(2008/01) Jan 2008 MTBs

aqua: I am blind abt all these. :) Not sure if it's really effective. My friend has been taking many kind of pills but her condition does not improve.
 


Pixie, I think they count from your 2nd appt with HDB. Not yet 5 years, alamak, really 失误wor. Last time, I wanted to apply for DBSS Tampines flat (siao lar, tempted by the big balcony and bay windows). The HDB officer very strict, by the time they finish building the flat, I meet MOP of 5 years also cannot apply.

eNemum, I love otak esp the mackeral fish type. But nowadays don't dare to eat because of bad reflux/heart burn. :p

Blessedbaby, BFW is Bai2feng4wan2, I found a pix on google for you. Hope it'll help. Usually sold at Chinese medical halls. http://www.baiyjk.com/UploadFile/2009/4/24/20090424024927437.jpg
 
blessedbaby, does she has any fertility problems? if she has been trying for long time, better see gynae or TCM?
 
Hello, mummies, I am back to work today! Now try to sort out where to pump...... all those paperwork can wait, my breastmilk is more important, hehehe. Hubby is on leave this week whole week so that I won't be too tired and have time to adjust back to my working life (and he needs a break seriously).
 
blessedbaby
your fren we cannot comment much coz we dont know her condition well but i have long but REGULAR cycles of 38 days. gynae told me before that as long as my menses is regular, it doesnt matter if women has a cycle of 28d, 30d, 45d, or 20days. just need to ensure it is regular.
but then again your fren MC twice liao and sorry to hear that.
my fren who is TTC-ing now is seeing TCM for help. TCM address the root of your probs but its a long long process while western med just helps your current prob.
whats that word for it? zhi4 biao1 bu4 zhi4 ben3? kitsune pls correct my horrendous mandarin hoho

aqua
never thought about asking MP for help but thats an idea hor?
my plan for this stems from the fact that i want to bring my boy home every night but if childcare is allowed, of coz i would love not to move from my current place and put him in cc...haiz...i have so many solutions but all cannot use. catch-22!!
 
RUBBISH HDB!!!!

i just got their reply:-

...."Alternatively, if you need to buy a flat, you may consider buying one from the open market after the 5-year MOP. There is a wide variety of flats and you can choose one that best meets your budget and needs. Moreover, you do not have to pay the $40,000 resale levy when you buy a resale flat."

UTTERLY RUBBISH
 
Kam
welcome back
happy.gif
 
pixie, now resale v costly, and all require big lump sum of upfront cash. i tink it is easier for u to convince ur hubby to put ur boy in cc?
 
pixelpixel
Yeah, I know. Her menses does not come regular at all. She doesnt know when she is going to have her menses. ;-( Thats why now KKH gynea gives her medicine to regulate her menses first before can try to TTC again.
 
that 40k levy is aga(as good as) the COV if i buy a resale wat
tok what fiak huh these hdb-ers

aqua
i tried many times but its a very sensitive topic, if i suggest cc to my hb, he will say forget about all these (moving, cc, nanny etc) and dont need to bring him back.
the thing is - he doesnt mind not bringing our boy back home at night coz he is l-a-z-y lar
 
pixie, if it affects the relationship, then the best solution is still for u to move house bah

for me, i am set to bring my girl home after cny nex yr.
happy.gif
 
aqua
congratssssssssss
i wish i can be like you leh
harnor, i dont want to jeopardize our r/s so i have no choice. my 2 close colleagues told me i am my boy's mummy, just dun care them and just do it. they will stop you meh? etc etc
i can do that but i dont want to si po lian (tear off face)
 
actually i prayed and hope my mil will ask me and my hb if we could bring our boy back coz she dont want to take care of x liao coz shes tired etc.
i know im very mean but sometimes i secretly wish she will have some injury that needs time to heal and hence i can put my boy in cc and make my hb see light that my mil is not young anymore dont treat her like a maid.

am i very black hearted? i know its wrong to think like that but you know these thoughts creep into me once in a while. never wanted my mil to suffer
 
that day my fil say i v stern n too strict, make my girl cry whenever i scold her. actualli, i was just telling her not to go kitchen n disturb her daddy who is eating his dinner, then she cried loudly. fil saw n commented tht my girl seldom cried at his place and onli cried when i am around! i was v mad and i was even more determined to bring her home.
 
pixie, the root of the problem is ur hubby lah. not ur mil, she is juz trying to be nice to help her son. or u wait another yr , 2011 our kids will go nursery and u can official put him in cc???
 
aqua,
actually if your cycle is regular then u only need abt 3 strips per month. But if your cycle not regular then bo pian u hv to test more days mah, so use more strips.

