ilovebabies,
actually i told hubby, since my mom cant take care, the next choice wld be me. but he says no. he doesnt want me to be SAHM.
so there's no 3rd - 9th choice. the 10th choice then is my son's father's mother. but my S'sF'sM didnt want to.... so..... quite unbelievable right? anyway it's a long story...
my mom is ok w the idea of having a maid to help her. actually her health has been weak easily strained. whenever she carries kai, the vein from her arms to shoulder to head will ache and cause her severe headache. other than tt, she's quite fine.
so i told her to let the maid carry kai. my mom can focus on feeding, bathing, playing w kai.