Hi All,
I would like to share my IVF journey here and hope to inspire many of those who are going through the tedious process or still deciding whether or not to go ahead with it. My wife and I have been for married 7 years , both now 39 (husband loves exercise, wife rarely do exercise) and had gone through 5 cycles of IVF process (3 public and 2 private). For public hospital we chose NUH and the results came back poorer for each subsequent cycle. The number of eggs retrieved from my wife was also getting lower and the chance of having successful embryos was also lowered. Also, I have morphology issue < 1%. We visited both Dr Chew and Prof Wong for the cycles we did in public hospital. For the last cycle in public hospital, we had no successful embryos and prof Wong simply told us to use donor egg which is super discouraging to both of us. At that point of time , we had already 2 years of tcm treatment at NTU (the famous one) but it didn’t help at all. We were super upset back then, decided to take a break and also stopped tcm treatment. We went for regular exercise to boost our health and we continued to have regular sexual activity (didn’t know sex can be so tiring) but yields no outcome.
After 1 year later, we stopped fooling ourselves. If we continue to do nothing to help ourselves, I guess we will definitely regret in our later life. So before going for another round of IVF treatment, we went to build up our body via tcm. Hence, we decided to seek another tcm at Teban garden (recommended by my wife’s friend), though I told my wife that this tcm is just another con who just want to cheat my money. It turns out that after 6 months of treatment, it yields no results too. Then I went to go search on the internet and found Great Wall acupuncture tcm (TCM Hao Xiang), he is super helpful and gave lots of tips. At first I was reluctant to go private as it costs more but after hearing HX’s advice, he told me to seek second opinion which I eventually did. So, for our fourth cycle, we went to Thomson Dr Loh. Unfortunately, the results turned out to be bad as well. We were both equally puzzled what went wrong and totally disheartening. We did tcm, exercise, diet control, gave prayer to all different kind of gods (including a trip to Thailand one), gone through tedious cycles of ivf and even tried one of the most expensive angelia fertility massage ($5000 plus for a few sessions) but nothing works. The cost of private clinic wasn’t cheap and sadly to say that I’m bearing all the expenses alone as I don’t wish to put too much burden on her. I’m just a regular salaried employee. I wouldn’t encourage all wives to do that to your husband but if financially you can help out, do help your husband too.
After all these failed cycles, I’m very very determined to make my next cycle a success one. This time, we chose the thomson tcm at orchard paragon. TCM Chen Fang is really good and she can literally tells my wife’s condition with just pressing on her wrist pulse. After a few rounds of TCM sessions, I decided to head down to Ronald Chieng clinic and try out the virtus lab technology. From my understanding, virtus lab has this technology that can zoom like 4000 times into picking the best sperm. Since we can’t choose the egg quality, we have to resort to select the best sperm quality to see if it solves our issue. Ronald also recommended the testicular procedure saying that it will boost the chance of retrieving good quality sperm. Without thinking, I just go ahead and do it. Many will think it’s a kind of invasive procedure but I think I’m just at the point where we are left with so little options for us. Surprisingly, Ronald’s results surpassed all the other cycles we had done previously. I believe strongly in technology because I’m actually a IT professional and it indeed boost our chance of having a baby. I would strongly recommend those who have done multiple cycles to visit Ronald Chieng clinic. He will really customise the treatment accordingly.
Now, I’m blessed with a cute baby boy and I’m so grateful to Ronald Chieng, Chen Fang and Hao Xiang for making me & my wife’s dream come true.
Just a small advice. If you are not young anymore, done multiple cycles and finance is not an issue, don’t wait further and just go for the best IVF treatment, because you just can’t buy back time but money can earn back. Hope it make sense. Me and my wife made so many wrong moves and wasted a lot of precious time. I hope others will not make the same mistakes as us. I spent approximately close to 100k in total, definitely a painful one.
PS: Prior to my success Ivf, I actually made a promise to myself to share our story and I have done it. Thanks for reading.
