Aqua,
My maid is a transfer maid and she worked with the previous employer for 6 mths. So meaning she has paid her debts liao so when she came over, I already need to grant her off day every month accordingly to the rules. As for HP, we never ask if she has and she never told us. But since my MIL does not allow her to use her home phone, so I think she has. MIL will scold her and remind her not to use whenever in the house. So she only has the freedom to use during her off day. For that, I think cannot control coz what she did on her off day, we cannot restrict. But MIL said a few times caught her talking over HP in toilet and scolded her.
I am very lenient with my maid one, just let my MIL handle since the maid is living with her.
Kitsune,
I agree with you. My maid is patient in terms of teaching my girl ABCs, 123s, singing songs and reading to her. And my son is very naughty and sometimes hit her when he is not happy. I saw she never hit back or scold back... so I think she still have a loving heart to kids and what is why close one eye on it.