(2008/07) July 2008

slowly but surely losing my mind. can preggy brain still strike when one is def not preggy..... maybe breastfeeding has depleted too many of my brain cells into the boys' milk.

end result - they are more intelligent with time, and i am stupider with time. hmmm.

okok, i m JOKING alrite. dun let that last comment put you off breastfeeding. still one of the greatest gift fm mum to child.

eating leftovers fm last night's dinner at my desk while struggling to understand what the presenter at this meeting is saying. heng ah, for virtual working!
 


youpi
it's funny but when we stayed at pasir ris, we talked about going to the boardwalks but never got ard to doing it!! and now i m thinking of going again.

u mean need to take bumboat to the boardwalk?

yeah a lot of times i hold back my comments cos i dun wan to quarrel. i really feel like telling him that he always place work above family. priorities drive behavior and certainly it is clear where his priorities lie...

cellow
haha...yes the next time he tells me anything about 'last time', i will tell him that!!!
 
Sitting at the bus stop waiting for the very late bus.. Work's worn me out so much I think I've Dissipated into thin air! N travelling next week. Hopefully will have time to rest cos I won't have my babies (yes, kiddy and doggie) to keep me company
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SY: *Big Hugs*.... glad that at least the first session will kick off soon. Relax and not think of outcome, let the counsellor take the lead. On your part, pray for a peaceful and calm mind. Never mind if he said he had meeting, go through the session first then see how it goes. Sometimes anticipating too much will cause more anxiety so manage your anxiety. Hoping the best for you all.

PB: hard rock hotel is nice. What is your budget? If you are keen, I can ask my friend to check members' price for you.
 
SY
Chek Jawa is on Pulau Ubin. Must take the bumboat across, then hire a van to get to the site. You can cycle or walk, but it'd take an hour or two.

PB
Heard that Rasa Sentosa is nice for kids too.
 
SY oh SY
I feel for you. How is it like at home? Do you talk at all? It sounds to be quite strained. Agree with Jo, just go for the first session and see how it goes. It seems like you have your mind set to make it work, and he doesn't. Or perhaps he thinks there is nothing wrong with the situation and feels that you are (as us women usually do) overthinking things? In any case, seeing a counsellor will be able to sort things out for you both

Jo
My budget? How about no budget? :D Yes please, let me know how much member's price is?

Youpi
Rasa? Oh cool! I was there a long long long time ago but don't remember any kiddy slides. Maybe they've changed! I'll go check :D
 
PB,

Yep! Hard Rock Hotel is fun! Especially the pool. It is the man made beach pool. Fun with the sand, without the stickiness of the salt water!! It is walking distance to the merlion as well. Price I am not sure, as my uncle exchanged his RWS points for the free stays. but they do have some offers on asiatravel.com. you can check it out!
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SY,

I can empathise with you. but like what Jo said, go for the session first, see what comes out of it. Relax and keep an open mind. *big hugs*
 
 
heh PB

I already bought the promo annual pass for legoland and now waiting for the park to be built! the site is about 15 mins from the 2nd link.
 
doggiebb, pb,
so exciting! need to convince Mr C now to bring the kiddos to Legoland and buy the promo annual pass too
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bbp, you have lupe letter on kanten clay
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all this talk of staycations!!!! i want too!!!
*looks at big pile of work* no can do for now. gotta wait until mid year before the work tasks go away slowly.

dd, hang in there.... hope you had a good dinner and good sleep last night!
 
Doggiebb,

Hi-5! we also got tickets!! but it is for my parents to bring my son as they have more time with him to go every other week. We will just pay as we go.
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bbp
ok on! actually 20% off makes it $16. but if we buy it in a 4-ticket pack, we pay $17 per person.

12-16 march are the school holiday weekdays. shall we do that then? that way, neither dec nor pop has to skip school? 10am or 2pm also can

in that case, anyone else wanna join too?
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legoland
wow wee huh?
 
whew! end of hectic work week..so happy the weekend's here
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thanks for all the maid/helper sharing!

