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How Long Apart to Conceive #2

Discussion in 'Year 2010 Mums' started by sherline, Jul 15, 2009.

  1. sherline

    sherline Member

    I have given birth in 2007 November.

    Wondering isit too soon to start planning for #2.

    Any mums can share?


  2. zolldoll

    zolldoll Member

    It all depends on yourself, how much u can cope and r u ready. I delivered my son in dec 07, and just delivered my daughter last week. For me, i did not want to wait too long or i will find it harder to adapt or go through it all over again. Besides i did not want the age gap of both my kids too long.

  3. cactus_79

    cactus_79 New Member

    Hi Sherline, Zolldoll is right. Depends on you, your husband, and the amount of support that you have.

    My #1 was delivered in June 2008 and I will be delivering again in Mar 2010. 21 mth age gap.

    I decided to try again for #2, cos of many factors:

    - I'm turning 31 next year. Want to have 2 or 3 kids before mid 30s.

    - I have strong family support in the area of child caring. my parents look after my #1 on alternate nights. Hb and I do the other nights. During the weekdays, my dad supervises my maid who cares for #1. My grandma and aunt pop by one weekday a week to play with my #1 - so my dad gets his "day off". Weekends are times my hb and I spend fully with our #1. My parents are still rather young - 57 and 61, so can tap on them a little longer. My mom still works full-time.

    - Our home has enough space for 1 or 2 more kids, without needing to move house yet.

    - my job is quite secure in the current economic climate and my boss encourages me to have another child soon.

    - my husband will go overseas on work for 9 months starting Mar 2011.

  4. minniemom

    minniemom New Member

    True. it all depends on individual n support tht u have.

    As for me, i gave birth to my gal in 2004. She is 5 yrs old now. I conceived my first one few months after marriage. Then in 2008, I gave birth to my 2nd child, a boy. He just turned 1 in june. So my 2 kids they are 4 yrs apart.

    When i was preggy with my 2nd child & told my gal about it, she was happy when she knew tht she would be expecting a younger one. Though she dun understand at first, gradually she began to understand better. She followed me thru my monthly checkups sometimes & she was excited to see her lil brother thru the scan thingy. Even now she adores her lil bro so much & has learnt to be more responsible & a caring gal.

    Me & hubby felt tht we concerntrate on the first child as much as we can before we decide to have another one. Now with the big sister around, my boy even has much more love around him.

  5. ryan_mummy

    ryan_mummy Guest

    cactus! so fast #2.. hehe congrats hor...

    i m still procrastinating...

  6. sherline

    sherline Member

    Thanks all... Still can't decide if I shld try for #2. Reason being thinking of changing job now. Will see how it goes...

  7. hurtdeeply

    hurtdeeply New Member

    3 years plus liao.. now think of no. 2 i also worry leh.... scared need to go over the babies thing again... [IMG=http://www.singaporemotherhood.com/forumboard/clipart/sad.gif]

  8. denorlisa

    denorlisa New Member

    Sherline - good to start early, but changing job is a big factor since now 4 months maternity leave :p However, don't keep waiting ler.. else age affects fertility.

    Jazz - you got the itch, quick quick! Don't wait too long!!! Else really too tired :p Your wee one is lonely ah?

    Me gave birth last year May, and just only August hehe. The first 2 years will kill me, but we will survive...

  9. shoppyling

    shoppyling New Member

    My first child was born in 2006. I was 26 then.

    Was quite scared abt the pregnancy thingy and birth...

    Now my boy i 3 and I finally decided I wanted No. 2, it seems like so HARD TO CONCEIVE... sighs...

  10. hamteo

    hamteo Member

    Guess it's up to individual - I am planning to try for 2nd one soon as age catching up and my bb is only 7th mths old ...

  11. vvng81

    vvng81 Member

    me too..wanted to have another 1 real soon as the 1st already 18mths if not will be big age gap but think think financially will be very tight...some more new house coming soon ..haiz...really hard to make the decision...

  12. tty88

    tty88 New Member

    yes sometimes its the financial strain that makes us think 2,3,4,5,6,7,8,9 times about having a second baby...

  13. vvng81

    vvng81 Member

    ya, its me again...my son coming 2 yrs old but still think and think about the 2nd one lei.... everybody was asking, when when when to have a didi meimei for him. Haiz.... stress

  14. hugomum

    hugomum Active Member

    Mine will be EDD Sep, my #1 will be 22 months by then. A 2 yrs gap is perfect. I am also worry about financial strain, luckily most of the baby stuffs we already have, so just need to top up some.

  15. lovemum2be

    lovemum2be Member

    It's always my dream to have 2 kids ideally.. 1 boy n 1 girl. But after giving birth to my baby boy which is currently 7 months.. I m really having 2nd thoughts. Being a mummy is so tough... I even suffered abit of depression after giving birth n my son still wakes up in the nite...

    Mummies out there: when do u think life will start to become easier? According to my frens..life will only be 'worst' w children starting to run abt n the start of horrible 2. I m only afraid that I will regret my decision of wanting to have a no. 2

  16. star_wish

    star_wish New Member

    The role of parents does not have a end point...different kind of worry at different age


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