cactus,
during 1st mth - 2nd mth, my bb also does not follow milk schedule but i try to make him follow. so more or less following but if he is cranky or growth spurt then i have to adjust a bit.
its impt to do a milk schedule so tat its easier for yr caregiver to take care when u go back to work.
for sleeping schedule, my bb doesn't have a schedule too. He used to sleep at midnight 12am. then slowly change to 11pm, then change to 10pm. sometimes 9pm. no fix too. it depends on how tired he is. i try to bring him out so tat he be more tired. but dun play with him too much cos overstimulated will make bb hard to settle down and sleep well.
during his teething itch.. got 1 night he wake up 4 times btw 10pm to 6am! make us so tired cos only me and hb take care.
Re: bumbo seat
i have a bebepod too. it really help bb to learn to sit up straight. and its safer than bb chair at this stage bec' bb backbone is not straight yet. get a high chair only when bb backbone is more stable and can hold head well.
Re: drinking water
i read somewhere tat due to bb not drinking milk so feed water??
I dun tink tis is right way. firstly when u feed water, it make the bb stomach more full and he cannot take in milk.
secondly, there are hazards of feeding too much water to bb bec of their stomach not well developed yet. google "water and baby" or yahoo search and u will learn more.