gebbera,
being firm is not wrong, we r not rude. we just standing up for our child.and i think that is right. of course, in their eyes, we r wu2 li3. but what to do, in the first place, fr day one when we step into their family, they already look at us with a diff eye, sometimes, look down even though we r all du2 shu1 ren2.....
sometimes, not worth it to talk back, it really will spoil relationship. anyway they are old already, i just say that just when there is a need to , just stand up, the rest, close TWO eyes. an example, before i moved to another home, i stayed in my PIL place for a few mths,. when i moved out, the complained that what for move. Then when we moved into the next street, they demand for our house keys. Then my MIL come and go as she pleases, most of the time, without calling first. Worse, when she come, she go straight to fridge, open up and cristicise the food, what i going to cook. how i going to cook. where i buy what.(that was before the bb came.).
After bb came, worse.... until, my friend came and warn her not to push me too far if not i will take her grandchild and jump down the flat.
They are always possessive and think only that the child is THEIR GRANDCHILD and not OUR child.So they think we cant handle. Which all would agree, that is not true....
I still get very very upset, so the best is to please them when they are around(as long as not at expense of children ,baby) and when they are not around, heave a sigh of relief.....
Gebbera, seems like your mil is quite demanding and sometimes, pushing herself too far . I guess, you have to ignore her ie, say dunno, or say, ask husband first, or something safe. Dont put yourself in a compromising situation. If your hubby can help you , let him do most of the talking.My MIL practise double standards, but to me, no use getting so angry, i hurt myself more. Cool down by avoiding her first.sigh.... dont know how to help you leh.
