Support group - Miscarriages

crayoncin said:
hopeful mum thank u for sharing. i find this v useful. i had a mid term loss n now a blighted ovum. i was also tested normal after my first loss. after the 2nd loss i feel v heartbroken n my spirit is broken. i just feel so tired n i dont even feel like trying anymore..unlike the times after my first loss when i felt anger n 不甘心. we are waiting to see prof mahesh n i hope he cld give us some hope. i hope the best for you n yr bb n pls inspire us with a successful pregnancy! :)
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thanks babe yes im still scared and worried though excited at the same time. its like after so many losses i really don't know what to expect anymore. finding out my issues give me a glimpse of hope. i can see some light, but no matter what i wont feel safe till i hold the bb in my arms. so just cautiously happy now. i will still break down in tears in the middle of the night though im pregnant now, coz the further i carry the more anxiety it holds. the more hope it gives me the more afraid i am. i believe you all know what im talking abt. so surreal.

when are u seeing Mahesh? but prepared sometimes they just couldn't find out the reason and its really very frustrating and disappointing. when i saw them and they told me they cant find any reasons, i nearly cried in front of them i was so hoping to find a prob with myself so that at least can treat it. no reasons means cant do anything. But Mahesh was very nice, he told me this and i rem " if u have an issue and stay with us i am confident u can bring home a baby. but if u have no issues, and continue to stay with us we will try to help u to bring a baby home, we will try our best."

so u are in good hands :)
 


crayoncin said:
hopeful mum thank u for sharing. i find this v useful. i had a mid term loss n now a blighted ovum. i was also tested normal after my first loss. after the 2nd loss i feel v heartbroken n my spirit is broken. i just feel so tired n i dont even feel like trying anymore..unlike the times after my first loss when i felt anger n 不甘心. we are waiting to see prof mahesh n i hope he cld give us some hope. i hope the best for you n yr bb n pls inspire us with a successful pregnancy! :)
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Don worry u will be in good hands. Prof is v assuring and I always rem what he told me don worry if we can find out the problem I am 95% confident u can bring ur bb home anything let us worry for u if any.

Also from there aft seeing prof n dr sheila I gain some of my confident back n c some light to ttc again as I told myself if I nv try I will nv reach my destinate place now w so many helping hands I shall give it a try even I am still worry till holding rainbow bb on hand.

Let's jiayou ladies we can make it n will graduate w LO on hands. God bless all :)
 
Thank you hopeful mum and give a hope for the encouragement and well wishes. i will try to stay positive and see if i can regain the confidence to ttc. will take baby steps to see what's in store for us. i really want n i cant wait to read both of your successful birth stories! :)
 
@mangoyoyo, yes @hopeful_mum has basically explain what Protein S or anti blood clotting. Basically our anti blood clotting agent drop too low and blood tend to clot easier.

@crayoncin, I hope you were be able to find out the root also. :)

I felt that I am in good hands with Dr Sheila as well, it was a pleasant first visit. She explained clearly to us what to expect.

I went to see the gynae as soon as I am pregnant, as early as 5 weeks so they could better monitor our situation.

*finger cross* lets keep a positive mind on being successful mums with anti blood clotting issues. :)
 
Hopemum, in that case i am wondering if i can do the test now. Dont know if i may fall under this category as my baby heartbeat is so strong initially and suddenly just went silent without reason. I do wish to go another round of heartpain. Want to prevent it.
 
mangoyoyo said:
Hopemum, in that case i am wondering if i can do the test now. Dont know if i may fall under this category as my baby heartbeat is so strong initially and suddenly just went silent without reason. I do wish to go another round of heartpain. Want to prevent it.
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For my case I did all test b4 ttc again as to prevent it to happen again really cannot take it. For my opinion better do all u need b4 ttc again as sometimes we need to on medication during ttc for prevention or take other medication once tested positive. If can find root cause means there is solution for it if not continue w the dr they will do the test when bfp to help u to keep the bb to full term. We will be in good hands. :)
 
mangoyoyo said:
Hopemum, in that case i am wondering if i can do the test now. Dont know if i may fall under this category as my baby heartbeat is so strong initially and suddenly just went silent without reason. I do wish to go another round of heartpain. Want to prevent it.
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Agree with give a hope. But this test I think cannot request to take. So really must see dr to give u.
 
