Recent miscarriage support
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shirleyten
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Sters.. be brave ya.. let time heals.. the emptiness will always be there. I am sure one day the Rainbow baby will come. Jia You
LovesNewBorns
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Well Done and Congrats , KrissYun.Hi ladies... Just want to share my own experience, I got a mc in July 2012 thru D&C at 7weeks cos baby didn't have a heartbeat. I even went for a second Gynae opinion and it was the same outcome. Both Gynaes told me not to blame ourselves, it just happened and there's all sort of reasons behind but there's none which we can pin point to. 安慰的是 at least we are able to conceive, but it just went wrong somewhere. However, I wasn't able to accept it and was crying almost everyday, i blamed myself for the mc. I can't stand the sight of preg ladies outside, avoided friends who were preg, was happy for them but yet I was feeling very sad for myself. It got worst when friends immediately got preg right after that got married. I was already married for 4 years in 2012, everyone have been stressing us to have a baby. It's not that we don't want, we love kids but then it was just never meant to be. People won't understand unless they been through the same. I can't blame them, but it's really tiring that everyone keep asking and they assume that we didn't want kids. The baby was our best 4th year anniversary present in 2012, but he/she didn't make it.
After my mc, I went TCM to adjust my body, hoping to conceive but my hubby was pressurized by the fact that I wanted a baby so much and sex wasn't enjoyable. We talked it out and decided that we should just let it be 顺其自然 instead of persistent trying. So I stopped my TCM sessions.
Last year May 2014, closed to 2 years after my mc, we found out that I was pregnant (not planned) and my rainbow baby edd is 28jan15... Just a few weeks more. Wanna tell you all not to give up, sometimes it happens when you least expected it. It has been a long journey for us, and I give thanks to what I have now. Have hope, have faith, most importantly to stay happy and healthy... Jiayou to all of you
Have a safe and speedy delivery .
Truth... Asking too many 'Whys??' When there is no right answers will only add stress and unhappiness to you and pp ard you .
MCs are mostly not the moms-to-bes fault. Some due medical reasons , many due to lots of unknown causes.
Don't beat yourself up , Sters. Heads up , chest out , put a smile on ur face and face a better tomorrow .
God Bless !!
krissyun
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Thank you. I have delivered on 13th Jan.
Jiayou to the rest... May you be blessed with rainbow baby soon *sprinkles baby dust*
I would like to share my unfortunate stories. I had a miscarriage and went thru d&e in Nov 14. I had 2 lovely girls but I wanted an addition to my family. The last time I gave birth was at 3 years plus ago and I hv not reach 35. It was a terrible experience. I happily went to my gyne to realise she could not detect any sac at 6wks. She suspected that I had an ectopic pregnancy. Hence I went for 3 hcg tests..results are bad..It was all less than a thousand and it did not double...I was freak out by the figures. I was asked by my doc if I want to take a jab n end the pregnancy or we risk n wait...its a tough decision. Dr eventually decided to wait for a few more days...but arrangements for laparoscopy was made on my next apt. Luckily doc managed to detect the sac at the very morning b4 the surgery. It was eventually diagnosed that the growth is too slow and embryo not yet been seen...hence it's not a viable pregnancy. Hence d&e was done. During the period of resting, I eat all that I need to eat to build up my immunity, went tcm to regulate my body...All in my mind is to try again...
I was given the green light to try after 1 cycle. I only managed to conceive after the 2nd cycle. Nevertheless I was very happy. The baby keeps me motivated every single day. My doc gave me a prolution jab on a weekly basis and I took dhapston pills on a daily basis to strengthen this pregnancy. During my first scan,doc saw the sac and it matches with my dates so I'm safe for now..looks optimistic. I was so excited and looking forward for a Sg50 bb in Oct. I thought by following doc instructions, everything should be fine. However I was hit with another blow. During my 2nd scan, doc said that the embryo is only 1.8mm. It is only equivalent to 6 wks when it should be 7wks. At this stage it should be growing very fast. She told me frankly that she don't think it's viable and it doesn't looks good. To confirm it, I was asked to take 2 hcg tests again. Results show that it was 50000plus at first test. I thought hey there may be a miracle as it matches with the hcg range at 7 wks. However the second test shows 70000plus. It did not double. Dr still stand firm at her views. To convince us, she asked me to go for another scan at the tmc diagnostic centre to get a 3rd party view. If the views are still the same and bb still not growing, I can then make a final decision. I was practically given with no hopes. These few days, I keep on eating thinking that this is the last thing that I can do for my bb. Let bb enjoy the food while it could...I cannot believe y this is happening to me again...
I was given the green light to try after 1 cycle. I only managed to conceive after the 2nd cycle. Nevertheless I was very happy. The baby keeps me motivated every single day. My doc gave me a prolution jab on a weekly basis and I took dhapston pills on a daily basis to strengthen this pregnancy. During my first scan,doc saw the sac and it matches with my dates so I'm safe for now..looks optimistic. I was so excited and looking forward for a Sg50 bb in Oct. I thought by following doc instructions, everything should be fine. However I was hit with another blow. During my 2nd scan, doc said that the embryo is only 1.8mm. It is only equivalent to 6 wks when it should be 7wks. At this stage it should be growing very fast. She told me frankly that she don't think it's viable and it doesn't looks good. To confirm it, I was asked to take 2 hcg tests again. Results show that it was 50000plus at first test. I thought hey there may be a miracle as it matches with the hcg range at 7 wks. However the second test shows 70000plus. It did not double. Dr still stand firm at her views. To convince us, she asked me to go for another scan at the tmc diagnostic centre to get a 3rd party view. If the views are still the same and bb still not growing, I can then make a final decision. I was practically given with no hopes. These few days, I keep on eating thinking that this is the last thing that I can do for my bb. Let bb enjoy the food while it could...I cannot believe y this is happening to me again...
