll take over everything.I am very thankfull he has been supportive and helpful. but NOT AUTOMATICALLY ONE.. must tell him what to do . but I can see he's trying.
Now got maid: she'll do house works and cooking. I concentrate on the kids. but we work together and fill each other up. eg: sometimes she'll feed Ryo when I got things to do, etc. basically she's my 3rd n 4th hand
. 2 things i dont let her do: BATH MISAKI and SLEEP WITH the KIDS.
VALNSW:
I used to work too last time before got pregant. I thought my job was super tiring and super demanding. But being a SAHM is not easier either.it is in fact very challenging. you might get rewarded and appreciation in the office for a good work but not as SAHM, maybe in 30 yrs time when the kids have fam of their own. provided they realize how much effort and sacrifice we made for them.
But above all these, first of all u must ask your self :
1. what is your priority?
children? extra money? career?
2.Do u think u can cope? if not can u get helped (eg: getting a maid/ part time maid).
If no maid: is your hubby helpful?
3.What's your hubby opinion ? you two have similar views on this matter?
4 Are you ready to be financially dependant to hubby?
5. If you wanna heve both world as SAHM/Working mum: will u be able to work part time?
Both choice will have pros and cons. But to me there is no such thing as you make wrong choice whatever option you will choose.
I chose to be SAHM because I want to see them grow myself, i cant bear the thought someone else witness their first walk/ 1st smile/1st words
. and I am a person who take this things a bit too hard on myself. altho I think I will get insane sometimes, when Ryo and misaki are sick or cranky .
Think carefully yeah? and dont get too stressed
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