Piggy & Catz,
The original plan was my MIL would take care of Sherman, bring food for me and be around for 1-2 hours a day (cos she preferred not to stay at our place and I didn't feel I could climb up and down the stairs at her place). Food is no problem, in USA I always ate the previous night's food for lunch anyway (though my mum keeps nagging about it). Part time cleaner would clean the house. I assumed my mum would be able to come and visit me once or twice a week, never intended for her to come over and help everyday as i felt I could cope, so she knew about this plan.
Then my friends and colleagues kept recommending me Malay massage ladies, which i didn't have the luxury of for my 1st pregnancy. Thought it would be nice to be able to take a bit more care of myself this time round, but would need someone else to be in the house during the massage sessions. That's when I asked my mum if she could come over for 2-3 hours each day for that one week so that I can put my mind at ease during the Malay massage. We also didn't want to overload MIL too much, so hubby was wondering if my mum could come over for 2 days a week to relieve her. That's when mum told me about her holiday plans. Actually, I think I'm just really upset that I'm delivering a baby in Singapore this time and she's flying off for a holiday, regardless of whether I need her help or not. Cos at most don't get massage lady until much later, count on MIL and hope she doesn't overstretch herself, plus hubby will also take some leave. It's just always good to have family members close to standby for support, esp if anything happens *touch wood*. I mean, what if my MIL or Sherman falls sick, then we would really need the additional support and help, who else can I count on if not my own mother? The last time I was in USA for 1st delivery, of course they couldn't be around, but this time they are actually flying off for holiday. And the worst part is that when I got upset about it, my mum blamed me for not telling her earlier and said she thought I didn't need her help. That just made me even more upset, cos I felt like her holiday was so much more important than being around when her daughter delivers her grandchild. Maybe it's my pregnancy hormones too, really couldn't help feeling so upset.
Twinkle,
I'm due in mid- June, may be too late for getting confinement lady, especially if she's popular. Think I've pretty much decided to stick to my old plan and cope on my own with MIL's help.