LovesNewBorns
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So Sorry to hear .. My heart goes out to you . You are so brave and thank you for sharing . Your girls are so lucky to have a mummy like you , who doesn't give up that easily .
Go for a another opinion .. Hopefully ur bb is starting to grow .. pray all is better .Stay positive and stay strong .
God bless
Go for a another opinion .. Hopefully ur bb is starting to grow .. pray all is better .Stay positive and stay strong .
God bless
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rainbowdst
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@starz88 i had similar case with you. Last sept i did my d&c as my bb din grow and did not have hb around 6w. Then now im pregnant again but before i set apptm w gynae i got brown discharge so went see my gynae on sat. Scan and only can see small sac but empty which is based on my last menses should be around 6w. Gave me injection and ask to see me again on wed which is today.
But next day on sunday i got bleeding like AF bleed rush to KK at night. The doc there scan to find empty sac also. Ask me to do blood test on that day and again on wed. So today i completed my both blood test and result my hcg level is drop but not to the extend i am MC, suspect ectopic preg did pelvis scan and said is not ectopic preg but they dun noe what happening to me. Confirm i pregnant but not healthy one as the hcg was drop. Tot is MC since got bleeding but the hcg level did not drop much. Suggest to do blood test again in 2 days time.
I am so devastated and going to look other gynae to check again. So i understand your situation and i cried a lot when i hear this news again, why when i can conceived yet both not successful.
But I just left it to the God and be happy for whatever it is although my age is catching up (39 this yr) but I will still try and hope God can bless another healthy one for me.
Jia you mummy
But next day on sunday i got bleeding like AF bleed rush to KK at night. The doc there scan to find empty sac also. Ask me to do blood test on that day and again on wed. So today i completed my both blood test and result my hcg level is drop but not to the extend i am MC, suspect ectopic preg did pelvis scan and said is not ectopic preg but they dun noe what happening to me. Confirm i pregnant but not healthy one as the hcg was drop. Tot is MC since got bleeding but the hcg level did not drop much. Suggest to do blood test again in 2 days time.
I am so devastated and going to look other gynae to check again. So i understand your situation and i cried a lot when i hear this news again, why when i can conceived yet both not successful.
But I just left it to the God and be happy for whatever it is although my age is catching up (39 this yr) but I will still try and hope God can bless another healthy one for me.
Jia you mummy
@helioadele sorry to hear ur story. Many a times the sac is there just the embryo doesnt grow. If the hcg doesnt double and it drops, likely means its not very successful. In my two past exp, aft the hcg test n scan my doc gave me a very firm view of tht its not goin to work out..tho it hurts but at least she didnt giv me unnecessary hopes. When my gyne noticed that the shape of the sac is irregular she knows smthg is not right. My gyne is very experienced, u can consider, hope she can help u. She is Dr Yvonne Chan from tmc #06-06.
I am too very determined in trying again despite many objection from my family bec 2 d&c in 4 mths has defintely affected my body n health. But i wont give up..i alw tell myself prob the bb doesnt meant to be ours.i touch my womb and kèeps repeating mummy loves u till i am knock out from ga during the surgery. Bb will hear tht. JIA YOU
I am too very determined in trying again despite many objection from my family bec 2 d&c in 4 mths has defintely affected my body n health. But i wont give up..i alw tell myself prob the bb doesnt meant to be ours.i touch my womb and kèeps repeating mummy loves u till i am knock out from ga during the surgery. Bb will hear tht. JIA YOU
rainbowdst
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@starz88 yes i did not give any hope with this one as when my gynae scan said the sac is very small n empty, he just gv me shot to see how after 5 days then i exp bleeding so i know this one is another failed pregnancy. Did cry when come out frm gynae clinic but not as bad as my 1st mc as that one got everything just no hb. I want to try again as my age catching, do you see any tcm after your mc??
First one i did not only consume confinement food for a week. Not sure about this time cos i dun really know about tcm.
My previous gynae is old and do not do obstretic anymore so im thinking not to see him anymore as no point see him halfway then need to refer me to others. Going to see doc Chan HK frm gleaneglas today to see what his view on my this pregnancy as I dun really comfortable w KK o&g 24hr clinic there beside i need one gynae to do follow up on me also.
Read from other forum you just did d&c on last tuesd, rest well and we jia you together again)
Never give up)
First one i did not only consume confinement food for a week. Not sure about this time cos i dun really know about tcm.
My previous gynae is old and do not do obstretic anymore so im thinking not to see him anymore as no point see him halfway then need to refer me to others. Going to see doc Chan HK frm gleaneglas today to see what his view on my this pregnancy as I dun really comfortable w KK o&g 24hr clinic there beside i need one gynae to do follow up on me also.
