In laws problems are never ending. We just need to learn how to avoid them if possible and minimise interaction. I had a miscarriage last year and my in laws only came to visit me 2 weeks later, just a day before my bil’s wedding. Prior to that there was no calls, no msg. Nothing. When she came over to my house, she asked me if it is because i was too weak or i wasnt careful. That hurts me alot.
And then she went on and on abt my bil’s wedding the next day and still expecting me to show up early to help out etc. I was still spotting after the d&c. I felt that she behaved in this wAy cos my bil’s wedding was a shotgun. Hence she didnt care less abt my loss since she is gg to be a grandma soon anyway. She only brought me bottled bird nest which expiry is just 3 mths away. Prob grab and go from their house.
They were very insensitive towards me. No words of thanks for the help i rendered during the wedding. My bil even texted my hubbs after my mc to ask him if he got help to count baby’s name. They sent baby fair info to the family grp chats. When we dine out, my sil kept fussing over the stupid cheese that she cant eat. And they made comments when they see babies at the other tables saying how nx time they wont have peace. And my fil added that next year we have one more headcount in the family. All these happened after their wedding which is just 2 weeks after my mc.
I was super duper upset. And from then on i distant myself from them. Since they dont care about me why do i need to care abt them? I didnt visit my sil when she pops. I didnt turn up for the baby shower. I didnt do any cny visiting because the sight of her baby reminds me of how my in laws treated me. I know eventually i need to get over this. But for now i just want to heal myself.
So i feel that if u can distant yourself from your in laws. That might help?