IVF/ICSI Support Group

Proserpina: according to my MIL, cabbage soup is cooling. Maybe u wanna communicate w ur mil to avoid cooling food during this dritical period? Think Home cooking still better than outside food.
 


Yes Mel, it took me a period of time for thorough consideration b4 I tender. Maternity leave was one of the pull back but ultimately, I told myself if I continue to work (there), I will not get to enjoy maternity leave too cos I'm very sure I won't get pregnant at all! It's just simply too stressful n weary for me lor. Lolx. If u r worried of boredom staying at home s well s income, u can find a part time job to kill time n also earn a little bit income. (",)
 
!1BB tks for ur sharing n advice. I'll think it over before I start next fresh cycle.

Btw, from the discussions here, there seems no hospitalization leave given in KKIVF after ER n ET, is my understanding correct?
 
Mel, HL is given after ER. It's not given only if u r doing FET. FET they issue mc instead n usually only 4 days mc. However u can try to request for 2weeks HL subject to the dr's approval
 
Mel/Chris
yeah it's a bond with pets already...actually if cat is indoors should be fine, mine are semi outdoor and they like to catch mice and birds and what nots thus might have bacterial or parasitic in their mouths..ewww a bit gross to think of that..anyway yeah the fur is a big headache..my mum also nagging but my hb and me want, so leave the clearing job to hb! *evil grin*

Prosepina
haha same as you(i suppose?) im married to a man not of the same nationality and have to follow him. So i don't have my mum here with me
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sad hor? That it's so lonely living away in a far away land..That's why tingkat is out of the question in a small norwegian countryside town- im the only chinese here. where are you from? Hehe yeah i cook almost everyday...95% slave to my stove lol
What dishes are you used to? Maybe can find ingredients and DIY? That's what i do hehe...

LuvNhope
Good good never 'tou lan' hehehe keep it up! Me taking LRD and royal jelly..my folic acid run out of stock, hv to buy soon and im trying to ration my chicken essence to 2ww time..else been a bit slack on eating wise..been taking ice cream and also some salty canned food to go with plain porridge hehe..canned olive veggie, canned luncheon meat etc..no good no good hehehe
 
Mel they gave me 20days HL.. N i oso ask fr letter to extend my NPL till end may.. hehe.. NPL since 19/3..hehe..
my back so aching today.. its like symptom before my mense come.. Hubby so scare coz before mense come i always backache like now..
 
Blur xuan: try not to think of the menses or symptoms. Try ur best to relax n u shld go to bed already to let body rest. Ur bb need to rest too. =)
 
Just want to say that I am so glad I found this support group.

Before embarking on IVF I felt very lonely and scared, felt that nobody understood me, not even DH. I badly wanted to link up with someone but I didn't know anyone in real life who did IVF. Maybe some of them did but they kept quiet about it. It was like going into a dark tunnel alone. People ask, I dare not tell them, dare not even tell in-laws or own parents.

I feel so much happier after I came here, I even met up with a fellow IVF-er face to face. When I saw the spreadsheet and my info is on it, I felt such a sense of belonging.

I think we are all very brave, especially those who failed and tried again. Whenever I read that someone failed, my heart really breaks. Strangely although I don't know this person in real life, I will feel like crying for her. This is my first IVF, but I know that even if I fail, this group will still be here for me.
 
Mel, my no pay leave is one year. I decided on this period as I didn't know how long I will take to recover from my last mc and then how many attempts I will take to succeed. Thus tried to ask for the longest possible that my boss can accept.
 
Well said egg factory.. tis is first time ivf for mi too.. I haf zero knowledge abt IVF n v stress abt it.. M so happy my fren recommend tis page to mi.. I found all e support n encouragement frm u all.. Really thank u v much.. I truely hope all e sisters here will haf their biggest wish come true.
 
Mel i cant sleep coz i have to put medicine.. Every day 8am 3pm n 12pm.. So tired... Sleep late wake up early.. Today is my D9 but still haf e cramp.. Tis morning worsen.. More painful den last few days..Feel v v tired n sleepy..
 
Egg factory: we'll said n u are not alone! Jia you "hugz"

Blur xuan: if the cramp is getting worse n more painful, u may wanna consult dr or nurse asap.
 
Mel: Is your in-laws staying with you? Else think your hubby and you can make the decision but of cos just exercise hygiene and cleanliness will be totally fine I suppose.

Chrisl: Aiyo, try to keep them indoor, else you are right.. there is new factor for "contamination" that is outside of control.

Egg: I agree with you totally. This is a good place for support and understanding. JY!

Now, I hear some of you say NPL, it can be an option.. For me, I want to have a job but family is equally important; think probably can consider that.
 
Egg factory, hugs. I'm glad I found this forum too! ;)

Blur xuan, mind if I ask ah, y ur inserts must 3 times n the last time so late at 12 midnight ah. So funny. The hospital shd know sleeping early is better for ttc esp u in 2ww somemore... *scratch head* anyway if you feel cramp, I think u btr limit yr movements ya. Jia yo
 
blur Xuan...actually the last insert is b4 u sleep lah..no need be exact at 12 midnight de..i insert ard 11pm+ den go lie down on bed..

morning, i set alarm to do the 8am insert den go and lie down again..anyway u need to lie down for the inserts to be absorbed.
 
Chris: my in-laws stay a few blocks away from us, so they sometime will just pop by. Ya I'll try to hold on to it. But is it true that after u hv new born child, there's no time to take care of pets? Anyone got experience?