Read from other forum you just did d&c on last tuesd, rest well and we jia you together again
)Never give up
)@helioadele glad tht u are mentally prepared..rest well and try again. I pray hard god will be gd to us the nxt round. U hv any children?
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Jus went for my review. My antibodies result is out and everything is fine so i did not cause the ms...no one did actually. It just did not develop well itself and no one can prevent it. My gyne was explaining and consoling me at the same time. Really mere unlucky. She makes me feel really much better..i kn she will do her best to help me the nxt round..hope with tht i can sleep better tonight... im also exploring some options where i can maximise my rest to prepare for the nxt one.
U keep me update. We jia you tog.
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Jus went for my review. My antibodies result is out and everything is fine so i did not cause the ms...no one did actually. It just did not develop well itself and no one can prevent it. My gyne was explaining and consoling me at the same time. Really mere unlucky. She makes me feel really much better..i kn she will do her best to help me the nxt round..hope with tht i can sleep better tonight... im also exploring some options where i can maximise my rest to prepare for the nxt one.
U keep me update. We jia you tog.
luvalwiz
New Member
I just had a miscarriage.
I had a FET on 5 March, blood test on 21 March which shows HCG level at 1403.
On 1 April, I had a huge bleeding with clots, I went to kkh o&g, at that point they saw something during the ultrasound, but just a sac and a yolk sac. Due to my bleeding, they admitted me and schedule for another scan the next morning. But I did not experience any pain or cramps at all.
When I went for the scan on 2 April, they can't see anything in uterus at all. So they deduced that I have a complete miscarriage.
I am discharged from kkh today.
I had a FET on 5 March, blood test on 21 March which shows HCG level at 1403.
On 1 April, I had a huge bleeding with clots, I went to kkh o&g, at that point they saw something during the ultrasound, but just a sac and a yolk sac. Due to my bleeding, they admitted me and schedule for another scan the next morning. But I did not experience any pain or cramps at all.
When I went for the scan on 2 April, they can't see anything in uterus at all. So they deduced that I have a complete miscarriage.
I am discharged from kkh today.
rainbowdst
Member
@luvalwiz yours condition is similar like mine. when i got bleeding and rush to KK at night they only can see empty sac and ask me to do blood test twice and suspected ectopic pregnancy then send for scan on same day with my second blood test but weird thing they can't find anything from the scan so ask me to come again in 2 days time to do blood test as my blood test still show that I am pregnant and the drop of the hcg level not to the extend i am MC.
Then the next day I saw Doc chan at gleneagles heard his scan machine is those 4D type and only few doc/hospital in sin using that. From his scan can see that my sac is still attached to my womb just is empty so part of MC just the sac still there. I still got bleeding but no pain nothing going to see him again in monday to see whether the sac drop down by itself if not then he will clean it for me said is minor operation. I din get back to KKH then.
@starz88 yes doc chan also told me that is just part of unlucky and due to my age also just the egg I produced is not good. Is happened but still can get good pregnancy, he told me his mother got him when she was 40 yrs old. So is kind of assuring also. He did do some culture test for me so let's see it on monday.
I had one girl 3 years old but been trying for another one since last year. I did not see any TCM for my 1st MC din really do confinement aswell as still have my gal to take care.
Maybe this time round I will try go see TCM.
Yes we jia you together and try to relax also ya. Sometimes when we relax and happy and did not think about it good news will coming without we realize. Keep in touch and hopefully God will bless us soon)
Then the next day I saw Doc chan at gleneagles heard his scan machine is those 4D type and only few doc/hospital in sin using that. From his scan can see that my sac is still attached to my womb just is empty so part of MC just the sac still there. I still got bleeding but no pain nothing going to see him again in monday to see whether the sac drop down by itself if not then he will clean it for me said is minor operation. I din get back to KKH then.
@starz88 yes doc chan also told me that is just part of unlucky and due to my age also just the egg I produced is not good. Is happened but still can get good pregnancy, he told me his mother got him when she was 40 yrs old. So is kind of assuring also. He did do some culture test for me so let's see it on monday.
I had one girl 3 years old but been trying for another one since last year. I did not see any TCM for my 1st MC din really do confinement aswell as still have my gal to take care.
Maybe this time round I will try go see TCM.
Yes we jia you together and try to relax also ya. Sometimes when we relax and happy and did not think about it good news will coming without we realize. Keep in touch and hopefully God will bless us soon
)
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rainbowdst
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Hi there, i am new around here and would like to share my story with the ladies who have lost their babies in a miscarriage/stillbirth.
I had a stillbirth in September 2014 when my baby girl was 5.5 months old. My pregnancy was going on fine without any complications and i could still remember on a fateful sunday, i teared suddenly and i told my husband that i was so worried for my child as she isn't moving much for the past 1-2 days. Thinking back, i guess it was telepathy between the two of us. Being a first time mum, i did not see my gynae immediately and it was not until two weeks later that i realised my baby girl's heartbeat had stopped during my routine checkup. We froze and reality hit me that night when i was picking out some of her clothes for her cremation the next day. i could remember myself sobbing uncontrollably and was questioning the Creator on why my child has to be taken away from me.