SD - hope Emma's all well

SY - all the best in your 1st session..hope for the best for you too. remain calm and strong ya.
 
Ok bbp will let you know.

Thurs 9 Feb lunch at vivo 1145am
SY and I meeting for iherb stuff and lunch. I am super craving for soup kitchen!! Anyone wants to join?
 
Wah.. So fast so many bought tickets...
Are e rides there fun?
E Lego land might not even open on time if it's like the jpo...

Haiz, went back a therapy again and kayden was diagnosed with sensory modular.. Or somethin like that..
Means that he is very sensitive on what is touching him..
Such as he do not like ppl touching his head. Do not like his uniform cos it's a structured feeling. He also cannot stand if his socks are not worn properly...


Finally got to see a chiroprActor, can sleep better tonight...yay...
 
Wow smiggle what a unique and interesting diagnosis. Does the therapist say that it will go away with time? Is it also partly psychological?

Yay glad that you managed to see a chiro. Was it your back that was bothering you?

My butt is causing me serious grief. The constant cramp/muscle pull is getting worse. Yesterday I could not move for first 10-1d min of waking up. Had to stop after a few steps from bedroom to toilet. BB had to bring a chair for me to sit on halfway
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Smiggle: *hugs*... Sorry to hear that, hope all will be well soon.

PB: Aiya, Thurs can't have lunch. You guys enjoy.
Staycation: will ask my friend to check.
 
thanks a million, jo!

hey folks, i'd like to seek some advice. those that popped at TMC, could you share on the stuff you liked and what you disliked? my gynae delivers at both TMC and Mt A. i was really bent on delivering at Mt A again this time round cos i loved the friendly nurses at the delivery suite, but then i suddenly remembered that i didn't have quite a nice BFing experience there and had so much trouble getting in touch with a consultant after birth. i ended up going to TMC's parentcraft centre, thanks to the recommendation of some kind mummies here (yes and they still owe me my MILO! haha). i now also remember thinking that TMC's confinement food menu looked really good (haha) as compared to what i ate at Mt A. which was basically, hospital grub

so seriously guys, what's cool and what's not with TMC? i know the parking sucks but that don't bother us cos we don't drive. how's the food, how are the nurses, did you get help with BFing (cos i so want to get it right this time, from the start), what else?

thanks so so much!!
 
PB,
In the orgn I volunteer with, TMC is considered quite crap for bfeeding. The nurses aren't trained to b bf friendly.
Borne put by my Personal experience from visiting a colleague's wife who delivered at TMC ... I tell u more tmr la.

I agree sr Kang is difficult to get hold of and she talks too fast for me to absorb all the info. Personally I was helped by Mrs Doris Fok based in Nuh... Home visit during C1's time... Youpi's recommendation if I rem correctly
 
thanks mummies. not sure whether we are going ahead with tmr's session. he has to confirm whether he can shift his meeting first. if not, i don't even think there's enough time for the session.

3 little pigs! yes i m keen. but may be going with a colleague. when are u buying tickets?

PB
honestly, i don't like TMC parentcraft. i didn't find them helpful. i had very bad blocked ducts and all they did was massage and they couldn't even massage it away. they just told me to go back and continue to massage. i only went there becos i couldn't find my usual lactation consultant at KKH. not impressed...

cellow
your iherb stuff is a big box. u wan me to courier to u?
 
PB i just remembered i have quite a bit of nappies ... do you need them? Some of them are new .. like brand new not even washed before. Some used but we dont use them as nappies. Used them as the little blankie for lixun and now i cut them into hanky size so alot left! No where to put hahahah i used to use them to swaddle bb
 
Cin bunny
Thank you! Emma has recovered from her stomach flu, however this morning she showed signs of coughing.

