(2008/01) Jan 2008 MTBs
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Luca, Kam.
Good to hear that Kam is still very energetic and strong. Not like me... Today I got so many comments from colleagues that I looked very tired. I am indeed tired and have no energy anymore. I am wishing that gynae can give HL now and let me go for rest. I had stopped doing housework since 2nd tri and my back aches every night when I put my girl to sleep @ yaolan (got to sit on a stool for 30 mins). Maybe I did not do a very good confinement previously and now it is taking an effect on me?
Mylvera,
GOOD NEWS! That means they may only come back next year???
Good to hear that Kam is still very energetic and strong. Not like me... Today I got so many comments from colleagues that I looked very tired. I am indeed tired and have no energy anymore. I am wishing that gynae can give HL now and let me go for rest. I had stopped doing housework since 2nd tri and my back aches every night when I put my girl to sleep @ yaolan (got to sit on a stool for 30 mins). Maybe I did not do a very good confinement previously and now it is taking an effect on me?
Mylvera,
GOOD NEWS! That means they may only come back next year???
pixie
Hb has 2 dimples, Nat took after him. Elliot only has 1. And not deep. Not always fair hor... hahahah...
Ay, your boy still have round tum tum lah!!!
Sorry, I confused. You have 1 boy only right? Preggie? Hoho...
mylvera
Hahaha... agree with Luca, you now happy as a bird liao!
Hb has 2 dimples, Nat took after him. Elliot only has 1. And not deep. Not always fair hor... hahahah...
Ay, your boy still have round tum tum lah!!!
Sorry, I confused. You have 1 boy only right? Preggie? Hoho...
mylvera
Hahaha... agree with Luca, you now happy as a bird liao!
Luca,
Thanks. I tried asking hubby to swing the yaolan but my girl just simply could not sleep and tried to play with him (maybe she viewed him as playmate??). He tried swinging for 1 hour and my girl still awake. Then I had no choice but to take over and my girl slept immediately....
Tongtong,
I also hope to get HL from gynae but I still got 7 weeks to go... Like a bit too early and I am afraid boss may not be happy. Then also not enough HL to take coz my coy calculated 60days HL (inclusive of 14days MC).
Thanks. I tried asking hubby to swing the yaolan but my girl just simply could not sleep and tried to play with him (maybe she viewed him as playmate??). He tried swinging for 1 hour and my girl still awake. Then I had no choice but to take over and my girl slept immediately....
Tongtong,
I also hope to get HL from gynae but I still got 7 weeks to go... Like a bit too early and I am afraid boss may not be happy. Then also not enough HL to take coz my coy calculated 60days HL (inclusive of 14days MC).
blackbatz
Active Member
Yo mom2nat,
Long time no see...u mumies just reminded me that I msut enrol my boy with JG liao. Since sent #1 there, think also sent #2 there but can only afford weekend class (only got time then).
Busy with work and yesteday worked from 7 till 7..today bones ached like mad!
Pauline,
must give the maid a lot of time, like 1 month. Since she is experienced, she should be able to bathe ur girl wile u watch right. just keep watching her like a hawk and correct her mistakes on the spot till she knows your expectation.
Long time no see...u mumies just reminded me that I msut enrol my boy with JG liao. Since sent #1 there, think also sent #2 there but can only afford weekend class (only got time then).
Busy with work and yesteday worked from 7 till 7..today bones ached like mad!
Pauline,
must give the maid a lot of time, like 1 month. Since she is experienced, she should be able to bathe ur girl wile u watch right. just keep watching her like a hawk and correct her mistakes on the spot till she knows your expectation.
wa,
seems like mummies here loves JG. but it's v ex leh. can't afford it.
Mom2Nat,
Ur gal & elliot are really cute esp the dimples. My gal only got 1side, if she takes after her daddy will be gd as my hb got super deep dimples. BTW, will u be sending elliot to any classes when he's 2yrs? or wait til 3yrs then send to those N1 classes. Any recommendation ard our place?
Pixie,
Ur pix really RA leh...
Potty training,
May i know how u do it? I haven't potty-train my gal. how can i go abt doing it?
seems like mummies here loves JG. but it's v ex leh. can't afford it.
Mom2Nat,
Ur gal & elliot are really cute esp the dimples. My gal only got 1side, if she takes after her daddy will be gd as my hb got super deep dimples. BTW, will u be sending elliot to any classes when he's 2yrs? or wait til 3yrs then send to those N1 classes. Any recommendation ard our place?