I delivered my child via natural delivery after 23 hours of labour and i blindfolded myself during the process because i couldn't bear to see her lifeless body and i felt so sorry for my child who couldn't manage to see the world that she deserves so much.
Life after the miscarriage was very tough and i spent 2 months wallowing in sorrow and everything reminds me of her. I would say that i am a very strong woman but it's the first time that i ever felt so helpless in life. I turned to my faith for enlightenment and i would pray for my baby girl every night; praying that she is healthy and well in Happy Land.
Fast forward 6 months later, i am now 3 months pregnant with my second child. It was immense happiness for the two of us but that said, it comes with worries everyday and i would tell myself to have faith and focus on channeling my energy to take care of myself and to love this child as much as i could.
I understand how it feels to lose a child and the fear of trying for a second one but all these fears were overcame by my hopes to be reunited with my baby again. I engaged the services of the same gynae (Doctor Sim Lee Ngor from TMC) again and she provided me with a lot of support; making me believe that i too, have the ability to give birth to a healthy child.
Hope i have shed some light on my miscarriage journey and all the best to everyone here
I had a stillbirth in September 2014 when my baby girl was 5.5 months old. My pregnancy was going on fine without any complications and i could still remember on a fateful sunday, i teared suddenly and i told my husband that i was so worried for my child as she isn't moving much for the past 1-2 days. Thinking back, i guess it was telepathy between the two of us. Being a first time mum, i did not see my gynae immediately and it was not until two weeks later that i realised my baby girl's heartbeat had stopped during my routine checkup. We froze and reality hit me that night when i was picking out some of her clothes for her cremation the next day. i could remember myself sobbing uncontrollably and was questioning the Creator on why my child has to be taken away from me.
I delivered my child via natural delivery after 23 hours of labour and i blindfolded myself during the process because i couldn't bear to see her lifeless body and i felt so sorry for my child who couldn't manage to see the world that she deserves so much.
Life after the miscarriage was very tough and i spent 2 months wallowing in sorrow and everything reminds me of her. I would say that i am a very strong woman but it's the first time that i ever felt so helpless in life. I turned to my faith for enlightenment and i would pray for my baby girl every night; praying that she is healthy and well in Happy Land.
Fast forward 6 months later, i am now 3 months pregnant with my second child. It was immense happiness for the two of us but that said, it comes with worries everyday and i would tell myself to have faith and focus on channeling my energy to take care of myself and to love this child as much as i could.
I understand how it feels to lose a child and the fear of trying for a second one but all these fears were overcame by my hopes to be reunited with my baby again. I engaged the services of the same gynae (Doctor Sim Lee Ngor from TMC) again and she provided me with a lot of support; making me believe that i too, have the ability to give birth to a healthy child.
Hope i have shed some light on my miscarriage journey and all the best to everyone here
bunnymuimui
Active Member
Chanced upon your entry. I went through a recent miscarriage and I opted for D&C. Thanks for sharing your life story of loss and courage. We need such reminders that there is goodness out there
Hi there, i am new around here and would like to share my story with the ladies who have lost their babies in a miscarriage/stillbirth.
I had a stillbirth in September 2014 when my baby girl was 5.5 months old. My pregnancy was going on fine without any complications and i could still remember on a fateful sunday, i teared suddenly and i told my husband that i was so worried for my child as she isn't moving much for the past 1-2 days. Thinking back, i guess it was telepathy between the two of us. Being a first time mum, i did not see my gynae immediately and it was not until two weeks later that i realised my baby girl's heartbeat had stopped during my routine checkup. We froze and reality hit me that night when i was picking out some of her clothes for her cremation the next day. i could remember myself sobbing uncontrollably and was questioning the Creator on why my child has to be taken away from me.
I delivered my child via natural delivery after 23 hours of labour and i blindfolded myself during the process because i couldn't bear to see her lifeless body and i felt so sorry for my child who couldn't manage to see the world that she deserves so much.
Life after the miscarriage was very tough and i spent 2 months wallowing in sorrow and everything reminds me of her. I would say that i am a very strong woman but it's the first time that i ever felt so helpless in life. I turned to my faith for enlightenment and i would pray for my baby girl every night; praying that she is healthy and well in Happy Land.
Fast forward 6 months later, i am now 3 months pregnant with my second child. It was immense happiness for the two of us but that said, it comes with worries everyday and i would tell myself to have faith and focus on channeling my energy to take care of myself and to love this child as much as i could.
I understand how it feels to lose a child and the fear of trying for a second one but all these fears were overcame by my hopes to be reunited with my baby again. I engaged the services of the same gynae (Doctor Sim Lee Ngor from TMC) again and she provided me with a lot of support; making me believe that i too, have the ability to give birth to a healthy child.
Hope i have shed some light on my miscarriage journey and all the best to everyone here
urara
Member
Me too ... Just had my d&c today sigh very traumatic experience , especially the cramps and the bleeding .. This was worse than childbirth ! I was expecting my #3 this time. however visits to gynae weren't so assertive and somehow I feel this pregnancy was not going to make it thru.. Sigh the questions asked are always y God are you giving me this gift and then taking it away from me with all these suffering?
I hope all of us move on and have a BFP!
I hope all of us move on and have a BFP!