Chew Sok Koon said:
Yes, it is due to polyp and also presence of anti-bodies in my immune system. Further investigation is to check exactly what is the cause of the anti-bodies in the immune system. Polyp is removed and this issued is considered close I guess. *fingers cross*. Next issue is to check what doc can do to control the antibodies so that it won't attack my next pregnancy.

I think I am getting a bit paranoid. Yesterday during the ultrascan - doc said everything is okie. But he just did an abdominal scan not varginal scan. And the scan was like just 5 sec and he said everything is okie. And he said followup 2 months later which I think its a little long. Can I request to the gynea that I want to return 1 month later? Scared that gynea thinks I am being overly paranoid and dun trust his judgement. Hahaha! I think I worried too much sometimes. :oops:
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Just my lil suggestion based on my own experience. I think mbe u can find own rheumatologiest for the required test for antibodies.

For my case I have select 2 rheumatologiest in nuh for further review on my ANA dr anita n dr sheila but the schedule for dr sheila is too packed so I went to c dr anita according to her she ordered those test done in recurrent loss dept for the patient. (Select them based on one news paper news regards to ANA treatment, did mention w their help. Aft that only realise dr anita not actively involve in running test repeated loss). Aft all the blood test result is out for review I have been scheduled to c her for review she discharged me to her everything is clear. But at the moment my heart told me go look for prof mahesh for further review on the report so went to c him in his clinic. From there he told me I had just done half of the test not complete asked me to do the balance test. When the result is out he confirmed that my nk cells is too high so arranged me to c dr sheila. Dr sheila explained to me that my nk cella for normal person is ok but for pregnancy it is not ok it is above average. I need to on steroids n ivig once bfp to support the pregnancy.

Based on my experience mbe rheumatologiest with experience in helping in pregnancy will be the best person to approach cos to them they will know it is uncommon when it is above average whereas for other rheumatologiest even snr consultation to them it is dischargeable case. Therefore right dr for right treatments is very important. Their experiences n background play very important role n part for ttc or pregnancy.

Hope u don mind I have such sharing. Just my concern. :)
 
mangoyoyo said:
If i ask my doc for such tests he sure find me over worried. Usually its 2 consecutive mc then doc will suggest such test?
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Usually 3 consecutive mc then they will suggest. Or like mid term loss I hear some will also suggest. Or still birth etc. Cox most of the times mc are caused by chromosomes that didn't match.

My Gynae also refused to do any tests on me even after the 3rd that's why I went to nuh. Some started doing after 2 tests. One reason they don't do it is because it's very expensive to test.
 
Actually i dont understand why after 3 mc your doc still dont want you to test. If we can try to do something to prevent, why not right? The cost of the test is worthwhile. I actually wanted to do the chromosomes test at my first mc but...hold it back cos doc says knowing it doesnt make much difference now. If my result turn out to be normal i be more fustrated. Heard the test ard $500plus
 
mangoyoyo said:
Actually i dont understand why after 3 mc your doc still dont want you to test. If we can try to do something to prevent, why not right? The cost of the test is worthwhile. I actually wanted to do the chromosomes test at my first mc but...hold it back cos doc says knowing it doesnt make much difference now. If my result turn out to be normal i be more fustrated. Heard the test ard $500plus
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Kyrotyping is abt there cox also no subsidy. But u do for both u and hubby so it's 1kplus

My Gynae felt whatever results I will still try. I guess he is not so verse in high risk pregnancies. But he has done a good job for me for my ectopic. He saved my tube. For my fibroid too everything is done nicely and only keyhole surgery when some less experience Gynae wanna open an incision like csect for me when advising me to remove fibroid.

