hi ladies!
Long time no pop in here. Congrats to all mommies who popped recently. I'm catching up on reading the posts and seems like many of us have same challenges.
I was also like starluster n MBB, bb seem so guai in hosp but come home liao cry so much! wah, quite stress!
Then i discovered my bb dun like to sleep in my room and i suspect its the aircon sound she sensitive to. First nite we bring her home, we on aircon, she cry and refuse to sleep. We didnt know wat happen. Subsequently, my MIL and Mum took turns to sleep with bb in bb room, they dun on aircon, bb slept so well. During weekend, hb and i took care of bb at nite and again she cry and wont sleep till we put her in her own room! Then, afternoon nap, she nap with us in our room cos we didnt on aircon! Haiz!
then, oso worry not enuf milk cos earlier pump only 10ml. Even now pump like 20-30ml nia.
Then, felt so guilty abt having to supplement with FM since day 2 of bb being home cos she dun latch properly, cry and cry. Plus, bb didnt poo or pee at all! Even got private Lactation Consultant come my home. She oso really stuff my nipple and aerola into bb mouth! I look at her oso dunno how to do it cos like really forcing lidat, plus the angle all wrong, plus, i dun hv 3 hands - 1 to hold bb, one to stop her hands blocking her face and another to force nipple in her mouth!
Was so stress first few days i cried.
Hb was so worried abt me that he told me dun worry abt TBF so much, FM is ok. So he told me to still let bb suckle, then after that, feed EBM, then feed formula (cos EBM not enuff), then after that I pump. I've been doing this since last Wed.
Im oso so zealous in pumping to ensure bb get some BM, my nipples hurt like mad...as i sit here and type, nipples oso throbbing...like deformed lidat, think got blisters.
This morning so angry wif bb cos she refused to drink the EBM from last nite. In the end i had to throw away.
each drop of EBM is really precious!
Thank God i have supportive families (in terms of Bfg) and hb, but sometimes, i still feel "alone", cos there are things that others can help so much with. And sometimes like so many ppl in the house, also tiring....Haiz.... I really look forward to weekends when my hb can be with me.
Sometimes, families can oso cause frustration and i wonder how they ever brought me up when i was bb? Ask my mum to check bb diaper, she said clean, next moment i check, bb poo all over!! I ask her how she check one??! Open the diaper and look lah! My mum can tell me many years never look after bb liao cannot remember! Aiyoh, check diaper oso cannot check properly!!! Then, my dad can say very boring nothing to do. Of cos when bb sleeping nothing to do la!! wah lau! All he does is get scientific abt things, want to put bb on a strict 3hr feeding schedule, ask me why she not on schedule (aiyoh, if bb cry and cry how to follow schedule???), then ask me why she is lighter than her birth weight, like i starving her lidat! I had to explain that it's bcos bb will lose some weight after a couple days (even the doctors said so cos her discharge weight drop a bit) and then he will tell me "i know, i know" like some know it all...if know then why ask me?? And cannot get angry with them cos they are sensitive! Then they (inclg my MIL) can try to give me their "expert" advise! If they can't even check bb diaper properly how to give me expert advise??!! Sigh!
My frens hv oso been supportive. Lately, I've found out that several of my frens oso didn't BF their bb (just FM only) or did wat I did (EBM + FM combi) cos they either hv no milk ss or very low ss. So, i feel a bit better abt using FM to supplement. Even my guy frens shared their wives' experience and told me not to be stressed as their bb is healthy even tho on FM.
Chang,
I know it's not easy your hb not in town for so long and leave u with your MIL. Hang it there. Can u ask your mum to drop by?
och,
i really feel for you. Will keep u in prayer.
Looks like many of us face similar challenges with bb, feedings, family. Let' hang in there together.