PB
I delivered both girls in TMC and I have good experience there. The nurses are very helpful and kind. During my stayed there (both times) I had to opportunity to meet with Mrs. Wong Boh Boi when she was "patrolling" around. She was nice and helpful in giving out advice and answering questions. As for Menu, theirs are quite alright. I had trouble BF-ing Emma at that time and the nurse there helped me many times. A week after going home a staff nurse called to ask whether everything was okay and again one month later to ask for updates. I thought that was nice. I dunno whether they do this for every patient, but for me, it happened when I had Ashley and Emma.

As I didn't breastfeed both girls, I didn't contact parentcraft.
 
Thanks SY, cellow and SDchick

SY and cellow
Oh no I had such a good experience with them when I went for help with my blebs (please please please, no blebs this time round!). But maybe it's cos my experience with Mt A was practically zero, so everything that TMC did was a godsend!

Cellow
At least you got to speak with Sr Kang! I left a billion messages, some even with tears cos of the pain, and never even heard back fr her. I just feel that the TMC parentcraft team is more sympathetic when it comes to mums who need BF help. At Mt A I felt like "just another specimen" when the lactation nurse came (not sr Kang) and ripped open my buttons and shoved my boobs here and there.

SDchick
Thanks, that's reassuring. Sounds like you had a nice experience.

I suddenly remembered, cos we brought poppy to Mt A last weekend to see babies at the nursery, that it is under reno! So that's a push in TMC's direction!

Jacelyn
Oh thanks for nappy offer but I also have lots, no prob
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But if anyone wants to throw over breastpads, I'll gladly take
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oh doggiebb, thanks! my boobs thank you profusely. um are you near buona vista mrt? maybe i can meet you there one day around lunch?
 
PB
Can you request to stay at the St Raphael ward at Mt A? I stayed there (same room some more!) both times and had great experiences. The nurses in this ward are very pro-bfg and I got all the help and guidance from them. And I am still breastfeeding L -- if that's any indication of how helpful they were for me
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Reno is going on but there are shuttle buses from the hospital to Novena MRT, Bishan MRT and MacRitchie Reservoir. Also a Subway cafe.

But whichever hospital you choose, just try to latch on ASAP after the delivey. It's an instinctive reflex for babies then so there should be little problem, and it's a great way to start the breastfeeding journey
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i am at one north mrt. but i can meet at holland V mrt or buona vista mrt whichever is more convenient for you. let me know.
 
Any of our mummies went to the Baby Expo last year? It's been so long since I've been there, I do not know whether it's big and worth going. My sis in law is expecting and my brother wants to fly to SG just to see and probably snatch some deals.
 
SY and doggiebb
Sure let's do lunch this thurs either at buona vista or one north. Let me know where I can meet you! Ohhhhh I smell 99-turn duck rice....

Youpi
Thanks! I don't remember where I stayed! Yup, latch on soonest possible. Gots it!

I told bluebunny someone I knew had a 20 hour labour for her #1 and a 2 hour labour for her #2 and he said "gosh can we check in to hospital from april 10 onward?" Haha. We're due on april 14.

Oops. Wait. In response to my last sentence, excuse me while I run around, frantically wringing my wrists. Ahhhhh!!!!!!!
 
pb,
i did not even talk to Sr Kang much during my 2 stays. does 5mins on Day 2 of C1's hosp stay count? haha. LC help was nearly non existent... the nurses were great though. to me, an LC is a very personal decision... so if TMC suits, go for it!

just wanna add smthing abt immediate latch.... that means no washing first, when mini pop comes out, she goes striaght onto your chest. the vernix (the gooey covering babies are born with) on her hands will help her relocate the position of your boobs later on her second and subsq latch. there is some scentific study abt this.... i can google later if you want
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oh and rooming in definitely helps to estb milk flow.

what else helped eh.... *thinking* in your birth plan, give strict instructions for rooming in, bb cannot be fed anything orally without your consent, ya dah ya dah, pls refer to my FB profile for example a birth plan doc ... there is one section for care of bb during hosp stay.

during confinement you nap when she naps, dun do nonsense stuff like checking forum or FB or blogging during the 1st 2 weeks at least. sms was my new best fren!

