Hi Durian lover,
It's very inconvenient to bring a newborn out especially when you are alone. Need to juggle with pram, bag filled with hot flask, bottles etc. So was cope at home most of the time.
And I miss interection with adults. As most of my friends were busy working, none has much time to talk to me. In addition, whatever I do, have to coincide with baby's timing. Maybe my friend can chat during lunch hour etc, but maybe that's the time i have to feed baby etc..... Slowly my focus change and i realised i am becoming an aunty, looking out for discount in newspaper, NTUC having sale on this item etc..... I felt small. And i have nothing to contribute to hubby's conversation except from what i read in the news etc or worse, maybe start to gossip about the next door neighbour etc because thay are the one who surround you........
And with only one income, i have to be prudent in my spending. So besides the inconvenient of bringing baby out, i didn't really get to enjoy shopping.....
Thou friends advised that i can always take a break, go for high tea etc.......... but money is an issue and finding companionship is also a problem when all my frineds are working. A high tea can easily cost $50, not to mention the cab fare to and fro..... And being a mother, just like the others, i would rather spend the money getting new toys or clothes for baby
And with no help at home, besides baby, need to cope with housework. And with a baby, there are definitely more clothes to be wash and will have a higher expectation on the cleanliness of my house. And there's the cooking too! I can't cope with the housework and all and also become very frustrated for failing to meet the my own expectation. I felt like a 'yellow face wife'. Thou hubby never complain but it's really myself. Sometimes so busy with housework and baby, can only bath when my hubby is back........ Imagine whole day being sweaty and smelly........
People have the misconception that being a SAHM will have more time with baby but it's not always true. I spend most of my time on housework and took for granted that i am always physically with baby that at one point i realised i didn't actually spend quality time with her cos i was always thinking about what haven't been done etc.....
I can't even have my meal in peace cos baby needs comes first. Only when she sleep, i can start to cook for lunch and maybe by then she woke up so have to wait till she sleep then i can have my lunch etc........
But that's how i lose weight too lah in addition to BF. I managed to return to my pre pregnancy weight when my girl is 4 months old.
Hee, i painted a very bleak picture of being a SAHM right? Well, it really depends on a person's character. My sister is a SAHM and she enjoy's being one.