If I have a normal pregnancy I think I will still go back to him. I seen many gynaes and end up I stick to him. A lot of trust and effort built there. And he didn't mind even when I told him I go seek 2nd opinion but go back and see him again. Very professional. It's just the mc part where I think he didn't find out why for me.
 
Is it diarrhea a post miscarriage symptom?

This is my 5th week after mc. Before and during prev pregnancy i have constipation. After mc, not too bad anymore. But since last thurs morning till now, it seems i will have mild diarrhea at least 3 to 4 times a day.

Thurs night i was having slight fever, cough but it seems to goes off by mid of next day.

I don't remember eating any wrong food.


Im wondering whats wrong. My appointment with my new gynae is fri. Guess i have to change my appointment earlier...
 
meilingg said:
Is it diarrhea a post miscarriage symptom?

This is my 5th week after mc. Before and during prev pregnancy i have constipation. After mc, not too bad anymore. But since last thurs morning till now, it seems i will have mild diarrhea at least 3 to 4 times a day.

Thurs night i was having slight fever, cough but it seems to goes off by mid of next day.

I don't remember eating any wrong food.


Im wondering whats wrong. My appointment with my new gynae is fri. Guess i have to change my appointment earlier...
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U might be having food poisoning. Cox it's not a symptom. At least I have nvr heard of if. Better see a gp
 
Hi ladies,

Need some support here. I've been a silent reader for this thread for quite some time now, after my 2 miscarriages. And I'm also seeing Prof Mahesh and Dr Sheila at their clinic in Mt E Novena. A little bit about myself, I have 2 early miscarriages, both in first trimester. My first mc was attributed to bad luck. However, when it happened 2nd time, I was broken. It was through reading this forum that I found that there are many brave ladies here who are still persevering on despite having similar conditions as me. You have definitely given me a lot of courage to carry on with my ttc journey. I did a series if test, and was diagnosed with Nk cells, sticky blood and Vit D deficiency and was told I need to do IVIG once pregnant.

I have been trying since March after completed all my tests in Feb and tested positive twice with home pregnancy kit. Feeling jittery and nervous right now, as I wait for the time to call up Prof Mahesh. The clinic is not open today, but I will call the after hours number slightly later in the morning. I guess those with history like ours, we will never stop worrying once tested pregnant. At least for me, I don't think I will ever have the same, innocent happiness as I had felt during my first pregnancy.

Ladies, pls lend me some courage.
 
i know what u mean when u cant have a peace of mind n ur worrying yrsrlf sick..i had two losses too. rem..u have found out what you need to do for this pregnancy n u will be able to manage this better. jia you. stay brave. inspire me k!:)
 
Give a hope said:
Just my lil suggestion based on my own experience. I think mbe u can find own rheumatologiest for the required test for antibodies.

For my case I have select 2 rheumatologiest in nuh for further review on my ANA dr anita n dr sheila but the schedule for dr sheila is too packed so I went to c dr anita according to her she ordered those test done in recurrent loss dept for the patient. (Select them based on one news paper news regards to ANA treatment, did mention w their help. Aft that only realise dr anita not actively involve in running test repeated loss). Aft all the blood test result is out for review I have been scheduled to c her for review she discharged me to her everything is clear. But at the moment my heart told me go look for prof mahesh for further review on the report so went to c him in his clinic. From there he told me I had just done half of the test not complete asked me to do the balance test. When the result is out he confirmed that my nk cells is too high so arranged me to c dr sheila. Dr sheila explained to me that my nk cella for normal person is ok but for pregnancy it is not ok it is above average. I need to on steroids n ivig once bfp to support the pregnancy.
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Based on my experience mbe rheumatologiest with experience in helping in pregnancy will be the best person to approach cos to them they will know it is uncommon when it is above average whereas for other rheumatologiest even snr consultation to them it is dischargeable case. Therefore right dr for right treatments is very important. Their experiences n background play very important role n part for ttc or pregnancy.

