(2008/01) Jan 2008 MTBs
- Thread starter lu_meihua
- Start date
shorty_gal
Active Member
Hi mummies,
I am wondering how mummies like Steph, Kam ad Janbb handle 2 kids? I am having a hard time. Maid cannot #2, once cry only she panic cannot handle. She is like totally drained out liao cos nite time got to take care bb and daytime do hse work. Some more mil hse is Terrance not ez got to climb stairs up and down when #2 cry!!!
In the morning still have to manage 2 children till Javin go to sch. Mil dun wanna help out in the morning.... Haiz.... Sometime i wonder is the maid helping to ease my burden or create more trouble.
I am like going towards to any solutions also cannot wk. Now #1 is full day in child care and i tot of putting #2 into infant care. Infant care also another prob all the centres are out of place for me!! But HB object wan be to wk part time just becos the maid cannot handle 2 children in the morning for about 1hr! But i am not willing to give up my job!!!
I am wondering how mummies like Steph, Kam ad Janbb handle 2 kids? I am having a hard time. Maid cannot #2, once cry only she panic cannot handle. She is like totally drained out liao cos nite time got to take care bb and daytime do hse work. Some more mil hse is Terrance not ez got to climb stairs up and down when #2 cry!!!
In the morning still have to manage 2 children till Javin go to sch. Mil dun wanna help out in the morning.... Haiz.... Sometime i wonder is the maid helping to ease my burden or create more trouble.
I am like going towards to any solutions also cannot wk. Now #1 is full day in child care and i tot of putting #2 into infant care. Infant care also another prob all the centres are out of place for me!! But HB object wan be to wk part time just becos the maid cannot handle 2 children in the morning for about 1hr! But i am not willing to give up my job!!!
shorty_gal
Active Member
delete
Janbb,
Thanks for your suggestion. very useful. Y'day I did drawings, watching morning children's programme and play cook cook with her. For drawings, I am using a thick rough paper book from Muji (about $2) for her to scribble. Today she is not with me coz MIL wants to bring her to Tampines Mall.
The location of the free music trial class is too far for me leh. I stay in Bedok leh... Then no chaffeur too on weekdays. Sorry...
Thanks for your suggestion. very useful. Y'day I did drawings, watching morning children's programme and play cook cook with her. For drawings, I am using a thick rough paper book from Muji (about $2) for her to scribble. Today she is not with me coz MIL wants to bring her to Tampines Mall.
The location of the free music trial class is too far for me leh. I stay in Bedok leh... Then no chaffeur too on weekdays. Sorry...
Jacelyn,
Most maids dun handle babies well. Since the maids need to do her work in the day, I think it is better that you spare her from the night feeding of the babies. Coz if maid not enough sleep also creates more trouble (like making mistakes or fall sick), right? Think maybe you got to handle the night feeding yourself? I am planning to continue handing night feeding even if my maid comes in 2 mths' time.
As for climbing up and down, it is really tedious. Why don't you get a tilam or playpen and place it on 1st flr? I even find moving in and out my master bedroom a hassle! So I got a rocker and a Combi high chair which is convertible to a lay flat chair, both placed in my living room. So I will place my baby boy on either both in the daytime to spare me from going into the MBR all the time. Also can watch TV while jaga him. Then the Combi chair has wheels and can push around. Sometimes I push him to my study room while I surf web. You may want to consider buying that? Got 2 types, $200+ and $400+. I recommended friend to buy and she bot the $200+ one. She said quite useful too.
Most maids dun handle babies well. Since the maids need to do her work in the day, I think it is better that you spare her from the night feeding of the babies. Coz if maid not enough sleep also creates more trouble (like making mistakes or fall sick), right? Think maybe you got to handle the night feeding yourself? I am planning to continue handing night feeding even if my maid comes in 2 mths' time.