C1 took 14h, C2 only 2h... and I had to keep C2 in during the car ride to Mt A!

SD,
oh no, coughing! but Emma still goes to school rite?
 
Cellow
I had to stop Emma from going to school today as her coughing goes from light to heavy, runny nose and fever as well. aiyaaaa my KKH appt for Emma's review is on Thurs and I can't bring it forward to today. *sigh*
 
Cellow
Sorry huh, just to clarify, does it mean no washing of boobs for me after Lil Miss is off from first latch? I'll have to have gooey alien slime and crusty alien slime till subsequent feeds?

Actually I've got 2 minds re rooming in. Cos hospital time is the only time I get to rest. It's the only time I'll get any help (from the nurses). If I don't take it, then when I go home it'll just be me and the girls and the next proper rest I'll get will be er when Lil Miss is er a year old? Gulp.

Oh btw, no confinement this time :S

SDchick
Oh no hope emma feels better soon!!
 
SD
Hope Emma gets better soon! L is also down. He's been having a temperature and hasn't been to school yet this week.
 
Hey what's with the little ones falling sick? After a good 1.5 years of waking up at the same time, poppy's now waking later and crawling into bed with me AND sleeping more! It's been 2 days and this morning she was a little less energetic, a little listless even (but stubborn level still high). I thought the soles of her feet felt a tad warm but thermometer showed no fever so I sent her off to school anyway. Hope she's not coming down with something
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SD
oh hope emma gets well soon!

Youpi
oh dear hope L gets well soon too!

PB
maybe it's just sibling anxiety? hope she's not going to fall sick soon

JX also showing signs of falling sick. been rubbing her nose a lot more and had some loose stools.

mummies
we had our first session today. will be going for another one 2 weeks later. individual sessions and then followed by 4 more joint sessions. hopefully things get better....will see...
 
SY and doggiebb
Vivo better, thanks
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let's keep to thurs and meet with doggiebb for lunch again another time?

SY
Sounds good. At least with individual sessions, you'll both feel less pressured. Keeping fingers crossed for you

Funny behaviour
Wrote a note for poppy's teacher to keep an eye out for her, and she called me after school. She said poppy "didn't ask as many questions as usual today" and I couldn't help but break into laughter. Yup, that sure is a sign that she's not her usual self!

But other than that, everything's ok. No fever, appetite seems ok...
 
L and Emma get well soon. And germs pls stay far away from poppy.

pb,
gulp no confinement... i take every opportunity i can to be pampered, so definitely confinement for me! i do not expect myself to be ready for outside coy (excluding imm family like Mr C and my parents / ILs) until 6 weeks post delivery.

heh, definitely wash off the vernix when lil miss is off 1st latch. what newborns do is mark their terrority on the boob using the vernix on their hands. she will smell/touch/sense her way back to the boob for second and subsq latch. again there is some scientific study on this..... and you do not have to be too worried bcz you know what to do since you have had exp w poppy.... only lil miss is learning (and not you!). i had np with C2 compared to C1's time, cracked nipples, incorrect latch etc

in my mind ah, this is the chain of events that lead to a good start for BF --> natural, short and comfortable birth; no drugs in mummy or baby, both have energy to connect and latch --> unwashed bb uses rooting reflex for first latch --> rooming in allows for mummy to respond to bb b4 bb gets really really hungry and therefore cranky.

BUT having said that, there is always room for making up for less-than-auspicious start with a good LC that you are comfortable with.
 
wow guys, this looks really nice!

