Jan: Yeah, I think after having a helper, we delegate all housework to her liao... hee hee... yes, initially, hate the idea of a stranger in the house. But I must say with a good helper, quality of life has definitely improved. I think without a helper, & so many people in the house, I'll end up spending all day washing & cleaning up after my MIL & the kids... hee hee..
Not pia mia la, I think it's nice to be able to the work ourselves. We used to do everything ourselves... until #2 was born. I guess if you have more kids, you may want to consider out-sourcing some work, to have more time with them lor.
I'm going back to work after my trip. Eh, I think you are joining my organisation... Kekeke...
I used to work 12hours, 6.5 days a week! But 4 years ago, HB & I reassessed our situation & decided enough was enough. We had to strive a better balance in our lives. So it was decided that I should step back & focus on the family. To spend more time with #1 & have more children, if possible. I am glad we made that decision. Cos we went on to have 2 more princesses.
It is not easy to manage a family with both parents working, but we just try our best.
When I work, I'm very focussed, I do not allow my family to call me for non-emergencies. They will contact HB for minor things. My own parents & sisters will only sms me or wait till I get home to call me. I once scolded my MIL for allowing my previous maid to call me at work(cos MIL & maid argue over some small matter!)
& when I'm off work, I try to do meaningful things with the kids. We swim, we decorate cookies, go on outings, drive to the park, visit the lib, do cross stitch/ craft work. Sometimes, we just take a bus ride for fun. Cos it's only when I'm off work that I can afford to do these with them. During term time, there's bound to be lots of work to catch up & weekends are spent sending kids to classes.
It's just how my HB & I manage lor. So am glad that despite my MIL being my kids' main caregiver, my kids will stick to either HB or me.
Eh, not that I've got lots of freedom la... just that I work hard & play hard(er)... kekeke...