(2008/06) June 2008
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ellysia,
it's impossible she anyhow cover. coz I not doing admin work. all my reports will be used for mgt report one. if anyhow do, amt all wrong, sure kenna big big one.... she knows the implication..... plus the things i do very sensitive one, big bosses looking one... just dun understand. then she everyday just chat on the phone. really angry leh. keep trying to book a timing to teach her, but she keep pushing it. say busy......
it's impossible she anyhow cover. coz I not doing admin work. all my reports will be used for mgt report one. if anyhow do, amt all wrong, sure kenna big big one.... she knows the implication..... plus the things i do very sensitive one, big bosses looking one... just dun understand. then she everyday just chat on the phone. really angry leh. keep trying to book a timing to teach her, but she keep pushing it. say busy......
teragram
Active Member
iamsnow,
i think you have to be v persistent and get her to commit to a time for you to knowledge transfer to her. thereafter, maybe you can ask her to generate the reports and u can vet them first to check they are correct? also, can you keep your supervisor in the loop in all these activities so that he/she knows u have done your part to guide this person? just a suggestion.
i think you have to be v persistent and get her to commit to a time for you to knowledge transfer to her. thereafter, maybe you can ask her to generate the reports and u can vet them first to check they are correct? also, can you keep your supervisor in the loop in all these activities so that he/she knows u have done your part to guide this person? just a suggestion.
ellysia
Active Member
iamsnow,
Better cover yourself that u got try yr best to guide her but she keep making herself unavailable. So that in the event if any big thing crop up, she cannot complain that u never teach her.
liew,
I order from megnarget, not catherine. Catherine has no email, cannot correspond with her.
Better cover yourself that u got try yr best to guide her but she keep making herself unavailable. So that in the event if any big thing crop up, she cannot complain that u never teach her.
liew,
I order from megnarget, not catherine. Catherine has no email, cannot correspond with her.
petite_petite
Member
ellysia & liew,
i order fr CCT b4... but sum of deir material is nt veri gd... nt those comfy & soft type one.. probably for sum design oni .. but as for those shirt kind material one stil ok
You can try Trendezous but she oni circulate via email for order.. she organise quite a number of spree CCT, Mayuki etc. Mayb if nxt time she has ani new spree, I can forward it to u gals?
Serene,
hw come u r here? lolz... gt post in the rite thread bo? cos both oso June... haha
i order fr CCT b4... but sum of deir material is nt veri gd... nt those comfy & soft type one.. probably for sum design oni .. but as for those shirt kind material one stil ok
You can try Trendezous but she oni circulate via email for order.. she organise quite a number of spree CCT, Mayuki etc. Mayb if nxt time she has ani new spree, I can forward it to u gals?
Serene,
hw come u r here? lolz... gt post in the rite thread bo? cos both oso June... haha
ellysia
Active Member
liew,
I order 3 piece only. Ya I tink meg is closing but she be doing another spree, anyway i have ored paid to her so will wait for her lor. Cos her order have 1 partner ored.. so it be easier.
Lamb,
oh can circulate the email to us.. if u want i can pm you my email address.
I order 3 piece only. Ya I tink meg is closing but she be doing another spree, anyway i have ored paid to her so will wait for her lor. Cos her order have 1 partner ored.. so it be easier.
Lamb,
oh can circulate the email to us.. if u want i can pm you my email address.
Good day ladies, the thread moving so fast...
Just need to vent out my frustrations here.
Despite of my BIL gross action, my FIL still take sides with him say I caused trouble at home. This is too much le!
He talk so easy cos it's not his own bed mah. I can't imagine having such PILs. Forever siding with their kids be it rite or wrong.
Because of their actions, I think I'll not let my PIL handle my own kids, who knows one day they might just teach him or her to go against me cause mummy always doing wrong things, only daddy and his family is rite.
Urgh... We stir the trouble until police came. I told the police what happened, they also agreed it's disgusting to do that on ppl's bed and dirtying it loh.
I don't care now it disgrace my PILs cause neighbours saw the police. Tell lah, it's them who don't know how to bring up their kid and still taking sides even one is wrong.
Suddenly I hope the gf shot gun and have to get married. This time hubby sure cannot support their wedding and see how they gonna handle.
I know I sound very bad here, but I cannot take it anymore. Everything is my fault. Or becomes my fault. Yalah, they are saints lah, it's a mistake their son married a devil home.