As for climbing up and down, it is really tedious. Why don't you get a tilam or playpen and place it on 1st flr? I even find moving in and out my master bedroom a hassle! So I got a rocker and a Combi high chair which is convertible to a lay flat chair, both placed in my living room. So I will place my baby boy on either both in the daytime to spare me from going into the MBR all the time. Also can watch TV while jaga him. Then the Combi chair has wheels and can push around. Sometimes I push him to my study room while I surf web. You may want to consider buying that? Got 2 types, $200+ and $400+. I recommended friend to buy and she bot the $200+ one. She said quite useful too.
Kam,
YOur girl's nanny not free to look after on sat? I am also planning to watch "Feng Yun 2" with my hubby next week. Now also headache how to settle the kids too. Unless one put in East (MIL's place) and one in West (Mum's place). But very siong for us when picking them up...
YOur girl's nanny not free to look after on sat? I am also planning to watch "Feng Yun 2" with my hubby next week. Now also headache how to settle the kids too. Unless one put in East (MIL's place) and one in West (Mum's place). But very siong for us when picking them up...
krystle,
Nanny service excludes Saturdays. Though XY's nanny sure says ok if I ask, but we don't want to trouble her, cos last month we went to Penang, left XY with her, already disturbed 2 nights of her sleep
Jacelyn,
Agree with Krystle. Climbing up and down the stairs would really make people crazy! When HR was born, we lived in the exec apart, also climbed up and down, made me crazy!
If your maid cannot handle baby, then why not spare her for now until she gets more confidence. Show her the ways you care for the baby, let her practice more first? Is she ok with #1? If she is, then let her handle #1 while you handle #2?
I have no problem handling 2 at home cos hubby is a great help. I am not a superwoman lor. Only when he cannot knock off work on time, then I have to handle 2 kids on my own, but that's only for 2-3 hours and hubby will be back home.
Nanny service excludes Saturdays. Though XY's nanny sure says ok if I ask, but we don't want to trouble her, cos last month we went to Penang, left XY with her, already disturbed 2 nights of her sleep
Jacelyn,
Agree with Krystle. Climbing up and down the stairs would really make people crazy! When HR was born, we lived in the exec apart, also climbed up and down, made me crazy!
If your maid cannot handle baby, then why not spare her for now until she gets more confidence. Show her the ways you care for the baby, let her practice more first? Is she ok with #1? If she is, then let her handle #1 while you handle #2?
I have no problem handling 2 at home cos hubby is a great help. I am not a superwoman lor. Only when he cannot knock off work on time, then I have to handle 2 kids on my own, but that's only for 2-3 hours and hubby will be back home.
shorty_gal
Active Member
Krystle,
Thanks for ur advise. My gal is sleeping in sarong!!! 1st flr dun have sarong!!! Its hard for me to handle #2 at nite also. Cos #1 need to switch on fan in med mode while #2 cannot tahan he cold. She will cry and wake #1!!! Lucky i put #1 into full day CC so won't be so jia lat.
Kam,
How did u managed to find ur bb sitter? How is the charges like?
Thanks for ur advise. My gal is sleeping in sarong!!! 1st flr dun have sarong!!! Its hard for me to handle #2 at nite also. Cos #1 need to switch on fan in med mode while #2 cannot tahan he cold. She will cry and wake #1!!! Lucky i put #1 into full day CC so won't be so jia lat.
Kam,
How did u managed to find ur bb sitter? How is the charges like?
jess__thomas
New Member
so bored..
any topics??
any topics??
tongtong,
PMed you the details for the trial class.
Luca,
Cos hubby no more annual leave leh.
Jacelyn,
The baby sitter was recommended by HR's teacher. She used to be a teacher in HR's cc (before HR joined). She is charging us $700 and $770 when starting solid. She is very good, hubby is so glad to know his princess in at good hands.
Your baby is still young. You can try to let her sleep on the mattress. Better try now than later.
PMed you the details for the trial class.
Luca,
Cos hubby no more annual leave leh.
Jacelyn,
The baby sitter was recommended by HR's teacher. She used to be a teacher in HR's cc (before HR joined). She is charging us $700 and $770 when starting solid. She is very good, hubby is so glad to know his princess in at good hands.
