Hi Meilan
When's your playgroup and it's in SengKang area? I'm going to one for Keith at Bkt Panjang tomorrow ... hopefully it can get to be a routine one for him. hm, but he's running a slight fever today, perhaps due to teething so I may not go.
Sherlyn
We'll allow our #1 to skip his nap if it's 4pm++. He'll be tired out by 8 something and would be asleep in 5 mins. If not, I'll ask him to go to his bed and close his eyes. Sometimes hugging his big bolster helps. Just yesterday, I got him to sleep at 2pm till 2.30pm as we need to go out for Chinese lesson after that. He doesn't usually throw a tantrum but that might happens after a nap (where he was somehow awoken by his didi). What I do now is to tell him sternly that I'm going to close the door and he can open the door when he stops crying (I do pre-empt him before he sleeps that I'll do that). When the child is throwing a tantrum, I find you can' tell them the steps that you are going to take, so I pre-empt. So far, he hasn't really open the door himself but after shutting him in there for 2 mins, I opened the door to find that he's calm down a fair bit and we can talk.
Meilan/K's mom/Sherlyn, be happy that your mother and/or father is around to help you. My dad passed away more than 20 years ago and my mother is not exactly in the right mind to mind kids. I've struggled to accept this fact (of my mother) for a long time and in fact spoke to a counsellor recently on it. I'm learning to accept that fact that my mother is general in her own world of happiness. You may find it's a struggle to give your mother the balance of self-freedom and fulfilment as a grandmother ... be happy about that struggle. My kids are fed by either their father/mother or jie-jie (my helper). I do wish I have that luxury of a struggle.... just to give you a different point of view :>
.ky.
When's your playgroup and it's in SengKang area? I'm going to one for Keith at Bkt Panjang tomorrow ... hopefully it can get to be a routine one for him. hm, but he's running a slight fever today, perhaps due to teething so I may not go.
Sherlyn
We'll allow our #1 to skip his nap if it's 4pm++. He'll be tired out by 8 something and would be asleep in 5 mins. If not, I'll ask him to go to his bed and close his eyes. Sometimes hugging his big bolster helps. Just yesterday, I got him to sleep at 2pm till 2.30pm as we need to go out for Chinese lesson after that. He doesn't usually throw a tantrum but that might happens after a nap (where he was somehow awoken by his didi). What I do now is to tell him sternly that I'm going to close the door and he can open the door when he stops crying (I do pre-empt him before he sleeps that I'll do that). When the child is throwing a tantrum, I find you can' tell them the steps that you are going to take, so I pre-empt. So far, he hasn't really open the door himself but after shutting him in there for 2 mins, I opened the door to find that he's calm down a fair bit and we can talk.
Meilan/K's mom/Sherlyn, be happy that your mother and/or father is around to help you. My dad passed away more than 20 years ago and my mother is not exactly in the right mind to mind kids. I've struggled to accept this fact (of my mother) for a long time and in fact spoke to a counsellor recently on it. I'm learning to accept that fact that my mother is general in her own world of happiness. You may find it's a struggle to give your mother the balance of self-freedom and fulfilment as a grandmother ... be happy about that struggle. My kids are fed by either their father/mother or jie-jie (my helper). I do wish I have that luxury of a struggle.... just to give you a different point of view :>
.ky.