I doubt my BIL's gf will be that accomodating next time also. Judging the way she quarrels with my BIL.
Just need to vent out my frustrations here.
Despite of my BIL gross action, my FIL still take sides with him say I caused trouble at home. This is too much le!
He talk so easy cos it's not his own bed mah. I can't imagine having such PILs. Forever siding with their kids be it rite or wrong.
Because of their actions, I think I'll not let my PIL handle my own kids, who knows one day they might just teach him or her to go against me cause mummy always doing wrong things, only daddy and his family is rite.
Urgh... We stir the trouble until police came. I told the police what happened, they also agreed it's disgusting to do that on ppl's bed and dirtying it loh.
I don't care now it disgrace my PILs cause neighbours saw the police. Tell lah, it's them who don't know how to bring up their kid and still taking sides even one is wrong.
Suddenly I hope the gf shot gun and have to get married. This time hubby sure cannot support their wedding and see how they gonna handle.
I know I sound very bad here, but I cannot take it anymore. Everything is my fault. Or becomes my fault. Yalah, they are saints lah, it's a mistake their son married a devil home.
I doubt my BIL's gf will be that accomodating next time also. Judging the way she quarrels with my BIL.
Hi Liew,
Re: CCT fashion
Just read that you say the chiffon no good huh! I've just joined a CCT spree, ordered a chiffon blouse leh.....
I agreed that the material wasn't so good, that explained why so cheap. I've just bought 1, the material is like those thin T-shirt material...looks cheap, like some of them found in This Fashion.
Re: CCT fashion
Just read that you say the chiffon no good huh! I've just joined a CCT spree, ordered a chiffon blouse leh.....
I agreed that the material wasn't so good, that explained why so cheap. I've just bought 1, the material is like those thin T-shirt material...looks cheap, like some of them found in This Fashion.
teragram
Active Member
Kelcqi,
I have been following your postings regarding your BIL and i really think he has exceeded any sane person's limits lor. If I was in your place, I prob would have moved out once the incident has happened, so I think you have already tried to be accomodating. After all that has happened, what's your hubby's take on it? Is it possible for you two to move out and get a place of your own?
I have been following your postings regarding your BIL and i really think he has exceeded any sane person's limits lor. If I was in your place, I prob would have moved out once the incident has happened, so I think you have already tried to be accomodating. After all that has happened, what's your hubby's take on it? Is it possible for you two to move out and get a place of your own?
Hi gals,
Re: CCT fashion
Just to share, this website carry stock for some CCT fashion but i think the price is slightly higher than those spree.
http://www.fashiondotz.com/
Re: CCT fashion
Just to share, this website carry stock for some CCT fashion but i think the price is slightly higher than those spree.
http://www.fashiondotz.com/
Shycloud,
Yah, that serious loh! Cos everyone in the family keeps thinking it's my fault that I cannot accomodate.
Imagine U change the bedsheets on Sat, Mon morning made and clean the bed nicely, come back find blood stains and pubic hair on it. And still ppl tell U it's your fault cos you should bear with it.
My FIL so enjoy it, then offer his own bed and let them sex on it lah, Leave all the pubic hair and blood stains and he sleeps on it lah.
Don't u think it's very disgusting? I don't care now. I don't think I'm in the wrong. Even stir up in the newspaper, also they paiseh, not me loh. I think I'll only feel paiseh cos I married into a disgusting family, suddenly become related to them cos of hubby... Hmph. Think of it my blood boils...
Yah, that serious loh! Cos everyone in the family keeps thinking it's my fault that I cannot accomodate.
Imagine U change the bedsheets on Sat, Mon morning made and clean the bed nicely, come back find blood stains and pubic hair on it. And still ppl tell U it's your fault cos you should bear with it.
My FIL so enjoy it, then offer his own bed and let them sex on it lah, Leave all the pubic hair and blood stains and he sleeps on it lah.
Don't u think it's very disgusting? I don't care now. I don't think I'm in the wrong. Even stir up in the newspaper, also they paiseh, not me loh. I think I'll only feel paiseh cos I married into a disgusting family, suddenly become related to them cos of hubby... Hmph. Think of it my blood boils...
petite_petite
Member
liew,
it looks nice fr the pic but wen recieved ... is the material tat spoil everything ba..
ellysia,
sure... do PM me ya.. wil forward u on her nxt spree
it looks nice fr the pic but wen recieved ... is the material tat spoil everything ba..
ellysia,
sure... do PM me ya.. wil forward u on her nxt spree
shycloud
Active Member
kelcqi..
dun get so agitated or it will affect the BB ;p
i really can feel how frustrating and upset you are despite being so accomodating let alone that you are even pregnant!
i seriously think u should think of alternatives to move out during this period since no mutual understanding can be established.
