Ash, I think she does appreciate it. Cos I never force her or raise my voice at her. Even when I am angry, I will just go to her and tell her what she needs to do the next round. She never argues, she always says, yes mdm! We watch TV at times at night together when Kira is already asleep. The best thing is she has 10 yrs of experience working in Singapore. I never really had to tell her how to cook or how to clean (only occassionally). She folds our underwear like in the department stores

, she bakes wonderful cakes, she cooks both european and asian meals. The last time, my hb had to take a climbing course at pasir ris park on a sunday. So she made sandwiches and boil hotdogs for our picnic and sacrificed her day off. She ran after Kira the entire day at the pasir ris park playground.
I just can't treat her like a slave like what many families here do. She is a human to me. She has kids in the philippines to feed, a mum and siblings to support. I want her to have an easy life as far as possible too. Afterall, she has made our lives so much easier now. I cld remember the days when I come home, I put down my bag, I start clearing the living room, then prepare dinner, then clean up, then read books to Kira, then put her to bed and then clean the entire house. And that was my day! Weekends are for cleaning, playing with Kira, that was it, no pat tor, no meeting of friends...