Generally ovulation occurs 14 days BEFORE your period.
So for standard 28 day cycle, usually ovulation happens around day 12-14. So usually begin testing on day 11.
If yr cycle is 40 day, then ovulation will happens between 26-28

So if your cycle is haywire, where the cycle could be anywhere between 28-40 days then ovulation could occur anywhere between day 12-28
 
pixie
i totally understand wat u mean... sometimes as mothers, we are like so stucked in between.
remember i said i sent my boy to CC? nw i also put on hold cos after tat half day he went, he had high fever, then fake measles. then nw at home, my MIL told me tat when my maid was cooking, my boy secretly climbed up the stairs and no one knws. she is there sitting on the sofa watching tv and never realised. worst still, my MIL is those type see things happen then shout. what if my boy got a scare and roll down the stairs? all these incident make my hubby very sianz also. he told his mum off saying if cant take care then dun put at home. but he also concerned about putting at CC. and on the other hand, my own mother relunctant to help me to take care~.... nw we also not much options.

how i wish my mother can take care, then i will send javier to the 2 hours playgroup like Pauline~.....

guess there is no best way~
 
Aqua, duh, then where did I buy my 15miu opk from? Another seller from WTS thread? :p

Pixie, somehow I expected their answer to be negative. They are quite strict on MOP, because when we signed the contract, it already stated very clearly that we cannot sell until after 5 years. For me, I took $40k grant (stay near ILs) so my ILs also cannot sell and move away from Tampines area within 5 years. I spoke to them first and make sure they understand this clause before I went ahead to buy my resale flat.

治标不治本，you used it correctly, no need to correct lar.
happy.gif


Pixie, my hubby is like yours. Almost every night, he'll ask my gal if she wants to sleep with Nai Nai tonight. Faint! :p
 
aqua
no hor, like i said, its a catch-22 situation. my hb listens to his mother only. my mil never wanted to put my boy in cc. she listen to some 10yr old horror story from her sister about bad cc and very insistently said no to my plan. so of course naturally my hb said no too.

if i have #2, oso my mil take care. my mil said something like by then x is grown up liao dont need much taking care.

i agree. but in doing that, she is not giving him much mental care. she thinks of basic physical care but not mental stimulation lor. thats why i wanted cc for him. i told her by hook or by crook, x must go to playgroup when he turns 2

like now hor, her place got 3 kids and the 2 older ones never like to draw/colour/write. quite slow in learning. everyday play and watch tv. i dont want my boy to be like that
 
grumpus,my cycle onli started to haywire in july, previously got good track record of 29-31 days. fr jul onwards got cranky...mebe i was too stressed at work...
actualli, i aslo dunno if i shld ttc or nt, yesterday my mum was telling me not to try for bb coz nex yr if yr of tiger, she told me to wait till 2012 dragon yr coz my hubby also dragon and my mum is monkey. she said monkey n tiger clashes!!!
 
jess, ya lor, if onli our own mum can help!
so u dun intend to let him return to cc aft tht incident?

kitsune, at least u SAM now, ur girl is at home with u most of times... envy

pixie, then u send him for weekend enrcihment prog bah? dun be sad, we will support u !
 
me also duno wat to do nw. have not really discuss with hubby wat to do next~..... sianz.

keep trying to hint my mum but she relunctant to give up her job lei~...
 
jess
sobsob ok we hug together and cry ok
now since your hb very sianz with his mom, quickly assure him cc is the best solution liao.
a child will get sick more often than not in his first year in cc because of the frequent virus but this is the only way they build up a good immune system for future. keep emphasizing that to your hb lar
 
Jess, my own mum also can't help me cos she's too old liao. Bo bian, that's the problem of marrying late and having kids late. Can only rely on my ILs who are younger. My MIL was not for the idea of playgroup too but I insisted that she needs to go and play and socialise with other kids.
 