Are you able to shift back to your parent's place instead? Or maybe rent a room somewhere or from frens to keep that bit of privacy till after your confinement?
dun get so agitated or it will affect the BB ;p
i really can feel how frustrating and upset you are despite being so accomodating let alone that you are even pregnant!
i seriously think u should think of alternatives to move out during this period since no mutual understanding can be established.
Are you able to shift back to your parent's place instead? Or maybe rent a room somewhere or from frens to keep that bit of privacy till after your confinement?
Oh Kelcqi,
I think things r reali getting out of hand nw..
Maybe u shld seriously consider renting a flat and moving out fast..Otherwise ur relationship wif ur PIL wil b more strain..And this may affect ur hubby relaitonship wif hubby as well..Afterall he is stuck in btw..
Haf u consider moving back to ur parents side & stay temp??
I think things r reali getting out of hand nw..
Maybe u shld seriously consider renting a flat and moving out fast..Otherwise ur relationship wif ur PIL wil b more strain..And this may affect ur hubby relaitonship wif hubby as well..Afterall he is stuck in btw..
Haf u consider moving back to ur parents side & stay temp??
ellysia
Active Member
Kelcqi,
It must be hard on you and your hb being squeeze in the middle.
Seriously, i tink yr hb should know and settle this issue correctly. If your hb dun deal with it (which is the case), you will have to be "bad person" and thus cause disputes with ILs.
Tat is why i always say if the hb dun know how to "zuo ren", the person gonna suffer is the wife..
Why i say this is bec my parents face the same issue and my dad for many years dunno how to settle those unhappiness ILS passed to my mum thus caused unhappiness to the marriage, of which my dad now regret after many years of marriage. On my mum part, she always suffer in silence and dun complain or voice out but due to conflict can't stay together, so ILs also blame mum for everything tat my dad does.
When i am small and taken care by grandparents, my paternal grandma and aunt will probe and scare me badly and keep asking me what my mum tell me in private. I get so scared by the whole incident that i told mum tat i dun want to go back to be take care by grandma again.
Bad relations btw paternal side and my parents caused problems in my parents rs (though not very serious but always many quarrels), and for some years i have marriage phobia.
I hope this will not caused bad rs btw u and yr hb bec' a good rs is v impt for the kid to grow happily and healthy
It must be hard on you and your hb being squeeze in the middle.
Seriously, i tink yr hb should know and settle this issue correctly. If your hb dun deal with it (which is the case), you will have to be "bad person" and thus cause disputes with ILs.
Tat is why i always say if the hb dun know how to "zuo ren", the person gonna suffer is the wife..
Why i say this is bec my parents face the same issue and my dad for many years dunno how to settle those unhappiness ILS passed to my mum thus caused unhappiness to the marriage, of which my dad now regret after many years of marriage. On my mum part, she always suffer in silence and dun complain or voice out but due to conflict can't stay together, so ILs also blame mum for everything tat my dad does.
When i am small and taken care by grandparents, my paternal grandma and aunt will probe and scare me badly and keep asking me what my mum tell me in private. I get so scared by the whole incident that i told mum tat i dun want to go back to be take care by grandma again.
Bad relations btw paternal side and my parents caused problems in my parents rs (though not very serious but always many quarrels), and for some years i have marriage phobia.
I hope this will not caused bad rs btw u and yr hb bec' a good rs is v impt for the kid to grow happily and healthy
teragram
Active Member
Kelcqi,
I know it's easy for me to say, but try to take a deep breath everytime you feel those angry thoughts clouding your mind and try to tink of something that will make u happy (eg imagine your BIL being tortured or something), oops, ok am sounding a little sadist here. Hehe. But my point is, try not to stay angry cos not good for your health and bb's. I second Cactus' suggestion - is renting an option?
I know it's easy for me to say, but try to take a deep breath everytime you feel those angry thoughts clouding your mind and try to tink of something that will make u happy (eg imagine your BIL being tortured or something), oops, ok am sounding a little sadist here. Hehe. But my point is, try not to stay angry cos not good for your health and bb's. I second Cactus' suggestion - is renting an option?
ellysia
Active Member
on the issue with ILS.. remember i am telling u all tat my MIL touch my belly? I was upset this whole period and so scared to meet my MIL HOR..
so i didn't join their sunday makan sessions.. missed 3 sundays ored.