Your baby is still young. You can try to let her sleep on the mattress. Better try now than later.
krystle, icy, janbb,
MIL is pretty stern to Z, she will not hesitate to use cane on him (beat lightly enuff to let him know pain). After several warning then Z will behave himself or being distracted by his baby tv program/tv commercials. BUT after awhile, he'll start his "HIGH" (jump/climb) mode again...sometimes he'll push didi's walker (with R sitting inside) like a pushcart...very fast speed like 15km/hr from living room to the kitchen...serious no joke. Need to always remind him & explain to him that he can't do this as it's very dangerous for didi & the walker is not a toy/car. I will not show him the cane unless buay tahan (last resort). Normally he will listen to me/mil if he's not in a tantrum mode otherwise very difficult ah...will have to use cane to frighten him...if still doesn't work or he simply ignore, will cane him loh.
Jacelyn,
my take on handling 2 kids with close age gap is setting priority (working p/t, FTWM or SAHM etc), time management (delegate responsibility to help u out like nite feeding or hsework), logistics (care-taker/helper/spouse) support & availability. If you have very dong shi or guai (cooperative) kids then it's a bonus. If it's tough to handle kids then u gotta have more patient. It's also a matter of getting yourself into a routine cos now with a baby to care for, you'll need more energy & attention. I am also still learning to juggle my time with my kids. U JIA YOU k!
MIL is pretty stern to Z, she will not hesitate to use cane on him (beat lightly enuff to let him know pain). After several warning then Z will behave himself or being distracted by his baby tv program/tv commercials. BUT after awhile, he'll start his "HIGH" (jump/climb) mode again...sometimes he'll push didi's walker (with R sitting inside) like a pushcart...very fast speed like 15km/hr from living room to the kitchen...serious no joke. Need to always remind him & explain to him that he can't do this as it's very dangerous for didi & the walker is not a toy/car. I will not show him the cane unless buay tahan (last resort). Normally he will listen to me/mil if he's not in a tantrum mode otherwise very difficult ah...will have to use cane to frighten him...if still doesn't work or he simply ignore, will cane him loh.
Jacelyn,
my take on handling 2 kids with close age gap is setting priority (working p/t, FTWM or SAHM etc), time management (delegate responsibility to help u out like nite feeding or hsework), logistics (care-taker/helper/spouse) support & availability. If you have very dong shi or guai (cooperative) kids then it's a bonus. If it's tough to handle kids then u gotta have more patient. It's also a matter of getting yourself into a routine cos now with a baby to care for, you'll need more energy & attention. I am also still learning to juggle my time with my kids. U JIA YOU k!
jacelyn,
think positive. u can do it! we are handling the nite feed for the bb ourselves n in the day time we try to rest while my maid take care of #3 while #1 n #2 in childcare. during weekends will b tougher cos all 3 in. we normally cook very simple meals during weekends n dun bother with the household chores during weekends. maid will sweep n mop the floor aft we make the kids sleep (ard 830pm or so) n she will finish most of the simple chores by 1030pm. making the kids sleep is the job of my hb n myself, unless #2 n #3 cranky at same time, den maid will make 1 of them sleep.
think positive. u can do it! we are handling the nite feed for the bb ourselves n in the day time we try to rest while my maid take care of #3 while #1 n #2 in childcare. during weekends will b tougher cos all 3 in. we normally cook very simple meals during weekends n dun bother with the household chores during weekends. maid will sweep n mop the floor aft we make the kids sleep (ard 830pm or so) n she will finish most of the simple chores by 1030pm. making the kids sleep is the job of my hb n myself, unless #2 n #3 cranky at same time, den maid will make 1 of them sleep.
jess__thomas
New Member
haiz.. how to pass 2hrs and 45 mins like tat...