Aqua, ya lor, but my hubby was happy with the initial plan which is to be weekend parents and only bring my gal back on Fri night cos his parents offered to look after when RaeAnne was a baby. I was the one who cannot bear the idea of my gal sleeping in another house without me plus I was BF. So, I told him let's bring her back for 2 weeks and try it out. If really cannot cope, then we go back to plan A. Luckily, my hubby is supportive (despite his severe lack of sleep) so we never looked back since.

SAHM also luckily my hubby supportive lar. We talked about it b4 getting married but he can also object cos he'll be sole breadwinner mah. Recently, I met another friend who is preggie and also delivering in Dec. She's married for almost 8 years liao and didn't want any kids initially. When her hubby found out that I'm no longer working, he said to my husband, "wa, you made it already lar." Then my hubby replied, "no lar, I haven't made it yet but she's already not working." Her hubby was an insurance agent, then jumped to Citibank, now working at another bank. I'm very sure his pay is higher than my hubby's but it's a matter of whether you will feel comfortable in terms of lesser savings, luxuries and nest egg lor. ;P
 
i will have to talk to my hubby again soon cos my maid will go back in February already. so before tat, Javier need to be acustomed to CC. otherwise, alot of problems.
UNLESS UNLESS UNLESS.. preggy again lor.. then even more probz.. hahahaa
 
kitsune
can i check with you, raeann goes to playgroup, what is the schedule like? like 1 hr = do what? next 1 hr = do what?

i just called up the My First Skool that im keen in (since HDB failed me, back the plan B), their schedule is like that.
assuming i take AM half day childcare:-
7-7.45am: integration with older kids
7.45-8.15: bfast
8.150-8.30: wash up
8.30-9.15: outdoor time
9.15-9.30: wash up
9.30-10.30: lesson (can be anything)
10.30-11.30: i think its pompom time or what, cant remember
11.30-12.30: lunch
followed by nap till 3. by 12.30 i can bring my home back liao coz its from 7-1pm, 1-7.30pm

hmmmm
issit like not learning much?
 
Pixie,
So it's another year before you can sell/buy another flat. Actually one year passes very quickly, no point arguing with your hubby & mil cos when you finally win the battle, one year has past and it's time for X to enter nursery liao. So don't get too upset over it. Try to convince them "slowly and gently"...like every now and then mention about how well HaoRe (your friend's son...hahaha) has developed and matured in a cc environment, learn so much and so well-behaved, etc etc. Then say things like it's good to send X to playgroup or half-day cc to let him get used to a school environment cos he needs to enter nursery when he turns 3, etc etc. Gotta try to change their mentality slowly lor...jia you!
 
pixie
for kinderland, their schedule is as follows:
7-830 - wait for all kids to report. for those tat report early, just play lor.
830 - 900 - breakfast
900-930 - chinese music class
930 - 1000 - art and craft
1000 - 1100 - snack/drink milk, toilet time, music again~
1130 - lunch
1200 - 100 - shower time
100 - 300 milk time and slp~
300 - 330 english music
330 - 430 outdoor play
500 - wait for parents to come~

my hubby hates the schedule. he dun see the difference from being at home. cos he see the kids always just sit there.... like blur blur one~
 
Pixie,
Playgroup learn even lesser things. I'm also looking for a playgroup or pre-nursery to send Brien next year...tough! Some of the playgroups really don't teach much but they're cheap lah, around $130 per month so cannot expect much. The more established pre-schools or cc are expensive but they programme is definitely better.

I just got a reply from Kinderland Pre-school this morning. Their pre-nursery programme cost $1166 per term (10 weeks). That's close to $500 per month...ex lor for 3 hours daily. But have to say their programme looks good lor.
 
my hubby say if have #2, will hire maid again, then Javier will need no go CC le. if by 3, just go 3 hours playgroup, then fetch him back home lor.
but my thots is i will really ask my mum to resign le. even if got maid, i also want my mum to help out. how can a maid cope with 2 kids? and my inlaws definitely cant help....
 
pixie,

alternatively ... arranged to visit Kam at her hse with yr hb n of cos, x, n see how HR behaves? my sis saw my #2 changes and said "aiyah.. shd hv sent my #2 to cc sooner"
 
actually i think most CC schedule is like tat...

