TCC - Advise on timing

[lazysaint]

My husband and I are TCC. We are in our late 20s.

Being from a Chinese family, there is pressure to have a baby to be born in the year of the monkey.

We are going to Korea for our honey moon in Nov 2015 and while I do not mind being pregnant, my husband is concerned that I will not be able to enjoy our honeymoon if I am to be pregnant during that time.

At the same time my best friend is getting married in April 2016 and superstition has it that if you are in the first trimester of pregnancy you should avoid weddings. I am going to be her maid of honor. Some pantang people say cannot participate in weddings during 1st trimester.

My husband has a stressful job and although we are somewhat financially comfortable at the moment because we have been saving and we don’t frivolously spend. He also has a low libido although we are both on board for TCC.

My questions is how quickly does one conceive? Should we try right away (like right now and ignore the honeymoon and upcoming wedding) or can we aim in a clear month like for example November (like at or after the honeymoon so that the 1st trimester will be over at the time of the wedding).

 

[diamondfericia]

I feel one should not wait if you are thinking to start a family soon. There are alot of underlying problems which will surface only when you start to TTC (Choy! Touchwood!) Most new couple who are trying will feel the stress when trying to TTC. I have friends who got pregnant after their wedding and some who have tried for years and still no news.

So if you wanna try for a monkey, I suggest you can start trying after your customary.

 

[the_spinsterella]

How quickly one conceive depends on a lot of factors. There are some that get pregnant at first try and some who don't. I've been trying for a baby for 6 years. And I have friends who have been trying for more than 10 years. If you feel you are ready, just go for it. If you wait, you don't know if there may be issues.

 

[TTC2014]

Hi! I was initially facing the same issue as u. I got married last September and we were planning to go honeymoon this January 2015. However it has always been my dream to have a kid so we left it to fate.

I found out I was pregnant in November 2014 (2 months) after getting married and trust me.. Going honeymoon will be the last thing on your mind.

Will like to present the other kind of issues that came up.

As the pregnancy progresses, I started feeling abit sad because of the very limited couple time us as newly wedded had, plus having to adjust to a living environment, new mil etc..

Anyways, good luck to your Ttc journey!