Baby, my work actually involves a lot of traveling and it was becoming a problem for ttc.
So last year, I thought heck it, I'm going to come right out and voice out because it was making me unhappy. I told my boss that I'm not young and I'm having difficulties starting a family. I cannot travel so much anymore and if they can find another position for me with less travel, that will be great. If they can't, since I will not be able to perform my role to 100% as I don't want to travel, I will willingly resign and they can find someone else who can travel and do a better job.
My boss understood and told me that I can be flexible in my travels. In fact, I got promoted! The downside is that the whole company knows I'm ttc and doing ivf but it doesn't really bother me because I'm a pretty open person. Instead, I got more support from my colleagues in return. So sometimes, I think if you don't ask, you don't know.
Duffy bear!! Long time no see! How are you?
Nitro, for IUI, although all elements such as sperm, lining, eggs are good, the successful rate is still not high. This is because there are still so many uncertainties that we can't pinpoint and control such as fertilization, implantation, fertilized egg dividing well, etc.
Therefore with IVF, everything up to the point of fertilization is manually controlled. So that takes a lot of uncertainties and guess work out of the process. The only thing left to nature and fate is implantation. Hence the success rate is higher, especially if you and your wife are younger.
Personally, I failed 3 IUI and finally succeeded with IVF. During all IUIs, everything was good, egg good, lining good, etc. but just not successful. Hope this helps.