Blur xuan: take care, relax more by lying down, n get more rest. Jia you
 
blur_xuan the insert not necessary to be done by 8am,3pm and 12mnite. Eventhough it is evry 8hrs u can adjust ur timing. Previously i do it ard 7am,2pm,11pm. Sometimes by 10.30pm i already do the last insert.
For ur cramp , i think u need to limit ur movement. When i had my spotting on 9dpt and 10dpt i did not go to work. Had totally bedrest at home by 11dpt my sporting gone. Maybe others do not need total bedrest but everyone of us is different. So as long as we had done our best there is no regret.
Egg Factory ur true. Ivf journey is not as easy as people thought. The sisters here are our motivators to move on. Others outside there may not understand what we going true. We are united here as a friends and ivf family. Jiayou
 
Mel: I see, I guess its more like if you and your hubby has decided then things will work themselves out. I do not have kid yet but I guess if there is already an established routine (in terms of feeding, cleanup and grooming) for the cat and dog then it would be a matter of working things around (like delegating out grooming if energy and time is a concern?). I think the demands for a pet is lesser than a human baby and they are contented very easily and of cos your hubby's help would be very much appreciated
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Hi sisters. Anyone heard of anovulatory cycle? This means having menses but without ovulation. I supposed to start natural fet last month but the scan showed I did not ovulate last month! This was so upsetting. And worse, till now, my menses is still not here and already late by a week. I am waiting for my menses to come to start the medicated fet....
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Hi Joanne, do you want to try taking EPO or trying the Raspberry Leaf tea? I saw that it is used to support the uterus. I drank it yesterday morning and my menses finally came last night. I heard that ginger tea and parsley water help too.

Hi to Sisters who go for acupuncture treatment, can I check if I can go for acupuncture if I am having my period now?
 
Givemehope,
If you r visiting Dr Zou, she will give you med to take if you r having your menses, n u return to her for accup on D5 when u AF is almost gone. The med is to help u to clear your menses as much as possible.
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Thanks everybody..
I oso not sure y three times but they gave me tis timing i juz follow lo.. but 3pm to 12pm is more than 7hrs.. i oso feel weird.. If can i try 12 if nt will b ard 11+ n den zzz.. i always tk afteenoon nap coz too tired.. Yap i will lie down at least half an hour for e medicine to flow in.. hehe..
 
hi mel..think i am doing fine..trying to lie down most of the time..was surfing some Chinese website abt 2ww cos most of the time we are reading ang moh website..

found interesting theory from a few website on the Dos and Don't..suggest bedrest for first 48hrs after transfer and,they even go to the extend that try to sleep on yr back..for side, not more than 45deg.

the more 夸张 even say no shower or wash yr hair for the first 48hrs..after that is alternate day...

felt diff theory from western sites...lol..
 
Hi-five, 1BB! I also resigned in order to concentrate on realizing my dream-getting pregnant... Really happier cos no office politics and work stress. But I am beginning to get a bit scare coz I am still not pregnant... This journey seems to get tougher for me as I have been trying for 4years. Some friends who do not know my flight gave sarcastic remarks
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so I have to renew my positiveness everyday. Haix.
 
Thanks Givemehope. I will call KK tomorrow to fix appt to see Dr Sadhana. Going crazy soon after all the waiting. I took 4 months no pay leave for this fet cycle.

To walk to Dr Zou's place from AMK MRT, u turn right after coming out from the control station. Pass through the tunnel to go up to the HDB blocks. Just walk through the shelter from Blk 512 (i think) all the way. Turn right when u see Blk 504. Walk straight and u will see 505 after u cross the small road.
 
I actually want to do lasik now since I am on leave.. but after reading the side effects I am now hesitating. Also think I should focus in my fet first.....
 
Angelxuan,
Not a good idea to get a pet now cos when baby comes u wouldn't have time for it.

I1bb, Ching, luvnhope, Chrisl, *wave wave~~~*
 
blurxuan In my last 2 cycles my doc gave the inserts and told me to insert 3 times a day but no time stipulated so i just 'aga aga' on my own..i inserted say 9am, 3pm then 9pm again..or 8am/2pm/8pm, it was ok lei..cos frankly 12 midnite too late already cos i sleep ard latest 11pm on most days..
 
Hi all,

May I know what kind of hormonal support you are given after the transfer? Some people get inserts/pessaries, some get injections, some get both inserts and injections. How often are your injections and are they painful? Thanks!
 
Chris not let them out will make them crazy!! The small one will try to disturb the bigger one and then they'll annoy one another. So we let them out during the day, we hv a pet door then close them at night..just that have to be a tad hardworking to wash the floors .. Btw, do you know that there's this overseas singaporean portal? Whereby you can connect with singaporeans overseas? I think it's impt to at least hv a few singaporean friends ard in a foreign land
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Mel I've neighbours who have pets dogs/cats..seems to me they hv no problems having pets and children at the same time..does your dog goes for a walk everyday? is your cat indoor type?
 
Egg factory *hug* Have you both (your hb and you) mutually agreed to this ivf treatment in the 1st place or? On the hormonal supports, i was only given vaginal inserts, it comes in a tablet form and only required to insert via a plastic applicator and 3 times a day..as for injections i dun hv..maybe other sisters can enlighten?
 
Hi 5 back givemehope!! Me also in this journey since 2009. 3 years le. Not working since oct last year. N well, same here lor. Not preg (yet). I told myself I have to give myself a closure to this so if my last 3rd fresh fails, I'll just get my ass back to the working field. Sigh. Cnt possibly go on forever right. Some of my peers also kept asking me when is my turn to have bb, kept asking until I got Abit irritated. Nowadays I drift myself away from some of my friends.
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Yoyo eskimobaby!!!!!!! ***wave wave*** how r u???? Miss you!!!
 


Joanne huh?? Not ovulating despite the flow? do you have any symptoms? Like do you still see normal discharge mid cycle or?
 
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