Hope u don mind I have such sharing. Just my concern. :)
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Hi, thanks for sharing. I am also thinking if I should go to Prof and Dr Shelia since I saw so many positive reviews. Really thanks for sharing.
 
mangoyoyo said:
Actually i dont understand why after 3 mc your doc still dont want you to test. If we can try to do something to prevent, why not right? The cost of the test is worthwhile. I actually wanted to do the chromosomes test at my first mc but...hold it back cos doc says knowing it doesnt make much difference now. If my result turn out to be normal i be more fustrated. Heard the test ard $500plus
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Hi, I have 2 mcs and I have asked my gynea to do the M/C profile test for me and that is when I found to have ANA and now going for further tests and investigation. Because rather than trial and error, and just tell ourselves it's bad luck, I would rather find the cause and increase the chance of having a successful and health pregnancy. So maybe u want to insist to your gynea or you can make appt with Prof? I am still with TMC now and see what my gynea said and may refer me to a specialist.
 
meilingg said:
Is it diarrhea a post miscarriage symptom?

This is my 5th week after mc. Before and during prev pregnancy i have constipation. After mc, not too bad anymore. But since last thurs morning till now, it seems i will have mild diarrhea at least 3 to 4 times a day.

Thurs night i was having slight fever, cough but it seems to goes off by mid of next day.

I don't remember eating any wrong food.


Im wondering whats wrong. My appointment with my new gynae is fri. Guess i have to change my appointment earlier...
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Take care. Maybe it is common cold? I dun have that symptom after my MC. Maybe just give gynea a call to check first?
 
meowmi17 said:
Hi ladies,

Need some support here. I've been a silent reader for this thread for quite some time now, after my 2 miscarriages. And I'm also seeing Prof Mahesh and Dr Sheila at their clinic in Mt E Novena. A little bit about myself, I have 2 early miscarriages, both in first trimester. My first mc was attributed to bad luck. However, when it happened 2nd time, I was broken. It was through reading this forum that I found that there are many brave ladies here who are still persevering on despite having similar conditions as me. You have definitely given me a lot of courage to carry on with my ttc journey. I did a series if test, and was diagnosed with Nk cells, sticky blood and Vit D deficiency and was told I need to do IVIG once pregnant.

I have been trying since March after completed all my tests in Feb and tested positive twice with home pregnancy kit. Feeling jittery and nervous right now, as I wait for the time to call up Prof Mahesh. The clinic is not open today, but I will call the after hours number slightly later in the morning. I guess those with history like ours, we will never stop worrying once tested pregnant. At least for me, I don't think I will ever have the same, innocent happiness as I had felt during my first pregnancy.

Ladies, pls lend me some courage.
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Congrats! =D

Don't worry too much till you see the doctor ok? Jiayou!
 
meowmi17 said:
Hi ladies,

Need some support here. I've been a silent reader for this thread for quite some time now, after my 2 miscarriages. And I'm also seeing Prof Mahesh and Dr Sheila at their clinic in Mt E Novena. A little bit about myself, I have 2 early miscarriages, both in first trimester. My first mc was attributed to bad luck. However, when it happened 2nd time, I was broken. It was through reading this forum that I found that there are many brave ladies here who are still persevering on despite having similar conditions as me. You have definitely given me a lot of courage to carry on with my ttc journey. I did a series if test, and was diagnosed with Nk cells, sticky blood and Vit D deficiency and was told I need to do IVIG once pregnant.

I have been trying since March after completed all my tests in Feb and tested positive twice with home pregnancy kit. Feeling jittery and nervous right now, as I wait for the time to call up Prof Mahesh. The clinic is not open today, but I will call the after hours number slightly later in the morning. I guess those with history like ours, we will never stop worrying once tested pregnant. At least for me, I don't think I will ever have the same, innocent happiness as I had felt during my first pregnancy.