Pixie,
Ur pix really RA leh...
Potty training,
May i know how u do it? I haven't potty-train my gal. how can i go abt doing it?
blackbatz
Active Member
Godsent..Let the kids get use to sitting on the potty first..My mum will surely place my boy on the potty every morning with his Potty book (cos he asked for it). Initially, he didn't like to sit on the potty at all. Finally, he watched his gor gor "poo" and read at the same time. So, he wanted the same thing.
Still a long way to go, always tell me poo poo after the "poo" came out. At times, we manage to "catch" the poo in the potty.
Still a long way to go, always tell me poo poo after the "poo" came out. At times, we manage to "catch" the poo in the potty.
kitsune_sg
Active Member
blackbatz, no leh, my maid is new from Philippines kampong type so never use washing machine, vaccuum cleaner etc before. Look after children she did do it before but my gal doesn't really want her cos stranger mah. Anyway, tomorrow I'm going to try out looking after RaeAnne with the maid at home. Cooked rice tonight so that she can fry rice tomorrow. Her own version. Trial run first cos hubby's whole Sat burnt for some YOG even for his reservist. So, Sat we'll be on our own also. 
<font color="0000ff">tongtong / mandy / cheryl</font>
Playdate at Yew Tee this Sunday at 2pm - CONFIRMED!
Just come when your boy is ready to, don't have to be 2pm sharp. We will be at home. I won't prepare food, but will have some fruits for you and your boy. Please feel free to bring toys if you want to, else can play with Hao Re's toys (not a lot, but should be enough).
Will PM you my address and hp no soon. See you!
Playdate at Yew Tee this Sunday at 2pm - CONFIRMED!
Just come when your boy is ready to, don't have to be 2pm sharp. We will be at home. I won't prepare food, but will have some fruits for you and your boy. Please feel free to bring toys if you want to, else can play with Hao Re's toys (not a lot, but should be enough).
Will PM you my address and hp no soon. See you!
Blackbatz
Hahaha... You hardly see me here, but I see you ard in sprees! Hoho... I gotta control my spending liao.
Your #1 still in JG? Very costly leh. I tot of bringing them on weekdays, but if I pay for 2 kids, I peng san ah.
Godsent
You wanna try LNT? Actually I suppose to go for the Fri 2pm class, but Elliot was not well 2 weeks ago, so din try out, oso not cheap, I think 1hr $50+ leh. Now you sahm again hor. Where you intend to put Evan?
Hahaha... You hardly see me here, but I see you ard in sprees! Hoho... I gotta control my spending liao.
Your #1 still in JG? Very costly leh. I tot of bringing them on weekdays, but if I pay for 2 kids, I peng san ah.
Godsent
You wanna try LNT? Actually I suppose to go for the Fri 2pm class, but Elliot was not well 2 weeks ago, so din try out, oso not cheap, I think 1hr $50+ leh. Now you sahm again hor. Where you intend to put Evan?
jess__thomas
New Member
kam
PM/SMS me too can?? cos i will be at Jurong West in the afternn for my nephew bday party. after tat if time allows, we can pop by....
PM/SMS me too can?? cos i will be at Jurong West in the afternn for my nephew bday party. after tat if time allows, we can pop by....
kitsune_sg
Active Member
Sigh, need advice. Early in the morning, my maid made me so angry. Told her last night that we'll cook fried rice for lunch today. When I woke up, I found her frying garlic with all the ingredients for fried rice beside her. I asked her what she was doing and she said she was frying rice. I asked her why is she frying it now? I already told her it's for lunch. Then she said she's hungry. So angry because there is bread and instant noodles in the house which I told her she can always take and eat but she don't want to eat. She cook the fried rice early instead because she is hungry. Told her that taking food without asking is equal to stealing. Does that mean if next time I buy pork chop or beef chop, she can take and cook for herself. In the first place, her breakfast is supposed to be between 6-615am so that she can do housechores and prepare bf for my hubby. Told her I treat stealing very seriously and called the agent to 'counsel' her. Then she changed her excuse, she said she was cooking for me, the fried rice is for me, she only drink coffee in morning. Then my hubby happen to come back cos he forgot something so told him to reinforce the message and then she told him that she was only frying the garlic. She was not going to fry the fried rice. First 'steal', then lie after lie.
