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Congrats, oxidised!
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Enjoy motherhood.
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Spiffy, that's good news.. Before long your babies will be home already ;)

my update, I went to psychiatrict jus now. Had another session of breaking down. Given 2 weeks hosp leave n need to 'talk' to him again on 3 may.
 
vi4n, is it work-related stress? which hosp did you go to? i hope you feel better soon..

soon-to-be, they lost some weight because of normal newborn weight loss (up to 10%) so now have come back up to around 1.6kg.
 
Spiffy,

better be prepared lo. I still haven't finish packing to move house. Dr Loh told me to use my finger to point instead of packing. Keke...
 
singapoh, yes just got a phonecall that my means testing application was approved, downgraded to B2 (C class would really be pushing it).

i stayed in B1 cos was afraid if i stayed in A class, would be difficult to downgrade.
 
hello. sorry went c babies.

soon to be: dr loh say it was a diff op cos 1st baby was very deeep in.. and he also mentioned to my hub and me after the op that he was afraid he could hv fractured her leg (?!?!) but didnt' la..

i was in B1 to get dr loh. and after that downgraded to B2.. my hub had to run around like madman to downgrade.

thanks all..

spiffy, thats good news. so our babies all in the same plc? haha
 
Oxidised, did u get a scare when Dr Loh told u that? But luckily, baby is ok......8)

Spiffy, that's good! V soon can bring ur 2 sons home...8)
 
oxidised n spiffy, how did the nurses feed your bbs? tube or cup?

if you dun mind, can share on docs tt need to prepare for downgrade fm b1. i m next on the list liao.

sisters, my fb email is [email protected], add me
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yumyum. one baby is on continuous feeding still cos she move ard too much (naughty girl.haha)

other is on 1hourly feed. so use a syringe straight into tummy lor.. they will make it 2 hourly then she can go to special care.. cos shes not on drip anymore.
 
soon to be: i was in a shock la. the whole c-section was so traumatising! cos i was awake, even though dun feel pain, can feel every pull push left right center. wah lau. like taking out my ribs from my ribcage..

thanks singapoh..
 
oxidised, what is continuous feeding? i read story bk tt c-sect can feel wat you said. now i m scared. can ask doc for some gas to sleep or not? or doc very fast one?
 
My gynae is TMC but I was referred to gleneagles for psychistrict.

How should I spent my 2 weeks?

Wah spiffy, oxidised u both can visit eachother babies then ;)
add me too in FB.. Please ...

Ju, what time u will go to the bb fair let me know ok I wanna see princess Jodie face to face le. Hopefully my baby will have same big big eyes n chubby chubby.. ;)
 
singapoh / yumyum, for means testing they will require your payslips, bank account summaries, expenses, loans,...all the supporting documents you can find. it's like having your whole life laid bare... but if you can get downgraded to B2, it's good cos the savings are substantial.
 
Spiffy and Oxidised, really glad that both u and babies are fine.

Singapoh, I failed my oral glucose test at week26
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Went for the 1st session at ODAC, was surprised that we have to eat and drink so much in a day. Do u really follow the 3 main meals and 3 snacks cos I have some problem eating the 6 meals. And how long do we need to test with the home glucose meter?
 
Babyluck,

sorry to hear that. I failed the test at 20 weeks.

At first I had problem eating 6 meals a day. Now much better but sometimes just hv a glass of milk/soybean for snack. U can also have 1 fruit as snack.

At night must eat supper coz our stomach will be empty for so many hours. If not our blood sugar will be very high the next morning.

We need to test at home till we deliver. Then do again 6 weeks after delivery to make sure u dun hv diabetes.
 
Babyluck
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it's tough at first but we are doing this for our babies!

Coke zero gives me high reading so now I only take soda water. If u often eat outside, dun choose dishes with thick sauce coz cornflour is very high in sugar.