LovesNewBorns
Active Member
You are very brave and thanks for sharing -Hi there, i am new around here and would like to share my story with the ladies who have lost their babies in a miscarriage/stillbirth.
I had a stillbirth in September 2014 when my baby girl was 5.5 months old. My pregnancy was going on fine without any complications and i could still remember on a fateful sunday, i teared suddenly and i told my husband that i was so worried for my child as she isn't moving much for the past 1-2 days. Thinking back, i guess it was telepathy between the two of us. Being a first time mum, i did not see my gynae immediately and it was not until two weeks later that i realised my baby girl's heartbeat had stopped during my routine checkup. We froze and reality hit me that night when i was picking out some of her clothes for her cremation the next day. i could remember myself sobbing uncontrollably and was questioning the Creator on why my child has to be taken away from me.
I delivered my child via natural delivery after 23 hours of labour and i blindfolded myself during the process because i couldn't bear to see her lifeless body and i felt so sorry for my child who couldn't manage to see the world that she deserves so much.
Life after the miscarriage was very tough and i spent 2 months wallowing in sorrow and everything reminds me of her. I would say that i am a very strong woman but it's the first time that i ever felt so helpless in life. I turned to my faith for enlightenment and i would pray for my baby girl every night; praying that she is healthy and well in Happy Land.
Fast forward 6 months later, i am now 3 months pregnant with my second child. It was immense happiness for the two of us but that said, it comes with worries everyday and i would tell myself to have faith and focus on channeling my energy to take care of myself and to love this child as much as i could.
I understand how it feels to lose a child and the fear of trying for a second one but all these fears were overcame by my hopes to be reunited with my baby again. I engaged the services of the same gynae (Doctor Sim Lee Ngor from TMC) again and she provided me with a lot of support; making me believe that i too, have the ability to give birth to a healthy child.
Hope i have shed some light on my miscarriage journey and all the best to everyone here
congrats on being a mommy soon - Wishing you the very best --- May you have a smooth and enjoyable pregnancy & also a swft and safe delivery -
LovesNewBorns
Active Member
Sorry for ur lost -- stay strong -
Some things are just not to be - Take care , eat and rest well -
UnUn
New Member
Thank u for this miscarriage thread. I just found out I'm included yesterday as well.
My 1st baby I went to a private clinic but for this 2nd I wanna change to KK due more convenient to go. It should be my 9 weeks as of today. Yesterday I went to KK for 1st time check up as the KK schedule is very fulled. I just knew during day time clinic, it isn't the gynae who did ultrasound. I had to wait for AMC room then they will scan and write report for doctor. We could see something like a baby but no sign of heartbeat. Everything on screen was not clear and very quiet.
Then the gynae read the report and said seems like the baby stopped growing for a week, seeing from the length. Also no heartbeat then should be miscarriage. She didn't give me options for 2nd check up at all. Only if I want D&C right away or wait for natural but will prescribe me antibiotics. We will have ultrasound again next 2 weeks to see if we will do D&C later.
So far I don't have any signs of miscarriage, no bleeding, good appetite, nausea feeling from time to time. Last night I wondered should I try other gynae but seems like the ultrasound is quite accurate, isn't it. My husband told me to "accept reality", but I just wonder if I should give some more time...I feel more and more depressed and scared of what will happen very soon.
My 1st baby I went to a private clinic but for this 2nd I wanna change to KK due more convenient to go. It should be my 9 weeks as of today. Yesterday I went to KK for 1st time check up as the KK schedule is very fulled. I just knew during day time clinic, it isn't the gynae who did ultrasound. I had to wait for AMC room then they will scan and write report for doctor. We could see something like a baby but no sign of heartbeat. Everything on screen was not clear and very quiet.
Then the gynae read the report and said seems like the baby stopped growing for a week, seeing from the length. Also no heartbeat then should be miscarriage. She didn't give me options for 2nd check up at all. Only if I want D&C right away or wait for natural but will prescribe me antibiotics. We will have ultrasound again next 2 weeks to see if we will do D&C later.
So far I don't have any signs of miscarriage, no bleeding, good appetite, nausea feeling from time to time. Last night I wondered should I try other gynae but seems like the ultrasound is quite accurate, isn't it. My husband told me to "accept reality", but I just wonder if I should give some more time...I feel more and more depressed and scared of what will happen very soon.
LovesNewBorns
Active Member
Please please !!
PLEASE for ur own safety .
Please Do not wait and see .. 2 weeks is a long time . Go to another Dr for 2nd review ASAP!
If 'Bb' is not growing / no heart beat etc . It is very important to do what needs to be done .
It is very dangerous for YOU , to wait a while , 2 wks to 'see how' .?!? It can get TOXIC within you .
Go see another doctor .. PLEASE
Stay strong for ur number 1 and family . IF This is just not meant to be .. Don't get too upset . You must stay well and healthy . Ok?
My thoughts are with you .
Keep us posted .
God bless .
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UnUn
New Member
Thank you! I decided to see another doctor, tomorrow morning I'll know.
Anyway, I start antibiotics already, so should keep taking, right?
LovesNewBorns
Active Member
As with any Antibiotic,
once U've started ... it is best to finish the whole course given by ur Dr. Bring it along to show ur new Dr Moro .