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yup cellow, no confinement this time round. we've identified the biggest prob as food and we're solving it by asking a neighbour to cook and deliver confinement food for me. even with CL the last time, i also woke up for the night feeds, so no prob la. i have not enough room in my house to fit in a CL also this time.

no outside company till full month party this time round! in fact, bluebunny and i just told my parents that apart from them, we won't be announcing birth till after we're discharged and home. this time, i just want to rest and bond with baby, and not be caught in awkward situations like trying to BF when a weird distant uncle is hovering around and not taking any hints, and feeling paisay for needing to sleep when bluebunny's colleagues (whom i don't even know) drop by for visit!

vernix: thanks for clarification. my mind pictures 'vermin'. LOL on marking their territory! oh well at least she won't pee on my boob.

now i'm starting to worry a tad bit about coping with 2 kids sans help. i'm starting to wonder if my own chant of "can we do it? YES WE CAN!" is getting softer and softer. youpi, dor dor, say something positive please!
 
Boy was up coughing the whole night... Keeping him away from school another day... Hope he'll recover soon. I was woken by his cough from 1am and din sleep after!
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Mummies, I'm beginning to worry that eboy may be showing signs of mild autism. He's avoiding eye contact with us when we ask him questions, he's still struggling with speech, and short attention span. Next assessment is in mar, very afraid of the diagnosis. I'm feeling very down... Should I just leave my biz behind and just focus on him? But doesn't make sense too cos he's in school most of the time. The problem therein is once you're working, it's hard to control timing so., I may be thinking too much but can't help but worry...
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plus the various therapy costs a lot and government don't give subsidy.
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loan interest rate going up, economy not doing very well soon so all these points to me needing to work hard for next few years.
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*breaks down and wails*!!!!
 
Michelle: *big hugs*.... Sorry to hear about eboy's fever.
Regarding suspicion of autism, take one step at a time. Any chance of bringing forward the assessment? Have you spoken to his teacher? What are their views?
I think environment plays a big part. Are there platforms for him to practise his social skills, self-help, other types of developments? How is he in handling his emotions? The umbrella of autism is very big and a true blue one will have problems with a triad of social skills, communication and behavior. I think should get an assessment done first since you worry about this? After you get results then you see what needs to be done. Just avoiding eye-contacts suddenly may mean other things, so don't scare yourself.
 
michelle
hugs hugs...wait for the assessment and see how. it may not be that bad. i have a fren whose kid is diagnosed but the kid is a genius! he does need therapy for certain behaviors and not as good in terms of interaction but intellectual wise he is years ahead of peers i feel. even if he is diagnose with mild autism, it can be helped with therapy.

as for working, if u can find a balance, continue working. after our counselling session yesterday i realised that a lot of feelings and resentment started when i wasn't working. he also pointed out that when i was not working, the only person i depended on to fill my emotional tank was my hb. cos u dun have the affirmation that u get from working and colleagues so the only source becomes my hb. so if can find a balance, i would encourage u to work.

anyway to bring forward the assessment?

PB
don't worry, u have been doing so well. i m sure u can cope. we are always open to helping u out if u need.
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re lunch
so it's me, PB and Cin? i will prob reach only about 12. feel free to order first okie?
 
SDchick: I feel Taka baby fair is more worth looking forward to. Expo Bb fair has more vendors selling maternity, post-natal massage, full-month cake and parenting magazines packages. They do have baby stuffs on sale but the prices are not as great for some things. FYI.

PB: your worry is natural cos the clock is ticking away. It is also wise of you to inform beforehand you want privacy during this time. It's not that scary having done all these, don't try to be superwoman, like wanting to follow the routine even first day after discharge. Just go with the flow, remember To take cues from Bb, instead of just doing what you already planned. The first month is not a time to fix a routine, just remember it's a getting to know phase, you will be fine! Jia you!!!
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*summons everyone for a group hug for mitch*

its just natural for every mummy to worry and we worry about every little thing. but during all your last assessments, no doctor has ever even mentioned autism right? the no-eye contact could be a phase. as for the speech, there are improvements right?

i am now also worried about T2 stuttering at the beginning of his sentences. T1 had that but it resolved itself eventually. i am praying will be the same for the boy as well.
 
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