Mel Ang
New Member
Hi all, need some advices, pls.
Sorry for the long story. Reason for me to file a divorce not only due to his affair, also we have not have any intimacy since I was pregnant till now. We have many big and small arguments as well, all these I can endure though no feelings for him anymore but the triggered reason is his affair.
In order not to affect my 13-year old girl, I proposed to go ahead with the divorce but still staying together till my child's older and sell the house. I dont want any of my family members to know now too cos they are very traditional.
Initially, he agreed with the divorce and T&Cs including transferring the flat ownership with only 25% of the original house value back to him.
Unfortunately, I don't have any valid reason to file for divorce (no proof for his affair) and my salary does not allow me to take up sufficient loan to pay off the balance house loan plus the 25% to him.
Hence, i tot of going for informal separation for 3 years, still stay under same roof. I wrote up an agreement stated on what he has agreed earlier on and ask him to sign. But he suddenly changed his mind and said he doesnt want to sign anything. I was so angry that he went back his words.
I'm at a loss now. i can't divorce now and he doesnt want to sign the agreement. I don't know what i can do, I cried and pray everyday. This issue is draining me emotionally daily. Can someone advise me, please?
Sorry for the long story. Reason for me to file a divorce not only due to his affair, also we have not have any intimacy since I was pregnant till now. We have many big and small arguments as well, all these I can endure though no feelings for him anymore but the triggered reason is his affair.
In order not to affect my 13-year old girl, I proposed to go ahead with the divorce but still staying together till my child's older and sell the house. I dont want any of my family members to know now too cos they are very traditional.
Initially, he agreed with the divorce and T&Cs including transferring the flat ownership with only 25% of the original house value back to him.
Unfortunately, I don't have any valid reason to file for divorce (no proof for his affair) and my salary does not allow me to take up sufficient loan to pay off the balance house loan plus the 25% to him.
Hence, i tot of going for informal separation for 3 years, still stay under same roof. I wrote up an agreement stated on what he has agreed earlier on and ask him to sign. But he suddenly changed his mind and said he doesnt want to sign anything. I was so angry that he went back his words.
I'm at a loss now. i can't divorce now and he doesnt want to sign the agreement. I don't know what i can do, I cried and pray everyday. This issue is draining me emotionally daily. Can someone advise me, please?