Sigh, hubby thinks she can't cope and wants to send her back. He scared she break down and commit suicide. Whereas I don't mind giving her another chance if she is truly repentent.
What do you gals think? Of all days, this has to happen on the first day when I want us to be independent and no need to bring RaeAnne to ILs house.
Sigh, hubby thinks she can't cope and wants to send her back. He scared she break down and commit suicide. Whereas I don't mind giving her another chance if she is truly repentent.
What do you gals think? Of all days, this has to happen on the first day when I want us to be independent and no need to bring RaeAnne to ILs house.
angelwind
Active Member
kitsune
these things happened and they will happen more often than not, so dont get gek sim over such matter....
dont send her back so soon. too early to make judgement to say that she CMI (cannot make it)
this time must be very firm with her liao, and cannot allow her to pile lie onto of another lie.
these things happened and they will happen more often than not, so dont get gek sim over such matter....
dont send her back so soon. too early to make judgement to say that she CMI (cannot make it)
this time must be very firm with her liao, and cannot allow her to pile lie onto of another lie.
kitsune_sg
Active Member
Kam, pixie, ok lar, I'm angry but not gek sim. Hubby ask me to cool down also cos he scared it'll affect me. I told him I'm still calm. If not, how to continue to face her for the rest of the day or days.
Actually, I sort of expected that such things may happen cos yesterday she also took my oyster sauce without asking to put onto the pack of vegetarian bee hoon that ILs bought for her (brought home to eat). And she very clever, take the newly opened botle of premium oyster sauce instead of the vegetarian oyster sauce.
Yesterday when I saw it, I closed 1 eye thought never mind if she goes overboard then I tell her off. But today she really go overboard.
Just now, after letting her cool off for half an hour, I showed her the list of 52 rules again and reminded that she is not supposed to take any food in the house unless Sir or Mdm gives it to her. I told her that the rules were there even before she started working for me and she saw it at agent's house. She must remember by heart. Told her I don't want to listen to her reasons anymore. I asked her if she wants to continue working for me again. She said yes, so I told her I'll give her one more chance. Don't ever do it again. If she still continue to make this kind of mistakes, I will listen to hubby and ask agent to bring her back.
Actually, I sort of expected that such things may happen cos yesterday she also took my oyster sauce without asking to put onto the pack of vegetarian bee hoon that ILs bought for her (brought home to eat). And she very clever, take the newly opened botle of premium oyster sauce instead of the vegetarian oyster sauce.
Yesterday when I saw it, I closed 1 eye thought never mind if she goes overboard then I tell her off. But today she really go overboard.
Just now, after letting her cool off for half an hour, I showed her the list of 52 rules again and reminded that she is not supposed to take any food in the house unless Sir or Mdm gives it to her. I told her that the rules were there even before she started working for me and she saw it at agent's house. She must remember by heart. Told her I don't want to listen to her reasons anymore. I asked her if she wants to continue working for me again. She said yes, so I told her I'll give her one more chance. Don't ever do it again. If she still continue to make this kind of mistakes, I will listen to hubby and ask agent to bring her back.
Kitsune,
You are right that such things will happen sooner or later. I think maids sometimes will "act smart" and act based on their own decision. In this case, just becoz she is hungry and just go and cook the fried rice. She forgot that now she is not in her own house. When you questioned her, she panicked and sort of lie to protect herself. Actually this is bad indeed. But like what you say, this is the first incident so have to give her a chance. I think you did the right thing to tell her very firmly that she must observe the house rules and listen to your instructions. Taking anything (food, clothes, watching TV, or worse, money) is equal to stealing. Got to tell her if she does something wrong, be honest about it. Don't lie as it will worsen the whole issue. If she continues, then better not to keep the maid.
Sorry for my long opinion... BTW, isn't it a bit too early to have fried rice for breakfast??? Is she a big eater?
You are right that such things will happen sooner or later. I think maids sometimes will "act smart" and act based on their own decision. In this case, just becoz she is hungry and just go and cook the fried rice. She forgot that now she is not in her own house. When you questioned her, she panicked and sort of lie to protect herself. Actually this is bad indeed. But like what you say, this is the first incident so have to give her a chance. I think you did the right thing to tell her very firmly that she must observe the house rules and listen to your instructions. Taking anything (food, clothes, watching TV, or worse, money) is equal to stealing. Got to tell her if she does something wrong, be honest about it. Don't lie as it will worsen the whole issue. If she continues, then better not to keep the maid.