usually we send vernon to cc at abt 7plus. so he will stay outside till abt 8 den will go in to have breakfast..

den at evening oso same. think abt 5plus he will be outside waiting for us to fetch him. but we will only fetch him at 6plus.. haix. tat only the part i dun like
 
yvonne
i got "gently" remind hor. but my hb always said "cannot compare with others, why you keep comparing? i oso can tell you my friends' babies all suffered greatly in CCs. so how?"
the i LL bo bian lor, he always wins when we quarrel.

jess
yes the timing you've said from noon till 5 is the same as my first skool. she gave me the full day schedule
i see its like it will be each 1 hr of lesson in AM and PM, and each half hr of outdoor play in AM and PM for both MFS and KDL...issit around the same for all other cc centres?

where got learn nothing? over there, they
-integrate with older kids = social skills
-outdoor play = learn to take turns and share
-lesson = dont need to say liao. dont tell me your mil got give J 1 hr of strictly lessons everyday?
-makan = learn how to self feed
-shower time = learn how to bathe on own
.
.
.
and havent tok about toilet train, independence, ABCs, 123s etc etc leh

aqua
harnor, if plan B (half day cc) fails, i will put him in weekend enrichment classes. that would be plan C muahahahah
 
Yvonne,
Hor hor, thanks for quoting HR :) It's a blessing for us that he is doing very well at the cc. Else, I would have to consider hard to convert to SAHM (but seriously, I just CAN'T do it!)

Pixie,
I agree with Yvonne, take thing one step at a time. No point arguing with them. Just to share with you, my son's morning schedule is roughly like this:

7 - 8.30am welcome to school (as in no program, just free play)
8.30am Breakfst
9am Learning program (could be arts, music, reading, waterplay, phonic, etc).
11.30am Lunch
12.30pm Milk
1-3pm Nap

It's like that. Since they attend school everyday, the program is not very extensive, usually more on learn-through-play tactic.
 
pixie
my boy self feed himself already. i have taught him some time ago. and i tell my maid to teach him also. social skills i agree with u, they learn anot through peers.
lessons i also tell my maid to teach him thru play~....
shower hor, tat time my boy poo in sch, alamak, i go home still see shit on his buttock. so angry!!... and he did bath there lor. imagine bath still can have shit there.
 
cheryl
better than me, want to fetch but no chance to fetch hohoho

yvonne
kinderland pre-school is ex. but if prog good, why not? i must find a cc centre that is near my mil place coz i doubt she wants to take bus kind to bring my boy back and forth. she not SAHM leh, she is thousand hand Buddha. she will say she cannot lar, she must supervise maid lar, look after nephew lah, must do this lar, do that lah.
sianz. got many good centres in west but all too far from her, MFS is the nearest to her which sounds good liao. i havent got time to surprise visit the centre only. she said long waiting list so i gathered must be popular
 
hello mummies
Any good maid agency to recommend? So sian, just realised that MOm ruling says cannot let maid sleep in living room, but pil and sil not comfortable to share their rooms, I also dunno how.


Jess,
Does kinderland offers 1/2 day, think i need to send my boy for ard 3-4 hrs class. The current playgroup only 1.5 hrs, I hope my boy can have longer class so that I can handle #2 in the morning.
 
kam i got quote you leh long time ago. i quoted my colleague too. her boy is super intelligent, oredi know his ABCs and 123s (up to 20) liao. partly coz cc got teach and he is exceptionally clever. but my hb just wont take it in lor...sianz...
 


icy
yes, they do have half day~... i duno if it is like tat. but eg when music lesson. the teacher play the CD, the kids sit there look at her, then she like singing and dancing. but the kids no reaction. if nt, some will walk ard.. touching other toys, ignoring the teacher.

Kam, is it supposed to be like taT??
 
You must log in or register to reply here.

Similar threads

P
In law issues with newborn
Replies
0
Views
377
Peanut butter
P
L
Sharing My Experience for Reliable Part-Time Helper
Replies
0
Views
174
lakshmisg563
L
M
Asking for a help to all mums there
Replies
1
Views
205
AmaliaFang0314
A
P
Gynae recommendation
Replies
1
Views
274
elmirawong
E
P
Gynae recommendations
Replies
0
Views
174
Psalmsmama
P

Back
Top