insecure_me
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Hi everyone.
After divorced for more than a year, I thought I finally found someone I can spend my life with.
At first I thought it was great to date a widower as he loves her. There will be moments when he will feel down and I told myself to always be understanding even though it affects the mood when we are together.
He still refer to her as "my wife". I didn't want to accept him initially as I felt that he was not emotionally ready since his late wife passed away less than a year. But he moved my heart and I finally accepted him.
However as times goes by, I can feel that he hasn't moved on. And everytime I feel insecure and question if he loves me, he will invalidate my feelings and said he is very tired of explaining. Is it wrong to ask if he loves me?
What is the right amount to accept when he is down and misses his wife?
My marriage ended due to a cheating spouse so obviously I have insecurity issues. Why is it that he is allowed to have downtime and I can't? I have to be that strong cheerful person.
I keep having thoughts now to let him go before I get too emotionally invested. But I don't know if I can find another person like him. What should I do? I keep thinking if he can't even handle emotions, then how to handle our kids?
After divorced for more than a year, I thought I finally found someone I can spend my life with.
At first I thought it was great to date a widower as he loves her. There will be moments when he will feel down and I told myself to always be understanding even though it affects the mood when we are together.
He still refer to her as "my wife". I didn't want to accept him initially as I felt that he was not emotionally ready since his late wife passed away less than a year. But he moved my heart and I finally accepted him.
However as times goes by, I can feel that he hasn't moved on. And everytime I feel insecure and question if he loves me, he will invalidate my feelings and said he is very tired of explaining. Is it wrong to ask if he loves me?
What is the right amount to accept when he is down and misses his wife?
My marriage ended due to a cheating spouse so obviously I have insecurity issues. Why is it that he is allowed to have downtime and I can't? I have to be that strong cheerful person.
I keep having thoughts now to let him go before I get too emotionally invested. But I don't know if I can find another person like him. What should I do? I keep thinking if he can't even handle emotions, then how to handle our kids?