My hb agreed to talk to MIL but no chance to say until last sunday.. hopefully the message gone through. Cos coming christmas we have to celebrate SIL's birthday so i also dun want to escape the outing bec' of that reason.
For me, if hb dun tell MIL then i won't meet them one.. i am tat stubborn lah.
so i didn't join their sunday makan sessions.. missed 3 sundays ored.
My hb agreed to talk to MIL but no chance to say until last sunday.. hopefully the message gone through. Cos coming christmas we have to celebrate SIL's birthday so i also dun want to escape the outing bec' of that reason.
For me, if hb dun tell MIL then i won't meet them one.. i am tat stubborn lah.
ellysia
Active Member
Kelcqi,
If renting is not possible, i suggest u move out to your parents house first while waiting for the permanent solution. Even if yr hb dun move out with u.. but it will make him do some action fast.
Since ored make until so bad rs, stay longer will cause more problems.. and not wise cos u are now preggy and they are more people vs you 1 person only.
If renting is not possible, i suggest u move out to your parents house first while waiting for the permanent solution. Even if yr hb dun move out with u.. but it will make him do some action fast.
Since ored make until so bad rs, stay longer will cause more problems.. and not wise cos u are now preggy and they are more people vs you 1 person only.
crystal~07
Active Member
kelcqi, i know how u feeling but it must be pretty bad for the police to be involve. who called them in? anyway, dun think police can do anything rite cos it is consider as family matters. your MIL also side them huh? can u rent somewhere outside then for the time being? being so upset doesnt help you nor bb. if need be, move back to your parents' place for a while to cool down, alrite? *hug hug*
petite_petite
Member
liew,
tink i bought 2 chiffon dress.. both cannot make it lei.. but managed to sell off 1, the another was still hanging in my wardrobe... my advise - no chiffon dress!
serene,
Re: CCT
ya lor.. pay peanut get monkey
wil let mummySG frenz noe too
kelcqi,
gosh! u mean blood stain??? tis is so unhygience!! tink u shld sit dwn & haf a veri gd tok wif all of dem since it has ald been blow up so big. Im sure every problem comes wif a solution ya.. Hope to c sunshine after the rain ya
Take care of urself too okie?
tink i bought 2 chiffon dress.. both cannot make it lei.. but managed to sell off 1, the another was still hanging in my wardrobe... my advise - no chiffon dress!
serene,
Re: CCT
ya lor.. pay peanut get monkey
wil let mummySG frenz noe too
kelcqi,
gosh! u mean blood stain??? tis is so unhygience!! tink u shld sit dwn & haf a veri gd tok wif all of dem since it has ald been blow up so big. Im sure every problem comes wif a solution ya.. Hope to c sunshine after the rain ya
ellysia
Active Member
10646 avoid pink colour?? I ordered pink leh.. opps... but i scared the white will look v transparent leh.. tot pink look more sweet.
ya actually not sure if all can fit or not but anyway the total cost not a lot.. see how lor.
WAH today dunno why MS here and there.. drink water also dun like water liao.
ya actually not sure if all can fit or not but anyway the total cost not a lot.. see how lor.
WAH today dunno why MS here and there.. drink water also dun like water liao.
ellysia
Active Member
piyoz,
If i go to the Toa Payoh shop earlier, i probably won't spent so much at Perfect mum ored.. sigh. i spent too much i tink.
And yet it still not seems enuff..
Still got to buy more panties, shucks today feel so tight tat it cause slight pain.
liew,
So yr MS has subside too? Great!
Hee time to eat lah.
tats the risk of buying online.. tats why i also dun like to buy online.. but the sg maternity clothes i seen really cannot make it.. and worst, the babydoll fashion is almost over and now is the 3 quarters fashion (long dress over pants) which doesn't seems suitable when our tummy become bigger also.
If i go to the Toa Payoh shop earlier, i probably won't spent so much at Perfect mum ored.. sigh. i spent too much i tink.
And yet it still not seems enuff..