Spicy food is fine
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thanks bee and babyluck..
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oxidised, one of my bbs is in special care unit already.. the other just got transferred to step down unit. i realise both my sons look very very different! how about yr gals?
 
spiffy: ya my girls look very different too.. but then similar in a way also. n different people say different things too! my mum say they look alike, my hub n me think they look way different!
 
Babyluck,

Food is not the cause for GD. Our body just can't break down the sugar anymore. Age, family history, multiple pregnancies, etc.

We can eat horfun but not thick sauce. We got to avoid most hawker food, food cooked in coconut.

I keep a photocopy of the important pages in my handbag.
 
Dear sisters, I lost my bb girl as she has died in my womb. I was having a bit of stains last wed n felt uneasy abt it even though 'ask for a nurse' hot line said no bleeding is fine.

I walked in to 24hrs n the nurse there checked with dr loh if he wanted to see me since he was at clinic D that AM but I had no appointment. he saw n scanned me n told me my bb was gone, her skull has hardened n it has been a few wks already. he suspected that it is as long as 3-4 wks already n am spotting coz my body has started to expel bb out... I broke down at the spot. Dr loh was very careful n he sent me off to ADC for another scan to confirm. My bb has shrunk to just 8cm, the size of a 13.5 wks foetus..

I was Warded that PM n induced to deliver her naturally that night. She did not make me suffer for long to the surprise of every one... With just one insert, n within an hr, she was out in the water bag... we saw her after the nurse cleaned her up.. She was so tiny until I can't hold her... But her facial features r there.. How eyes were closed n her tiny mouth...

Dr loh performed a d n c on me the next day as the scan showed that my womb lining was too thick after delivery. He suspected a chromosome defect or structural defect in my bb... But I cleared my camden scan n am at very low risk.. He sent my planceta for testing to see if there r chromosome defects. But structural defects, if any we wun know for sure as bb is to small to do a biopsy n we wanted our bb back too. He told us, no matter Wat, it is independent n has no links to subsequent pregnancies.

We claimed back my daughter's body on fri, batispised n cremated her n placed her at a niche in a church where my fil's niche is... I am worried that she will be bullied since she is so small.. That is why we chose that church instead of one near our plc.. This is the last thing we as parents can do for our beloved little girl..

I m overwhelmed with grief n pain... Esp when 2 days after delivering her, my milk supply kicks in.. But I can't feed her anymore.. I can't take care of her anymore.. I can't help but blame myself.. Coz I think back, the strong movements I felt in bintan Cld be her struggles. It shld be around 18 to 19 wks that she died. If I hv stayed in spore, maybe she wld be fine.. But now my bb is gone.. I can't accept it.. My dh cried a few times but men seem to take it better than women.. He has gone back to work yesterday as it is a biz wk for him. He told me to do something to divert the thinking. But I really can't.. I just lie there n stone whole day n cry...

I hv been through so much to hv her, not just the ivf process but other personal stuff ... God blessed me with a child but he took her away.. Why is he so cruel to me? the pain n grief wun be so overbearing if I failed my ivf cycle..

I dunno how I am going to go back to work next thursday... I hv lots of things outstanding but I really hv no mood and energy for anything..

I m Sorry to share such bad news to you all esp when everyone of u are rejoicing on spiffy n Oxidised delivery of their twins.. M very sorry abt this...
 
hazel, very sorry about what happened. Grieving is personal and can be a long process...just take each day at a time.

If you feel like crying, let it out.
If you think going away helps, you and DH should just take a break..
Some ppl find going back to routine helps take their mind off things but take your own time to come to terms with what's happened.
And like i said, please dont give up hope.
 
Hazel,

hv u seen Dr Loh to stop yr bm? Like I told u before, stop blaming yourself. It's nobody's fault. U hv done yr best already. Hugs~
 

Sunflower,

6 meals a day for a well balance diet. 2 snacks in between so that u won't get too hungry and overeat when it's main meal time.

Too much carbo will raise our blood sugar. Our diet plan is low carb/fat, high protein/fibre.

All in controlled portion.
 
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