Ladies, pls lend me some courage.
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Hi Meowmi17, dun worry. Your journey will be challenging. But I am sure you are in very good hands after reading so many positive news about Prof and Dr. Sheila. Praying for you.
 
meilingg said:
Congrats! =D

Don't worry too much till you see the doctor ok? Jiayou!
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Thanks :)

Btw, are you on TCM? Might be some ingredients in the med that are not suitable for u. I had similar experience during my first mc. The TCM said 虚不甚补, 拉出来就没事... then i was like... er.... i have also heard of friend who had diarrhea during confinement and she attributed it to red dates in her red date longan. She was ok after leaving out. Maybe call ur tcm?
 
meowmi17 said:
Thanks :)

Btw, are you on TCM? Might be some ingredients in the med that are not suitable for u. I had similar experience during my first mc. The TCM said 虚不甚补, 拉出来就没事... then i was like... er.... i have also heard of friend who had diarrhea during confinement and she attributed it to red dates in her red date longan. She was ok after leaving out. Maybe call ur tcm?
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Nope. I haven't start seeing any tcm yet~
 
meowmi17 said:
Hi ladies,

Need some support here. I've been a silent reader for this thread for quite some time now, after my 2 miscarriages. And I'm also seeing Prof Mahesh and Dr Sheila at their clinic in Mt E Novena. A little bit about myself, I have 2 early miscarriages, both in first trimester. My first mc was attributed to bad luck. However, when it happened 2nd time, I was broken. It was through reading this forum that I found that there are many brave ladies here who are still persevering on despite having similar conditions as me. You have definitely given me a lot of courage to carry on with my ttc journey. I did a series if test, and was diagnosed with Nk cells, sticky blood and Vit D deficiency and was told I need to do IVIG once pregnant.

I have been trying since March after completed all my tests in Feb and tested positive twice with home pregnancy kit. Feeling jittery and nervous right now, as I wait for the time to call up Prof Mahesh. The clinic is not open today, but I will call the after hours number slightly later in the morning. I guess those with history like ours, we will never stop worrying once tested pregnant. At least for me, I don't think I will ever have the same, innocent happiness as I had felt during my first pregnancy.

Ladies, pls lend me some courage.
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Jia you! we have success stories here. *finger cross* :)
I guess we will nvr stop worrying till we hold our baby in our hand.
I felt more and more assured when I hit the mile stones that I set myself, mine was very early lost, so the first 8 weeks was very torturing. you will feel better every time you see your baby on the screen during your scans. :)
 
Prof Mahesh ordered a HCG test. On my way to clinic. He may or may not see me tmr, depending on the test results now I'm worried over every little sensation i feel in my lower abdominal
 
meowmi17 said:
Prof Mahesh ordered a HCG test. On my way to clinic. He may or may not see me tmr, depending on the test results now I'm worried over every little sensation i feel in my lower abdominal
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Babe jia you and congrats! now at least u know what are the issues. its like that they will order HCG test before seeing you to make sure more or less that pregnancy is viable.

last dec, I tested positive and I called immediately. it was a chemical, my hcg results were very low, and by 2nd blood test it still didn't go up much. then my period was a week late and it still came. by the time I see them it was already confirmed as chemical.

maybe ur nk cells not serious, so they will prob put u on prednisolone - steroids. I have been taking it till 16w or 18w. it is safe when in small dosage, so if asked to take don't worry about it.
 
hopeful_mum said:
Babe jia you and congrats! now at least u know what are the issues. its like that they will order HCG test before seeing you to make sure more or less that pregnancy is viable.

last dec, I tested positive and I called immediately. it was a chemical, my hcg results were very low, and by 2nd blood test it still didn't go up much. then my period was a week late and it still came. by the time I see them it was already confirmed as chemical.

maybe ur nk cells not serious, so they will prob put u on prednisolone - steroids. I have been taking it till 16w or 18w. it is safe when in small dosage, so if asked to take don't worry about it.
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I've already taken my first dosage of prednisolone and duphaston. *Fingers crossed*
 
@meowmi17, now still very early? maybe 5 weeks? HCG will be good, coz maybe scan also can't see anything. scare urself for nothing. I only saw a sac at 5+week, no yolk, then at week 6+ got yolk and hb already.
 
meowmi17 said:
Yup. Super nervous haha. Think I'm paranoid. Worry over every little twitch in my abdominal.
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its normal. don't say u, im 24 weeks coming wed I also feel like some paranoid weirdo, esp when I don't feel movement. I will poke and drink cold water to make beanie moves.
 
maybe the blood test is last min arrange one so not tt fast get results? mine was becoz I went back for a review of HCG, doc already order the test for me. Could be it is also KK, coz women hospital ma, run this kind of tests faster.

