Autum, thanks for sharing this about EJ. i think it is very common for our kids.
my take la, please dun feel agitated because of this.
i always think it is the teacher (or teachers) who mis handle the situations. the kids might not know that they cannot draw on the blocks la unless teachers told them before.
standing at principle's office is not an option to me. it create fears in them. those really misbehave ones are those poking other kids eyes, and cause injury to others.
using marker pens to scribble, means they are bored. if they are bored, we can always offer them choices to do other things. i will do so if i am the teacher.
i will make EJ clean the blocks also after that incident. make him feel that he shouldn't do that because everyone else want to play with the blocks. and EJ will teeacher other kids that they shouldn't do it to the blocks also. chances should be given.
unless, EJ dirtied the block, teacher warned him.. then he did it again out to spike teachers, then it is another story. but i doubt so.
so, of course we cannot go tell teachers they mishandle etc etc. we dun want to be that type of parents.
u should talk to teachers to knwo more.
try to understand what happened and how u can help.
knowing the epxectations , u can manage better. EJ can manage better too.
EJ is smart, he knows others can change school, he can also change mah. otherwise he wont suggest that.
to me, kids feelings are important, not small things. this one can be big things.
u remember BBmarch's story? i think adults are in control of these situations.
kids are sensitive, they know they did wrong, but they din know what is so WRONG to make them dun talk, to make them stand in principles room, and received those 眼光 from the rest of the kids/teachers/even some parents.
it is so hurtful.
u may wnt to explore what are the options if EJ misbehave in their context again.