Still got to buy more panties, shucks today feel so tight tat it cause slight pain.
liew,
So yr MS has subside too? Great!
tats the risk of buying online.. tats why i also dun like to buy online.. but the sg maternity clothes i seen really cannot make it.. and worst, the babydoll fashion is almost over and now is the 3 quarters fashion (long dress over pants) which doesn't seems suitable when our tummy become bigger also.
babyphua
Member
cactus,
ya lor actually, my labour considered quite short. hope this one also short labour.
more importantly is to keep open mind. say if pro natural before labour, must bear in mind tt c-section may be performed in emergency ....
a friend v pro natural... end up last min got to do c-section.... she mentally totally not prepared....
ya lor actually, my labour considered quite short. hope this one also short labour.
more importantly is to keep open mind. say if pro natural before labour, must bear in mind tt c-section may be performed in emergency ....
a friend v pro natural... end up last min got to do c-section.... she mentally totally not prepared....
Teragram, u very funny leh. No lah, I didn't imagine him being tortured but I keep secretly wishing he made his gf pregnant REAL SOON...
Once pregnant, likely get married. Then the one suffering will not be me but my SIL... Keke... I so evil... But that's the only I think my PIL will stop focusing on me... I don't care they adore my BIL's gf now, they used to adore me also. Only married then they changed cos everyday see me and hubby quarrel, and when they interfere, I give black face.
I doubt they'll live in harmony with my BIL's gf loh. She very assertive kind, everytime quarrel wif my BIL and my BIL is the give in kind. Till my PIL see their "poor son" being treated that way. See by then they'll appreciate who?
Once pregnant, likely get married. Then the one suffering will not be me but my SIL... Keke... I so evil... But that's the only I think my PIL will stop focusing on me... I don't care they adore my BIL's gf now, they used to adore me also. Only married then they changed cos everyday see me and hubby quarrel, and when they interfere, I give black face.
I doubt they'll live in harmony with my BIL's gf loh. She very assertive kind, everytime quarrel wif my BIL and my BIL is the give in kind. Till my PIL see their "poor son" being treated that way. See by then they'll appreciate who?
Sigh, can't rent a place leh, cos now market very ex. We wait for flat now loh...
Nvm, now I "ren ren ren"... I wait...
Sigh... Me just waiting for good things to happen.
My PIL say my BIL can use their room for the time being. Better be this way, better don't let me catch them in my room with my bed messy, shirt on the bed or with anymore stains.
Cheapo people, wanna have sex, go hotel lah. Nothing is free in this world. EVen they don't pay, ended up hubby and I paying for laundry fee...
Nvm, now I "ren ren ren"... I wait...
Sigh... Me just waiting for good things to happen.
My PIL say my BIL can use their room for the time being. Better be this way, better don't let me catch them in my room with my bed messy, shirt on the bed or with anymore stains.
Cheapo people, wanna have sex, go hotel lah. Nothing is free in this world. EVen they don't pay, ended up hubby and I paying for laundry fee...
babyphua
Member
ellysia,
hospitals got three options: Natural, planned c-section, and Emergency C-section.
Emergency c-section is initially natural, but last min gynae ask for c-section.... cost is more expensive, but definitely not natural plus planned c-section.
ya, agree, if I go toa payoh earlier, definitely won't get the VIP card from perfect mum liao!!!
hospitals got three options: Natural, planned c-section, and Emergency C-section.
Emergency c-section is initially natural, but last min gynae ask for c-section.... cost is more expensive, but definitely not natural plus planned c-section.
ya, agree, if I go toa payoh earlier, definitely won't get the VIP card from perfect mum liao!!!
babyphua
Member
teragram,
toa payoh shop good cos really very cheap. Pants suitable for work cost only ard $25. Tops also cos ard $20. Dress only ard $35. But the tops are not too formal looking, more like stretch t-shirt material.
Perfect mum's collection more professional.... but their price also much higher.
One other thing their staff very friendly and not pushy at all. Perfect Mum has super pushy sales.
If you're nearby, can drop by to take a look. Just opposite POH HENG. Can ask for them to recommend for you. I see see myself, didn't find anything nice. Those pieces she recommend, I find them very nice.
toa payoh shop good cos really very cheap. Pants suitable for work cost only ard $25. Tops also cos ard $20. Dress only ard $35. But the tops are not too formal looking, more like stretch t-shirt material.
Perfect mum's collection more professional.... but their price also much higher.
One other thing their staff very friendly and not pushy at all. Perfect Mum has super pushy sales.
If you're nearby, can drop by to take a look. Just opposite POH HENG. Can ask for them to recommend for you. I see see myself, didn't find anything nice. Those pieces she recommend, I find them very nice.