Sorry for my long opinion... BTW, isn't it a bit too early to have fried rice for breakfast??? Is she a big eater?
Woah, a lot of quite babies pix!!
Mom2nat,
I see Elliot looks a lot like Nat when she is a baby!
Me long time nvr take pix of Xavier, had been lazing ard.. sleepy, tired, nausea, MS while X demands more attention. sian...
kitsune,
I suppose, u just have to give her step by step instructions for everything until she is used to the routine bah.
Mom2nat,
I see Elliot looks a lot like Nat when she is a baby!
Me long time nvr take pix of Xavier, had been lazing ard.. sleepy, tired, nausea, MS while X demands more attention. sian...
kitsune,
I suppose, u just have to give her step by step instructions for everything until she is used to the routine bah.
angelwind
Active Member
then kitsune, apart from bread and instant noodles, you add biscuits and what not to her "allowed, free to eat food" so she got more variety. every day if i eat bread or instant noodles for bfast i will oso be very sian. not to pamper her, but give ourselves no chance for her to make up crazy excuses lar.
did you set aside her bread/instant noodles etc? some household does that. my mil does that. my maid has a box of biscuits, snacks in the kitchen. and a loaf of bread etc
did you set aside her bread/instant noodles etc? some household does that. my mil does that. my maid has a box of biscuits, snacks in the kitchen. and a loaf of bread etc
babyshannon
Active Member
morning mummies!
mandy,
yup its $500+ for one term, 10 lessons, 2 hr per lesson.
kistune,
dont be angry. most of the time, maids lie cos they are nervous when we questioned them. my maid does that when she makes mistakes, but i always tell her pls dont lie to me, i will know that ur lying and make me dont trust u.
it took abt one mth for her to settle down in my house routine.
for me, my maid can take anything to eat from the house to eat. I dont restrict when or what she wants to eat.
mandy,
yup its $500+ for one term, 10 lessons, 2 hr per lesson.
kistune,
dont be angry. most of the time, maids lie cos they are nervous when we questioned them. my maid does that when she makes mistakes, but i always tell her pls dont lie to me, i will know that ur lying and make me dont trust u.
it took abt one mth for her to settle down in my house routine.
for me, my maid can take anything to eat from the house to eat. I dont restrict when or what she wants to eat.
babyshannon
Active Member
any mummies got any recommendation for post-natal massages lady? do I need to book them in advance?
shannonbaby,
i tried post-natal massage with
http://www.malayheritagejamumassage.blogspot.com/
my massage lady is Mdm Suriyah, i enjoyed her service very much
i tried post-natal massage with
http://www.malayheritagejamumassage.blogspot.com/
my massage lady is Mdm Suriyah, i enjoyed her service very much
kitsune
I heard b4 pple from phil take rice for breakfast. Some not used to bread. My previous maid told me she had 3 meals rice. But i say here I no time for her to cook rice for breakfast ah, we all take bread. It could be a cultural thing... Take it easy. Yest I told my maid to cut the chicken wings into 3 parts, drum, midjoint and tail... I wan to fry claypot rice, well, she DEBONE the chicken wings!!!!! I scolded ah... Mine has been with me more than 1 yr, still gana scolding often hor... Btw, "forgetfulness" comes with the package.
I heard b4 pple from phil take rice for breakfast. Some not used to bread. My previous maid told me she had 3 meals rice. But i say here I no time for her to cook rice for breakfast ah, we all take bread. It could be a cultural thing... Take it easy. Yest I told my maid to cut the chicken wings into 3 parts, drum, midjoint and tail... I wan to fry claypot rice, well, she DEBONE the chicken wings!!!!! I scolded ah... Mine has been with me more than 1 yr, still gana scolding often hor... Btw, "forgetfulness" comes with the package.
jess__thomas
New Member
Re: Maid
today morning my maid also pissed me off. she always spoils javier's toy becos when she clean the toys... the water gets in.. end up got music also no music!!.. and today.. she spoil the tricycle that has music. wah lao, i mean, its not cheap lor. i am contemplating deducting her pay lei.... !!!!
today morning my maid also pissed me off. she always spoils javier's toy becos when she clean the toys... the water gets in.. end up got music also no music!!.. and today.. she spoil the tricycle that has music. wah lao, i mean, its not cheap lor. i am contemplating deducting her pay lei.... !!!!