Sorry for what's happening .
Stay strong .. The priority NOW is ur health . Take care !!
UnUn
New Member
The 2nd opinion also confirmed my baby is really sleeping inside... had tears when walking out the clinic but one day I'll welcome little angel again.
Now only waiting when the baby will be ready to come out
LovesNewBorns
Active Member
Sorry to hear that .. Stay strong , it was just not meant to be ... Pls do not blame urself .THIS IS NOBODY's fault . Nature works in their own ways that we can never understand . . Your little angel is in heaven .. Waiting for you, to be healthy and ready again , to pay u a visit and stay for good next time .
Make sure u finish the antibiotics .
God bless .
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Important hind NOTE :
Have u asked Dr what to expect should u 'wait for it to 'leave ' ur body naturally .. ?? Even if it does leave eventually .. , would u still have to do a D & C ? I THINK .. YES!
If so .. Think it's less traumatic for YOU and family that u just schedule a D&C instead of waiting .
DO TALK TO UR DOCTOR. Ok !!?!
Take care !
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UnUn
New Member
That's the same as my colleague advised, better not just waiting.
Then I called to make appt earlier and suppose to have D&C schedule after that.
Today I start feeling something in my tummy, maybe the womb noticed the baby is not developing.
krissyun
Well-Known Member
Take care of yourself for now and build up your health again. You will have your rainbow baby when the time is right
xiaomehmeh
Member
Last friday was a very difficult day.
I was at the beginning of week 12, my last scan was at start of week 8, and my bb's hb beating strong and fast.
But friday, there was no longer any hb, bb size was too small for week 12.
Throughout my pregnancy, there were no symptoms, no bleeding except for some brown discharge...but tonight for the first time in my pregnancy, i saw RED.
Traces of blood, just like the beginning of menses.
Had been hoping for a miracle to happen these few days, been singing a song specially dedicated to my bb, hoping to wake bb up...maybe bb is just hiding somewhere out there...
scheduled for one last scan on this coming thursday morning, before doing d&c in the afternoon...
I was at the beginning of week 12, my last scan was at start of week 8, and my bb's hb beating strong and fast.
But friday, there was no longer any hb, bb size was too small for week 12.
Throughout my pregnancy, there were no symptoms, no bleeding except for some brown discharge...but tonight for the first time in my pregnancy, i saw RED.
Traces of blood, just like the beginning of menses.
Had been hoping for a miracle to happen these few days, been singing a song specially dedicated to my bb, hoping to wake bb up...maybe bb is just hiding somewhere out there...
scheduled for one last scan on this coming thursday morning, before doing d&c in the afternoon...
I am sorry to hear that.i hope u can be strong,build up your body then retry again. Sometimes some things are unexplainable...think in this way. Probably god has another arrangement for u. For my 2 ms i tell myself prob the bb does not meant to be mine..god wan me to loss them now then later to be down syndrome or whatever then it be more suffering for them and us. Having a healthy baby is impt. Rest well then re try again.
LovesNewBorns
Active Member
Sorry for ur lost ...most times there's. No reason 'why?' when something like this happens . It is not something you did or didn't do that causes this MC ... It natures way of bringing in only the strongest / healthiest . What will be WILL BE . . Take care , stay strong and have faith .. You'd be blessed again .
Stay positive. . God bless.
Sorry for your lost.. We all know how it feels.
Time is the best cure for the heart even though the pain will always be there. my termination was almost 6 months ago. By right July is my bb Edd and it's also my bday month. I am still trying and hope to have good news - the best bday present I wish for.
Stay strong everyone.
Same as me..by right i shld be expecting my bb in jul and coming oct..due to 2 ms. haiz..esp sad n emotional when i see other new borns..how i wish they are mine. But i still put up a strong front to congratulate them n even talk to preggy...my fren commented i am very brave...so everyone jia you.
Starz88, I totally understand the feeling to a point I don't even want to attend baby showers. What makes things worse is 2 of my bff are preg, of all time when I lost mine. N they were not showing empathy at all (even before they were preg). In a way I found out who my true friends are. At least u still have friends acknowledging u are brave. And u indeed are! Hope u will have the rainbow baby soon!
tryingtoconceive2014
Active Member
I am glad I have found this thread.
For those of you who had more than 2 miscarriages, even if it is just a blighted ovum or a chemical pregnancy, please consider it also as an early miscarriage, and do see tcm sinseh to tiao afterwards. It may be that your uterus is weak, and so womb cannot hold the baby.
For myself, only after my recent 6th miscarriage in 3.5 years (my first was on Chinese new year eve, in Jan 2012; a blighted ovum in August 2014; and got 3 chemical pregnancies in between) that the tcm sinseh which I am seeing in Crown Court (Tai Choon Foh medical hall)((as he helped me to antai though it was not successful) told me that I can conceive easily but can never make it past the 6 weeks mark is because my uterus is very weak. Since it is now more than 2 weeks after my miscarriage, the sinseh has given me herbs (in powder form) to be taken twice a day morning and night daily, to help building up a strong uterus. Each course of treatment is 1 month, and I need 4 courses, before I am allowed to try to conceive again. The herbs is to help strengthen your uterus and prepare your body for the next pregnancy. He also told me to start taking folic acid 5mg daily.