Don't worry too much ya.
 
meowmi17 said:
Hi ladies,

Need some support here. I've been a silent reader for this thread for quite some time now, after my 2 miscarriages. And I'm also seeing Prof Mahesh and Dr Sheila at their clinic in Mt E Novena. A little bit about myself, I have 2 early miscarriages, both in first trimester. My first mc was attributed to bad luck. However, when it happened 2nd time, I was broken. It was through reading this forum that I found that there are many brave ladies here who are still persevering on despite having similar conditions as me. You have definitely given me a lot of courage to carry on with my ttc journey. I did a series if test, and was diagnosed with Nk cells, sticky blood and Vit D deficiency and was told I need to do IVIG once pregnant.

I have been trying since March after completed all my tests in Feb and tested positive twice with home pregnancy kit. Feeling jittery and nervous right now, as I wait for the time to call up Prof Mahesh. The clinic is not open today, but I will call the after hours number slightly later in the morning. I guess those with history like ours, we will never stop worrying once tested pregnant. At least for me, I don't think I will ever have the same, innocent happiness as I had felt during my first pregnancy.

Ladies, pls lend me some courage.
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Don worry u r in good hands. U will be fine. As for now prof will order hcg for u n to be done 2days later to determine the pregnancy. Once the number hit 3k n above prof will done vscan from there u can c the yoke sac. Den prof will c u every week till ur pregnancy is stable ard 10 weeks den it will be 2 weeks later for oscar. From there u will be seeing dr sheila to discuss on more details on ivig plus sticky blood. Dr sheila will arrange for u n c u once a mth a week aft ivig. My vitamin D also below average according to dr sheila so I had 2 vitamin D every morning as support during ttc till now. Did my bone, vitamin D n protein S test n the test result for bone n vitamin D passed now waiting for protein S. Pray hard I'm pass my protein S n glucose test. My vitamin D dr sheila said good that it back to the range n will continue consume 2 vitamin D every morning.

Jiayou for ur this pregnancy. I am also fighting fighting n jiayou here :)
 
Give a hope said:
Don worry u r in good hands. U will be fine. As for now prof will order hcg for u n to be done 2days later to determine the pregnancy. Once the number hit 3k n above prof will done vscan from there u can c the yoke sac. Den prof will c u every week till ur pregnancy is stable ard 10 weeks den it will be 2 weeks later for oscar. From there u will be seeing dr sheila to discuss on more details on ivig plus sticky blood. Dr sheila will arrange for u n c u once a mth a week aft ivig. My vitamin D also below average according to dr sheila so I had 2 vitamin D every morning as support during ttc till now. Did my bone, vitamin D n protein S test n the test result for bone n vitamin D passed now waiting for protein S. Pray hard I'm pass my protein S n glucose test. My vitamin D dr sheila said good that it back to the range n will continue consume 2 vitamin D every morning.

Jiayou for ur this pregnancy. I am also fighting fighting n jiayou here :)
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Thanks babe. IVIG is as soon as determined pregnancy is viable right?
 
Chew Sok Koon said:
Hi, thanks for sharing. I am also thinking if I should go to Prof and Dr Shelia since I saw so many positive reviews. Really thanks for sharing.
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For me my thinking is high risk pregnancy shld c high risk dr for right treatments cos repeated loss is not common just like prof said every dr are expert in diff areas.

You may discuss w ur hub 1st is there anything u both would like to find out further n etc. Jiayou :)
 

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meowmi17 said:
Yup. Super nervous haha. Think I'm paranoid. Worry over every little twitch in my abdominal.
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very normal for everyone of us here. Not just u even for myself I am still worry I think until the day I am holding my rainbow bb on hand. Now is jiayou in fighting n don worry u will be on HPL till pregnancy stablise :)
 
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