Divorce & schizophrenia

[merrybee]

Hi mommies,

I really do not know where to ask, but I have been living with schizophrenia for a few years now. I am thinking of divorcing my husband, we just cannot get along, he totally doesn't understand my condition and if there's a problem, he's always saying see a doctor or go take medication. Any idea how the judge will award custody of my 7yr and 3yr children if we split? He might agree to the divorce but i think he will use my condition to try and get custody. Thank you.

 

[juzsharing]

Hi dear, have you tried counselling? Divorce is certainly not something to be taken lightly especially when you have two kids. It will not be good to out them through this type of crisis. Manage it with help from family members and your doctor. It is truly not an ordinary task to live with a schizophrenic partner.

 

[Linwong]

I also thinking of getting a divorce ask him do a thing will show a twenty five cent charcoal face. Is it really too much to ask him to do a thing? I also getting real tired of this marriage really regretted knowing him in the first place and bring suffering to my girl. Cant talk or communicate to this kind of person. I see other husband why can talk to a wife in a friendly and loving manner but for me is a different thing. Feel like he is treating me like a dog.

 

[jo_tadd]

Like you, I have depression and OCD as well as anxiety and has been on medication for a few years before I met my ex-husband. I stopped the medication after getting married as I was concerned that I might get pregnant and it could harm my baby.

My lawyer told me even though I have these problems, so long as I have proof that I have "recovered" as I have stopped seeing my psychiatrist and stopped medication, my ex-husband could not use this to contest child custody with me. On the other hand, as I caught him having sex with men, that was to my advantage so he did not contest with me.

My advice is, continue the medication if you need but hide it from your husband if the last resort to divorce him is definite. Endure with him for a few more years or at least a year or two so that even if he contest child custody.

 

[gladjo]

Hi Juzsharing.. It's really not easy living with schizophrenic partner, drains you totally but there 2 options besides divorce, 1) continue psychiatric treatment n medication 2)prayer ..though many ppl dun believe, it's one safe n sound way n one of my friend did overcome ...but whatever, divorce is worst case scenario n remember your kid will be affect if you decide divorce.. Feel free to pm me.. God bless

Linwong, the spark had left you n hubby n you need to think if divorce is what you want? ...or find a way to rekinkle the spark...whatever decision you make, your gal is n will be affected ... God bless