Mel,
both my 2 gals slow in certain development, as to hold bottles, ruoxi only hold her bottles think around 2 years old, this #2 now 7 months same, if we let her hold, less than few seconds her hands drop. ya, she's a bit chubby compare to ruoxi, and i'm happy that she's on TBF, though she drink very little,last time ruoxi drank more compare to #2 but ruoxi never been chubby.
re: gift exchange
i only bought gift to ruoxi and pass to her on the day i back from hospital,and she seems didnt really appreciate, as i really dont know what she likes, any toys she just likes for 3 mins then leave it aside. so it's hard to guess what she want for present.