hi mommies,
just stumbled on this thread. sometimes I wonder the reason for unhappiness or a hands-off dh is because we are too capable.
housework, cooking, child brearing, taking care of children & ILs, even climbing the coporate ladder, we seems to be able to handle it if we have to and i was thinking perhaps becaus of this, our DH are 'spoilt' into thinking there's no need to contribute in the house or take care of our feelings...
I was looking at my mom & dad, both working, both contributing, mom was quite successful, but now that the children are big, relationship between spouse is a bit battered & torn, even though everyone stays under the same roof...
reflecting on ourselves, (tongue in cheek), maybe we should just 'pretend' don't know how to do this or that, so that our dear marcho DH can help out.
I had a senior, before wedding already made very very clear, no housework for her, all her birthday & wedding anniversay must celebrate with bling bling presents, even when kids came along, DH was still scrubbing the toilets, the only thing she compromised was to allow MIL to stay together, so DH also got nothing to say against her. and she is a high flyer now with 3 children!!
not sure if I am making sense here, but just some thoughts..
jm2c
harriet