thanks pink, carol. for the bus thingy. I can wait for decal and collect all together.
Pink, its a true that its so frustrating that mr tan gave in eventually. actually he is also very cham and kena sandwiched in between but he did not handle it very well eventually. your mil is not right becoz never think of grandchildren's health. however, she insisted to have the cats and begged her son. this is also not easy le and seems like these cats are really important to her, unless she is out to challenge you instead of really want to keep the cats (am I thinking too much?)
since mr tan cannot turn back now, you have no choice to give in. but u have the flexibility to lay rules for future arrangement like washing machine, rina touching cats or not, etc etc.
i really feel bad for you, but i try to think if that is my mil, how?? i also bo bian eventually. it is really hard to change an old person's thinking, very very hard. i imagine if one day my mil cries bcoz of something, her kids will give in to her too, maybe try their best to give in.
if i have the money, i will buy anohter house and move. haha
i also ever thought that i should give in to my mil 100%, but she has a long life according to her ming4. haha!! so, i am on my toes and i want two dil to share the loads. it should be fair to everyone.