His details as follows:
Tai Choon Foh Medical Hall
Address: Block 465, North Bridge Road, #01-5045,
Crawford Court
Singapore 191465
(Near Lavender MRT station or ICA building)
Name of in-house Chinese physician: Dr Low Wei Meow
His consultation hours as follows:
Mon to Fri: 10:30 a.m. to 7:00 p.m.
Sat: 10:30 a.m. to 6:00 p.m.
Sun and public holidays: closed
Lunch break: 3 to 4 p.m.
Best times to consult him: usually in the morning, as the wait is not that long. There is usually no queue outside the medical hall.
This sinseh has got one successful case recently. A young 24 year old Chinese mom married to an ang mo living in the USA has recently consulted him as she suffered already 4 miscarriages at such a young age. The sinseh then prescribed her 4 months of herbs to strengthen the uterus. Unexpectedly, she called the sinseh long distance and told him that she got pregnant in the 2nd month, and the sinseh told her to finish taking the remaining course of herbs (3 months), and she has already given birth to a healthy baby boy, and sent the family photo to the sinseh as a gesture of gratitude and thanks.
Please, if you have a few miscarriages, do not just keep on ignoring it (yes, it is not meant to be), as a lot of times, Western dr or gynae cannot find out the cause, and will say you can try again after a few cycles of AF. However, if your uterus or womb is not strong enough, even if you get pregnant again, history will still repeat itself.
For those of you who had more than 2 miscarriages, even if it is just a blighted ovum or a chemical pregnancy, please consider it also as an early miscarriage, and do see tcm sinseh to tiao afterwards. It may be that your uterus is weak, and so womb cannot hold the baby.
For myself, only after my recent 6th miscarriage in 3.5 years (my first was on Chinese new year eve, in Jan 2012; a blighted ovum in August 2014; and got 3 chemical pregnancies in between) that the tcm sinseh which I am seeing in Crown Court (Tai Choon Foh medical hall)((as he helped me to antai though it was not successful) told me that I can conceive easily but can never make it past the 6 weeks mark is because my uterus is very weak. Since it is now more than 2 weeks after my miscarriage, the sinseh has given me herbs (in powder form) to be taken twice a day morning and night daily, to help building up a strong uterus. Each course of treatment is 1 month, and I need 4 courses, before I am allowed to try to conceive again. The herbs is to help strengthen your uterus and prepare your body for the next pregnancy. He also told me to start taking folic acid 5mg daily.
His details as follows:
Tai Choon Foh Medical Hall
Address: Block 465, North Bridge Road, #01-5045,
Crawford Court
Singapore 191465
(Near Lavender MRT station or ICA building)
Name of in-house Chinese physician: Dr Low Wei Meow
His consultation hours as follows:
Mon to Fri: 10:30 a.m. to 7:00 p.m.
Sat: 10:30 a.m. to 6:00 p.m.
Sun and public holidays: closed
Lunch break: 3 to 4 p.m.
Best times to consult him: usually in the morning, as the wait is not that long. There is usually no queue outside the medical hall.
This sinseh has got one successful case recently. A young 24 year old Chinese mom married to an ang mo living in the USA has recently consulted him as she suffered already 4 miscarriages at such a young age. The sinseh then prescribed her 4 months of herbs to strengthen the uterus. Unexpectedly, she called the sinseh long distance and told him that she got pregnant in the 2nd month, and the sinseh told her to finish taking the remaining course of herbs (3 months), and she has already given birth to a healthy baby boy, and sent the family photo to the sinseh as a gesture of gratitude and thanks.
Please, if you have a few miscarriages, do not just keep on ignoring it (yes, it is not meant to be), as a lot of times, Western dr or gynae cannot find out the cause, and will say you can try again after a few cycles of AF. However, if your uterus or womb is not strong enough, even if you get pregnant again, history will still repeat itself.
xiaomehmeh
Member
hi all, thanks for the support and encouragement! currently doing my mini confinement now.
may i just check if any of you did massage after the miscarriage? is it appropriate?
may i just check if any of you did massage after the miscarriage? is it appropriate?
xiaomehmeh
Member
@helioadele now that i am in clearer mind to read through the previous messages again, realised that we are in the same age group. hope you are doing fine now, and will have good news to share!
i also wish all ladies here including myself good luck! Ganbatte!
i also wish all ladies here including myself good luck! Ganbatte!
tryingtoconceive2014
Active Member
For those of you who have had 2 or more miscarriages, and your gynaecologist cannot give you an answer even after running through some tests, please please go to consult Dr Choolani, in Mount Elizabeth Novena hospital, who has got a special interest in high risk pregnancy, fetal medicine and recurrent miscarriages. Apparently, he helps over 80% of the women with miscarriage issues carry to term by conducting tests before they try to conceive again for their next pregnancy, and also by intervening early before conception, and close monitoring during early pregnancy. He has also written an article on recurrent miscarriages. Link as follows: http://www.choolaniclinic.com/wp-content/uploads/This-Quarterly-2-ChoolaniClinic_3.pdf
http://www.choolaniclinic.com/
http://www.choolaniclinic.com/
Vespertine
Member
Hello everyone..