angelwind
Active Member
tongtong
the case that swindled mummies of 30k for the coach spree is in SMH here lar
the other lady i dunno from here or other places
wah liew, i spree coach before leh. heng mine was a successful; or else my $xxx all fly away. i bot 1 bag and 2 wristlets leh
cheryl
ST
the case that swindled mummies of 30k for the coach spree is in SMH here lar
the other lady i dunno from here or other places
wah liew, i spree coach before leh. heng mine was a successful; or else my $xxx all fly away. i bot 1 bag and 2 wristlets leh
cheryl
ST
Tongtong,
Think the woman who sold Coach and Kate Spade did her spree in SMH. Followed the thread a bit and apparently many buyers are super pissed. Coz that woman is jailed and has no money to repay them. A lot of buyers tried to go to Small Claim Tribune but like very lengthy process and may not get back money too...
Think the woman who sold Coach and Kate Spade did her spree in SMH. Followed the thread a bit and apparently many buyers are super pissed. Coz that woman is jailed and has no money to repay them. A lot of buyers tried to go to Small Claim Tribune but like very lengthy process and may not get back money too...
babyshannon
Active Member
I am quite scared to buy from unfamiliar spree organizers in SMH cos scared they cant delivery the items. usually, will only order from familiar few organizers.
jess__thomas
New Member
no problem!
gd tat u can sell all off
hee...
gd tat u can sell all off
jess__thomas
New Member
hehe.... gd
so headache nw. i cant wait to go home too.. i still got another 2.5 hours.... -_-"
so headache nw. i cant wait to go home too.. i still got another 2.5 hours.... -_-"
kitsune_sg
Active Member
Pixie, shannonbaby, krystle, blackbatz, icy, forgot to mention in my fit of anger in the morning. Yes, I bought 1 big tin of Khong Guan assorted biscuits for her the night before she arrived. I told her what are the foods that she can eat without asking. Biscuilts, bread and instant noodles. But I think she got more expensive tastes lor. Yesterday when I went to NTUC with her, she looked visibly disappointed when I told her I'm not buying fish or pork. Even reminded me to buy 1 big fish for sweet sour fish recipe. I told her they don't keep well and Sir is not back for dinner until Sat. Fish is so expensive ($3+ for 1 fish), how can you and me (2 person) eat 1 big fish? I reminded her that Mdm is not working and we are not rich. But luckily for her, last night, my MIL gave me a fillet of fish which we can use to cook sweet sour fish cos I told her only me and her eating. How to buy big fish from NTUC?
Ya lor, just now she saw her 'same hometown maid' (maid of my maid agent) at the playgroup. Instead of following me into the classroom to pick up RaeAnne as usual, she stopped to talk (or complaint?) to her. I ask her why she didn't follow and she come up with another excuse, say she's arranging the stroller. Please, we haven't even collected her school bag and stuff, what's there to arrange? Told her off don't come up with excuses, I saw you talking to your friend. Don't give me excuses anymore, next time follow me when I go in and pick up RaeAnne.
Just now, I give her 1 big bowl of fried rice, even more than mine but she say she cannot finish. Want to keep for dinner, told her dinner already got rice but up to her lar. If she wants to eat the fried rice, does it mean I no need to leave her any 'sweet sour fish' for dinner anymore?
Ya lor, just now she saw her 'same hometown maid' (maid of my maid agent) at the playgroup. Instead of following me into the classroom to pick up RaeAnne as usual, she stopped to talk (or complaint?) to her. I ask her why she didn't follow and she come up with another excuse, say she's arranging the stroller. Please, we haven't even collected her school bag and stuff, what's there to arrange? Told her off don't come up with excuses, I saw you talking to your friend. Don't give me excuses anymore, next time follow me when I go in and pick up RaeAnne.
Just now, I give her 1 big bowl of fried rice, even more than mine but she say she cannot finish. Want to keep for dinner, told her dinner already got rice but up to her lar. If she wants to eat the fried rice, does it mean I no need to leave her any 'sweet sour fish' for dinner anymore?
kitsune_sg
Active Member
pixie, ya lor, I agree. Stupid, slow, forgetful I still can accept. Teach and teach but at least the heart is pure. Stealing and lying is big NO NO! Anyway, I give her benefit of doubt and one more chance in case she's testing boundaries to see if she can pull wood over my eyes. So far, I have not really scolded her cos point out her mistakes, she can cry liao. Today, give her a '下马威‘, if she still continue to lie then I'll change maid liao. I still have 3 more months before I pop, still got time.