I use rubber band to "shoot" my girl.
Benefits:
1. It's easy to bring when we go out
2. quite "invisible" to use. Just pull it long long to intimidate, no need to really twang (don't want a screaming child outside)
3. small area hit, unlike cane - when sweeping the cane in a rage, can accidentally whip face or other unintended area.
How to use:
1. Use at home first.
2. Must be "ruthless".
3. Idea is to show the serious painful consequences of being twang by a rubber band.
4. After that, will achieve the effect of just pulling the rubber band taut on their skin and showing a ruthless look, is enough to fighten them out of their wits.
Example:
Once my girl kenna it so many times (abt 10) at one go that now at the mention of rubber band, she will conform. But that was really not easy lah - to be ruthless. My heart was so painful seeing her pitiful crying face and the red marks on her arms that I cried together with her. But I let her know that it hurt me too to punish her like that and I also hugged her and reasoned it out with her.
Just sharing my discipline tips in a fun way. No guarantee it works for everybody. At least, it works well for my girl. Now already no need to really "shoot" her. Just threaten will do. Whenever she gets frustrated and complains that didi is always fighting for whatever she is taking, I will ask her "shall I use a rubber band to shoot didi?" she will answer "no", which is really quite kind-hearted of her not to inflict the same pains on her brother.
My son is still too young for the rubber band to be used on him but will test it out when the time is ripe. Already I can sense that he will be a tough nut to crack, unlike my daughter.....