-_-" my email is practically empty.. nothing to do~
-_-" my email is practically empty.. nothing to do~
jess__thomas
New Member
tongtong
ya lor.. super duper free.. cos tmr i on leave. my stupid execu dun wana give me any work...
ya lor.. super duper free.. cos tmr i on leave. my stupid execu dun wana give me any work...
jess__thomas
New Member
pixie
i have been enjoying since 11am.... hiyo.. too much enjoyment for me to take.. hahahaa.. dun like it...
i have been enjoying since 11am.... hiyo.. too much enjoyment for me to take.. hahahaa.. dun like it...
jacelyn
my previous maid also can't handle baby well so i change to another maid who is mother herself so much better. my maid main duty is to take care of #2 in the day time at my parents place and very minimum housework like washing bb clothes when #2 nap. but on weekend and nite time, i will take care of both kids & she do housework at home. i m doing the nite feeding cos i latch my bb so save the trouble of warming up the milk and my maid can get to sleep too. however my #2 sleep with her so if #2 eh-eh due to pacifier drop, maid will just help to pick up the pacifier and put into her mouth then both back to sleep. take one step at a time to try out a routine and see if it works? if your maid not experience in baby care then u just gotta train her bah?
staccato
i m also keen in staccato but i can only make it in the afternoon for 19th dec. anyone keen to schedule it to afternoon like 2.30pm or 3.30pm? cos i have also called staccato to arrange for a trial for my #2 and they say can give me these 2 slots for my #1 and #2. or who got #2 of age < 1 yr can join my #2 too... heheee..
icy,
ah...i rem i saw xavier name on the walls of zoophonics tampines so are those work done by u arh?
yeah the glue and painting adelle likes too. really dont understand whats so fun with glueing hor?
janbb
i guess that is part of the maid KPI to do nice artwork for their little master and missy.
my previous maid also can't handle baby well so i change to another maid who is mother herself so much better. my maid main duty is to take care of #2 in the day time at my parents place and very minimum housework like washing bb clothes when #2 nap. but on weekend and nite time, i will take care of both kids & she do housework at home. i m doing the nite feeding cos i latch my bb so save the trouble of warming up the milk and my maid can get to sleep too. however my #2 sleep with her so if #2 eh-eh due to pacifier drop, maid will just help to pick up the pacifier and put into her mouth then both back to sleep. take one step at a time to try out a routine and see if it works? if your maid not experience in baby care then u just gotta train her bah?
staccato
i m also keen in staccato but i can only make it in the afternoon for 19th dec. anyone keen to schedule it to afternoon like 2.30pm or 3.30pm? cos i have also called staccato to arrange for a trial for my #2 and they say can give me these 2 slots for my #1 and #2. or who got #2 of age < 1 yr can join my #2 too... heheee..
icy,
ah...i rem i saw xavier name on the walls of zoophonics tampines so are those work done by u arh?
janbb
i guess that is part of the maid KPI to do nice artwork for their little master and missy.
Jess,
Your executive spared you from work? Hahhaha.. Thot she would have given you lots of work since you are on leave tmr and nobody to help her? Anyway good to be free lah. Just surf web and act busy loh. Can go teabreak or not?
Jacelyn,
Your girl sleeps in sarong. Unless you want to get another sarong for her in the 1st flr loh. You have the same problem with me leh. My #1 can only sleeps in aircon and #2 cannot tahan aircon! But I managed to train #2 to sleep in aircon bit by bit. Now at least he can sleep like for 6-7 hours. Normally at night after 9pm feed, #2 will sleep in living room under fan. After the midnight feed, we will carry him to MBR under aircon and he can sleep until 7am at least.
Your executive spared you from work? Hahhaha.. Thot she would have given you lots of work since you are on leave tmr and nobody to help her? Anyway good to be free lah. Just surf web and act busy loh. Can go teabreak or not?
Jacelyn,
Your girl sleeps in sarong. Unless you want to get another sarong for her in the 1st flr loh. You have the same problem with me leh. My #1 can only sleeps in aircon and #2 cannot tahan aircon! But I managed to train #2 to sleep in aircon bit by bit. Now at least he can sleep like for 6-7 hours. Normally at night after 9pm feed, #2 will sleep in living room under fan. After the midnight feed, we will carry him to MBR under aircon and he can sleep until 7am at least.
jess__thomas
New Member
krystle
i duno lei. apparently she herself is nt really working as well... duno wat she is doing.
cannot lei.... no canteen here.. hahahaa.. open concept office... luckily my MD went out. otherwise.. hard to surf net also.
