I think don't go too far for school. The poor kid will end up first one up on bus and last one down home. As for friends or not, I think it depends on character. i don't care where my friends have gone or chosen to go when I choose my school. I just go according to my own wishes. My mom didn't make any choices for me. My BIL wanted to stay with his friends and lamented every step of the way. But his results are good and his friends', not so good. Can't be extending his education along with them.
I think YT is quite similar to me in terms of social disconnectedness or is it really ineptness? Haha. I don't foresee that as a problem anyway and she being so stubborn and argumentative, i don't think i can control her much. In any case, i still feel that education and values at home are way more important than school. As an educator, I have seen too many cases where the kid end up 'bad' or have bad results due to family issues. Sometimes, above and beyond all things, it can just boil down to that. Having a loving family. A family that is supportive.
Now as for "self-directed" learning. i don't believe I've learn any other way! Okay, traditional teachers will be unhappy with me of course, but seriously, no thanks to the teachers. :/