Yesterday I found out that my baby's heartbeat stopped 4 weeks ago, at week 7, shortly after my previous ultrasound. It was a silent miscarriage, therefore I still had pregnancy symptoms. Every time I had my morning sickness, I told myself as long as baby is healthy, I will suffer through it. Now I know I've suffered for nothing for a month...
As we drove home, I noticed that my husband was tearing uncontrollably as he drove and it really pained my heart. This is our first baby, after trying for a year. I'm 33 this year and he is 34... I really don't know why this is happening to us. It seems so unfair.
I'm going in tomorrow for the procedure - evacuation of the uterus... Baby is dead for 4 weeks already, better to remove it surgically. I'm scared of the pain and bleeding after the procedure, but what I'm even more worried about is conceiving thereafter. But worry doesn't help anything. This is the card I'm dealt with. Life goes on. I have to go on.
I'll have to go through confinement as well. According to my family, I have to be confined for about 2 weeks. It's really xian to think about it even. This is really a test of our perseverance... May time pass quickly.
Yesterday I found out that my baby's heartbeat stopped 4 weeks ago, at week 7, shortly after my previous ultrasound. It was a silent miscarriage, therefore I still had pregnancy symptoms. Every time I had my morning sickness, I told myself as long as baby is healthy, I will suffer through it. Now I know I've suffered for nothing for a month...
As we drove home, I noticed that my husband was tearing uncontrollably as he drove and it really pained my heart. This is our first baby, after trying for a year. I'm 33 this year and he is 34... I really don't know why this is happening to us. It seems so unfair.
I'm going in tomorrow for the procedure - evacuation of the uterus... Baby is dead for 4 weeks already, better to remove it surgically. I'm scared of the pain and bleeding after the procedure, but what I'm even more worried about is conceiving thereafter. But worry doesn't help anything. This is the card I'm dealt with. Life goes on. I have to go on.
I'll have to go through confinement as well. According to my family, I have to be confined for about 2 weeks. It's really xian to think about it even. This is really a test of our perseverance... May time pass quickly.
Vespertine, I know it's a diff time for you now. Be strong, everything is not as diff as u think. So don't have to worry. We had all gone through this, some of us still waiting for rainbow, some already found the rainbow. Let life takes its course and be happy.
Hugzzz. Jiayou!
Hugzzz. Jiayou!
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tryingtoconceive2014
Active Member
Hello everyone..
Yesterday I found out that my baby's heartbeat stopped 4 weeks ago, at week 7, shortly after my previous ultrasound. It was a silent miscarriage, therefore I still had pregnancy symptoms. Every time I had my morning sickness, I told myself as long as baby is healthy, I will suffer through it. Now I know I've suffered for nothing for a month...
As we drove home, I noticed that my husband was tearing uncontrollably as he drove and it really pained my heart. This is our first baby, after trying for a year. I'm 33 this year and he is 34... I really don't know why this is happening to us. It seems so unfair.
I'm going in tomorrow for the procedure - evacuation of the uterus... Baby is dead for 4 weeks already, better to remove it surgically. I'm scared of the pain and bleeding after the procedure, but what I'm even more worried about is conceiving thereafter. But worry doesn't help anything. This is the card I'm dealt with. Life goes on. I have to go on.
I'll have to go through confinement as well. According to my family, I have to be confined for about 2 weeks. It's really xian to think about it even. This is really a test of our perseverance... May time pass quickly.
Vespertine,
I am really sorry for your loss. I know that no words will explain the loss and grief that you are going through now. Yes, please do the confinement for 2 weeks. During that period, tell your mom to go to Eu Yan Seng to buy the herbs for brewing confinement water: red dates, bei qi, long yan rou and dang sen. Also, when you are done with the confinement, do go to see tcm to tiao your body. You can find the details of my tcm in a few posts above. Apparently, the first miscarriage is very common.
bunnymuimui
Active Member
Hugzzz. Time will heal the wounds... have a good mini-confinement and prepare your body for a rainbow baby...
Hello everyone..
Yesterday I found out that my baby's heartbeat stopped 4 weeks ago, at week 7, shortly after my previous ultrasound. It was a silent miscarriage, therefore I still had pregnancy symptoms. Every time I had my morning sickness, I told myself as long as baby is healthy, I will suffer through it. Now I know I've suffered for nothing for a month...
As we drove home, I noticed that my husband was tearing uncontrollably as he drove and it really pained my heart. This is our first baby, after trying for a year. I'm 33 this year and he is 34... I really don't know why this is happening to us. It seems so unfair.
I'm going in tomorrow for the procedure - evacuation of the uterus... Baby is dead for 4 weeks already, better to remove it surgically. I'm scared of the pain and bleeding after the procedure, but what I'm even more worried about is conceiving thereafter. But worry doesn't help anything. This is the card I'm dealt with. Life goes on. I have to go on.
I'll have to go through confinement as well. According to my family, I have to be confined for about 2 weeks. It's really xian to think about it even. This is really a test of our perseverance... May time pass quickly.
Vespertine
Member
Thank you ladies... Am home from the procedure and starting the confinement proper. Feel really blessed despite the circumstances; Even the nurses were so sweet to me. Even neighbours are calling in to show concern.
Hope everyone is doing fine too..
Hope everyone is doing fine too..
