Brownie,
I also agreed with skies..as I also believed most drs will advise you to go for natural FET since your menses is regular. I believed its not easy to determine whether u will ovulate the next cycle, and all cycles are different , including ovulation and lining.
Dr loh suggested me to go for natural FET even though my menses is quite regular. but I insisted to opt for medicated FET as I do not want to give chance to them for the possibility to cancel the cycle. Dr Loh is someone who don’t force you and eventually leave it to your choice. I agreed he has no personal touch and can be moody at times, but afterall, he has helped countless couples to succeed. we all have a comment goal in choosing him, which is his magic hands (which others claim to be).
I used to dislike him whenever I get to see him because he is so straight forward, and doesn’t seems to be the one I really want to confide much to. Eventually I told my hb that he is just someone I want to achieve my goal. Because of money (cheaper in kkh), and because of his high success rate, I don’t care how much I dislike him, I just go ahead FET with him.. and I did it.
I remember I asked him why I failed my fresh cycle.. he told me there are lots of reasons to it, but cannot be firmed to an answer. I accepted because no one can know what actually went wrong until further tests are investigated. And these tests are not cheap. He told me there was a couple in US who tried ivf many times, but never succeed. So they decided to check their embryos quality.. For embryo quality , we are not talking about the grade..but the cells chromosome. Grade is deceiving to everyone because it’s determined by the appearance..the nicer and well-fragmented appearance it has, the higher the grade it has.. But the researcher found out that the embryos of the couple all have a common problem.. They remove each cell of the embryo and found out there are genetic problems with the chromosome, which means the cells cannot develop further and will die after a few days before it eventually attached to the lining.
I graduate with grade 3 embryo for FET after putting in 3 embbies. This means that I have lost 4 embbies in total , 2 of them from fresh cycles , and 2 of them in FET. It can be the quality of the embryos, or the lining..or even, I don’t know, may be the skill of the embryologist/gynae? No one knows the reason until further tests are investigated.. And I believed these tests are not cheap. So im not going to prob further..
I truly understand how u feel now.. but don’t give up.. Go ahead with your feeling, if you feel that you cannot trust him anymore, start your plan B.. None of the gynae can suit every patient, some just like that gynae so much , can click with him, some just don’t..so just do what u feel is right.
jiayou ladies