i duno lei. apparently she herself is nt really working as well... duno wat she is doing.
cannot lei.... no canteen here.. hahahaa.. open concept office... luckily my MD went out. otherwise.. hard to surf net also.
jess__thomas
New Member
we walk out lor.. industrial area mah
if nt, then see whoever is nice and in a good mood to drive us out for lunch.
i try not to take tea break also. cos everyday sit down.. getting fatter and fatter although never eat much. keke...
i try not to take tea break also. cos everyday sit down.. getting fatter and fatter although never eat much. keke...
jess__thomas
New Member
tongtong
hiyo.. dun tempt me.. dun wana spend $$.. hahahaa...
but this morning.. i see pixie de spree, i think i might be buying.
Pixie
are those suitable for Primary 5 kids? will they find it boring? too many too choose from lei. can u recommend?
hiyo.. dun tempt me.. dun wana spend $$.. hahahaa...
but this morning.. i see pixie de spree, i think i might be buying.
Pixie
are those suitable for Primary 5 kids? will they find it boring? too many too choose from lei. can u recommend?
jess__thomas
New Member
luca
haven found a job lei. been going for interviews. hopefully some will start offering him soon
haven found a job lei. been going for interviews. hopefully some will start offering him soon
Steph,
I think must be very firm with Z. Threathening with a cane will not work cos after a few times he will come to realise that you won't cane him. Must set a limit, say maybe after 3 times of telling him to stop his dangerous stunt and he still won't listen, then tell him you will punish him with a cane or whatever and DO IT! Must try to be consistent all the time and carry out the punishment if you have threatened him with it. If you don't have the heart to cane him then don't even tell him about it, just put him in a naughty corner or take away his privilege eg. watching TV and explain to him why he's being punished.
Boys are really tough to discipline. What I said above is what I'm doing nowadays. I have not bought a cane cos I might start caning him everyday...hahaha! But I realised if I'm more relaxed, he will start to think it's ok to misbehave, etc...sigh.
I think must be very firm with Z. Threathening with a cane will not work cos after a few times he will come to realise that you won't cane him. Must set a limit, say maybe after 3 times of telling him to stop his dangerous stunt and he still won't listen, then tell him you will punish him with a cane or whatever and DO IT! Must try to be consistent all the time and carry out the punishment if you have threatened him with it. If you don't have the heart to cane him then don't even tell him about it, just put him in a naughty corner or take away his privilege eg. watching TV and explain to him why he's being punished.
Boys are really tough to discipline. What I said above is what I'm doing nowadays. I have not bought a cane cos I might start caning him everyday...hahaha! But I realised if I'm more relaxed, he will start to think it's ok to misbehave, etc...sigh.
jess__thomas
New Member
tongtong
he has been working in tat company for 6 years.. so its the normal package he got lor.. so about 6 months
i hoping he gets a job fast. meaning he got fat fat bonus.. then he can bring the family go holiday!.. haha...
he has been working in tat company for 6 years.. so its the normal package he got lor.. so about 6 months
i hoping he gets a job fast. meaning he got fat fat bonus.. then he can bring the family go holiday!.. haha...
jess__thomas
New Member
tongtong
tat is IF he gets a job within 6 months lor..
then my dream will come true.. a well deserved holiday and a diamond ring.. tats wat he promised me. hahaaaa
tat is IF he gets a job within 6 months lor..
then my dream will come true.. a well deserved holiday and a diamond ring.. tats wat he promised me. hahaaaa
jess__thomas
New Member
tongtong
thanks!
thanks!
angelwind
Active Member
aiyoh my laptop just went crazy and cannot do anything.
jess
if for pri 5 hor, the most diff craft is the wooden craft clock or batik paint. coz batik paint, they give you solid colours eg red, blue, black, white, yellow etc and you must mix diff type of paint to get another colour. this one must test patience one leh.
jess
if for pri 5 hor, the most diff craft is the wooden craft clock or batik paint. coz batik paint, they give you solid colours eg red, blue, black, white, yellow etc and you must mix diff type of paint to get another colour. this one must test patience one leh.