Hi! I'm a first timer in this motherhood forum!
Just want to share and would like to seek y'll opinion about my problem with parents in law.
Me and my spouse have been married for almost 4 years & we are blessed with 2 kids (eldest is 4 years & youngest is 1 year).
In initial stage before I married with my spouse, my relationship with my inlaws went pretty well. However, it changes drastically after I married, move in to my in laws & have 2 kids.
Actually, they are nice people. However, things that cause irritating for me are, their overcontrolling when it comes to parenting & also my MIL doesn't respect any boundaries & privacy.
I will ellaborate some of the details here:
- No respect of boundaries & privacy
I respect my in laws kindness in helping to clean our room. However, I just don't feel good when my MIL tries to move my things inside the room.
Second, there were times my MIL straight away opened my spouse room before knocked; and I was inside the room as well.
Lastly, everytime I have deep conversation with my spouse, they always try to ask what topic we were talking about and sometimes they will sneak and hear.
- Overcontrolling
We are coming from different age & culture. Everytime we were trying to teach / discipline our kid, they always want to get involve. And tbh, its been few times I have cold war towards my FIL whenever i discipline my kid.
It's been few times I have urge to move out and my spouse aware of this. However, due to financial constraint, we have to keep enduring and enduring.
Looking fwd to your opinion guys.
Just want to share and would like to seek y'll opinion about my problem with parents in law.
Me and my spouse have been married for almost 4 years & we are blessed with 2 kids (eldest is 4 years & youngest is 1 year).
In initial stage before I married with my spouse, my relationship with my inlaws went pretty well. However, it changes drastically after I married, move in to my in laws & have 2 kids.
Actually, they are nice people. However, things that cause irritating for me are, their overcontrolling when it comes to parenting & also my MIL doesn't respect any boundaries & privacy.
I will ellaborate some of the details here:
- No respect of boundaries & privacy
I respect my in laws kindness in helping to clean our room. However, I just don't feel good when my MIL tries to move my things inside the room.
Second, there were times my MIL straight away opened my spouse room before knocked; and I was inside the room as well.
Lastly, everytime I have deep conversation with my spouse, they always try to ask what topic we were talking about and sometimes they will sneak and hear.
- Overcontrolling
We are coming from different age & culture. Everytime we were trying to teach / discipline our kid, they always want to get involve. And tbh, its been few times I have cold war towards my FIL whenever i discipline my kid.
It's been few times I have urge to move out and my spouse aware of this. However, due to financial constraint, we have to keep enduring and enduring.
Looking fwd to your opinion guys.